Will a real gentleman please stand up? Hello? Is anyone there?

So, if there are sex ed classes starting as early as 7th grade why don’t, along with these classes, the school boards add a “How to be a gentleman” class?  I mean, can you imagine if there was such a class starting in 7th grade all the way up until 12th???  If parents are too busy to monitor what their children watch/listen to, somebody’s gotta teach these boys how to treat others, but especially women with honor and respect.

Think about it:  the media is teaching guys how to treat women.  Lil Wayne’s teaching young men how to basically rape women and according to Time Magazine he’s, “The best rapper alive.”  I’m really ticked off right now when you think of what this magazine is saying.  A guy who talks about demanding women to “bust open like they’re sposed to,” and more disgusting things I don’t even want to repeat in this blog is the best?  What about Lecrae?  A young rapper who tells men, that God “Taught us that real leaders follow God, Finish the work ’cause we on our job Taught us not to rob But give life love a wife like He loved the Church, Not seeing how many hearts we can break first,” and tells young women, “Mami show respect for your body Instead of getting naked and naughty Like sex is a hobby You know what you’re supposed to do Let him loose and cling to the God that wants to get close to you.”

I honestly feel somewhat bad for young men because they’re being bombarded with lies like, “Treat a girl like a dog because she isn’t worth as much as you are and it’s what all grown men are doing who got money and fame,” constantly.  The influence of the media is astounding.  Then most of their guy friends are being fed the same things so they’re not great influences either.

What were to happen if young men began to stand up and say, “No, I’d rather follow God than Lil Wayne?”  Can you imagine that?  How many of you ladies, even if you’re not sure if you believe in God, would want a guy that follows the media or a guy who follows God?  If you were honest, you’d want option B.

Here’s the wonderful thing:  there are more guys out there rebelling against the media and following God than you think.  But princesses, you’re not going to run into him at a club, a bar, a party or what have you.  He’s too busy honoring the God he serves than to get entangled into those things.  These guys are the dream guys, these guys are the real princess, the gentlemen.  Now, there are guys out there who don’t necessarily believe in God, yet you’d say they are gentleman and treat you right.  Well, I would argue that unconsciously, they’re following God because morals are written in their hearts and they are stronger minded and can discern that some of the crap out there in movies and on the radio isn’t right.  I commend them.  BUT, if the guy you’re with happens to be a “good guy” according to your standards, let me ask you one thing:  is he having sex with you?

“Oh, Natasha, don’t get all old school on us again like you always do,” well, I have to.  I would be lying to you if I said, “Oh yeah, that’s fine.  He’s a great guy for having sex with you and not other girls.”  It just isn’t so.  If there are guys who are willing NOT to have sex with you because they want to honor and respect you, that’s a great guy!  But unfortunately, most men aren’t taught that way.  It’s only a true man of God that holds such convictions as, “Respect a girl until you’re man enough to walk her down an aisle.”  And really, princess, would you want anything less?  If you had a choice to either have a guy who would wait for you or a guy who would not, what would you choose?

Maybe you think there’s nothing wrong with pre-marital sex so you don’t care if a guy would wait or not, but I ask you to check out my page, “premarital sex is damaging to the brain?” and to really contemplate the cons to premarital sex because there’s plenty.

So to wrap it up, bad news:  most of the crap you here on power 96 sucks and is enlisting guys to be rapists

Good news:  there actually are gentlemen out there who would honor, respect and cherish you like the princess you are.  How to snag one of them:  get to know and love God to the point where finding a prince doesn’t matter as much to you as God does and then He’ll work out the rest.

 

With passion and loving concern for all you precious princesses,

Natasha

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4 thoughts on “Will a real gentleman please stand up? Hello? Is anyone there?

  1. I definitely think schools and society in general wouldn’t amiss with ethics and manners classes. When people hear those words they tend to brush them off like they mean nothing or are boring but having good manners and when it comes down it, having some class, dignity and most importantly morals, can go a long way.

    I think the term ‘gentleman’ is a good example of the contradiction in society though, as gentlemen of days gone by weren’t what the nice idea of gentlemen should be; they were generally well dressed, with a fair bit of income, tosspots who took advantage of the lower class women especially their household staff, spent more money than they had, drank and caroused all the time. They were generally shallow and self involved, people haven’t changed much, but since they belonged to a gentlemen’s club and knew the right people and went to the right places they were ‘gentlemen’ and would hold on to that with their kith and kin. Just like all those chivalrous knights were promiscuous, vain, machismo idiots who saw women as trophies and heir producers. Women have been seen as assets/property for a very long time and prepubescent boys in certain societies are seen similarly to an extent. I also think many women aren’t women anymore, but men dressed as women – I’m not saying that men and women act or should act differently or are fundamentally different personality wise, I mean that in our ideas of ‘masculine’ and ‘feminine’, there aren’t many ladies anymore. Not that that means it’s ok to treat them or anybody like shite.

    I think restraint and self control have largely been thrown out of the window in modern society especially with the media glamoursing everything that is hedonistic and nihilistic as fun and sexy. Acting before stopping and thinking, let alone thinking about the long term effects. Also the promotion of the ‘individual’ and forgetting that we live as a part of society and everything we do has an effect on each other whether we see it or not. Self and instant gratification seem are the goals, it’s not new but it is very obvious now. I truly think that you’re right about having such classes – but again, the situation we’ve got in schools is tenuous, we already went from over strict teachers who were (and still are in many places) allowed to bet and hold back students to timid teachers worried about offending anybody and scared of the students. Behavioural classes might be seen as as too invasive, but it’s better than boot camp eh where they’d still be taught how to be subservient and yet bullies to others and it’s definitely better as a prevention rather than waiting for people to become monsters and then try to treat them.

    1. Yes, very true. I think one of the most effective weapons in battling this issue is women themselves who decide to put their foot down and set standards for themselves. Too many of us are settling for, quite frankly, losers. We need women who are respecting themselves to encourage those who aren’t and I believe with that, even though the movement will not be world-changing in a global sense, it will be in a large sense. Heck, if I can be used to affect one woman’s life in that area, that’s a success to me. And then maybe, just maybe, she will in turn affect another lady and that lady would affect another and so on. I write this blog to change *a* life and if I do, these blogs are more than worth it.

      1. Very good point, the expectation of what it takes to be a ‘good’ or ‘attractive’ man is lower than it is for women and many more men regard themselves as attractive in comparison to women for whom it takes a lot more to be that confident. That, loneliness and the desire to copy/fit in to what we see in society has caused many women to settle. Solitude isn’t really appreciated.

        I also think people in general aren’t content with what they’ve got and many people desire what they don’t have, which will always cause unhappiness in a relationship.

  2. Very true. The worst is if you marry someone and then believe they weren’t the person you were supposed to marry. I am a Christian woman and I must thank God for placing my husband in my path. I am joyful in my relationship and have security knowing that he is the one God wanted me to be with. When a person realizes their own flaws instead of always pointing out those of their partner (or others in general), they’re humbled and it helps in the, “I wish they were like this or that” department. No one is perfect. My husband does things that annoy me, but I know I do things that annoy him to. I had a real epiphany one day when I truly considered my own flaws that he has to deal with and was like, “Wow, I actually think he’s got it worse than I do!” After this, it wasn’t so much a, “God change him,” although I do pray he continues to grow and become all he can be, my prayers are, “God change me.” Unfortunately, not many people reflect on their flaws, but hopefully the ripple effect will occur on this matter as well e.g. “So friend, I was self-reflecting and man, I got some bad habits. You should try it sometime.” That can help people that struggle with discontenment, but again, knowing Jesus personally, I believe many people want more because something is missing and until that something is filled, they will be restless. “Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls.”-Jesus. I believe that void is God.

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