Respect and women. The two words look strange together don’t they? Almost contradictory in the societies we live in today. But my, how desperately they need to mesh.
Too many women, young and old alike, are embracing disrespect from men. Yeah, you read correctly: too many women are embracing disrespect. Men cuss around us, talk to us like we’re pirates or something, objectify us: “Dang, girl, you got enough booty to satisfy Alexander the Great.”
And here we are, eating it up, accepting it. Why? Because it temporarily numbs (not satisfies), our desire for attention, affection, and adoration. We as women want to feel pretty, want to feel wanted, desired. What we don’t know is that our deepest longing, love, cannot and will not be satisfied by men making us objects and using us. So, who can quench this insatiable thirst for love and attention?
Precious lady, may I introduce you to a man you have yet to know, a man who calls you his, “prized possession.” A man who says you’re, “fearfully and wonderfully made.” A man who pleads, “I have loved you with an everlasting love.” And a man who gave His very life to be with you forever. This man happens to be more than a man, and His name is Jesus, the Christ. The Mighty Counselor, the Prince of Peace, the King of Kings, the Lord of Lords, and my personal favorite, Father.
He is the only man who knows the way you are supposed to be loved, the way you were intended to be loved. Here’s His advice to the fellas:
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church,” (Ephesians 5:25-30)
“Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them,” (Colossians 3:19)
Notice how all the advice is directed to husbands. Ladies, if the man you’re with ain’t willin’ to make them vows, ditch him! But let me say that terribly true saying, “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” If you’re living with a guy, allowing him to have access to your body, why would he want to marry you? He’s already getting all he “needs.” I dare you to put your foot down and set standards. Here’s a few must-haves in God’s book:
Number 1: If a man seeks to pursue My daughter, He must love Me and obey My commands and love her like he loves himself.
Number 2: He must respect her body until He vows before Me to cherish her ‘till death and make His word bond by legalizing it.
That’s really about it. If a man has these qualities, he’s a man worth spending time on. However, you may not consider yourself God’s daughter yet. You very well may fall short of rule number 1 in that you have not pursued God and can say you truly love Him and obey Him. If that’s the case, here’s some good news: anyone who calls on the name of the Lord Jesus shall be saved, and to as many as received Christ, to them the Father gave the right to be called children of God. If you ask, right now, where you’re sitting, for Jesus to come into your life and lead you, He will do so and you will immediately become God’s daughter and be “sealed with the Holy Spirit,” (literally God’s Spirit that no longer dwells on the outside, but on the inside, in your heart, to help you live the way He’s called you to).
In Christ, “old things have passed away, all things have become new.” God forgives you and cleanses you. He not only takes away your sins when you receive His amazing Son, but He forgets them! How many men can do that, unless of course Jesus lives in them. But this is God’s signature: grace. He wants you to stop accepting abuse and disrespect because He loves you and has such better plans for you.
“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God,” (Romans 12:2)
May you be filled with the knowledge of God’s unconditional love for you, a love that never gives up and never fails you.