A guy flashes some big bills, rocks a car that costs the same amount as an apartment, only dines at expensive restaurants, dresses in Armani Exchange; is this enough to buy your affection? Is he kind? Not really. Is he caring? Not much. Does he treat you with respect? Not necessarily. If this is you, honey, I’m preachin’ to you!
There was a woman who came into the restaurant where I used to work as a greeter, and she was with this Scrooge-faced man who, when she tried to put her arm around him, shoved her off for who knows what reason. She just smiled and tried to play off his rude reaction. She then gave his arm a hug before quickly letting go and peering at her menu. It was sad, and I really felt bad for her. She was a beautiful woman and seemed very sweet, and this guy was all on his smart phone half the time, not really engaging her. She appeared to be more of an accessory than a girl he admired.
“But Natasha, you’ve only seen them together once.” Either way, I know of girls who are with guys that treat them indifferently and the girl is all hung up on the dude. Why be with someone who doesn’t treat you with love and appreciation? Why must you settle for a guy who doesn’t know how to love a woman, or is too self-centered to consider the idea?
“How precious is Your steadfast love, O God! The children of men take refuge and put their trust under the shadow of Your wings,” (Psalms 36:7).
“But God shows and clearly proves His love for us by the fact that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us,” (Romans 5:8).
“But God, being [so very] rich in mercy, because of His great and wonderful love with which He loved us, even when we were [spiritually] dead and separated from Him because of our sins, He made us [spiritually] alive together with Christ (for by His grace—His undeserved favor and mercy—you have been saved from God’s judgment),” (Ephesians 2:4-5 AMP).
This is the way God loves you and this is the way He calls for you to be loved:
“And walk in love, [esteeming and delighting in one another] as Christ loved us and gave Himself up for us,” (Ephesians 5:2)
“Love one another with brotherly affection [as members of one family], giving precedence and showing honor to one another,” (Romans 12:10)
“Love does no wrong to one’s neighbor [it never hurts anybody]. Therefore love meets all the requirements and is the fulfilling of the Law,” (Romans 13:10)
Here’s the clincher:
“Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily. It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong],” (1 Corinthians 13:4-5 AMP)
If you’re with someone who does not love you as previously described, you need to get with it and get OUT! I’m not saying there’s a perfect man out there (again, no one is perfect), but I am saying there’s a man out there who will try his best to love you the way God calls him to. But before you can get that kind of prince, you have to give your heart to the only King who will never reject it or abuse it.
Don’t waste another day of pain and sad hopes for something more. God is more, and He’s waiting to give you everything you need…