This blog is for the sole purpose of encouraging women to discover their worth, their incalculable value, and how to walk in light of that fact. I linger a lot on the issue of sex before marriage because that is the biggest thing besides your heart that a girl can give a man. It is the act of ultimate surrender and true vulnerability. Once you’ve given a guy your body, you’ve opened him up to have control of you. Sex is the most intimate physical act one can engage in. It stirs up the strongest sensations, and the most emotional attachment. Once you do it, you’ve crossed not only into a world of temporary pleasure, but into a line of pain, confusion, disappointment, and heartbreak. Sex before marriage is unbelievably unsafe. STI’s are at a ground-breaking record, along with unplanned pregnancies which in millions of cases, end in abortions. But it’s not just the physical consequences that make sex before marriage so dangerous, but the emotional damage is unbearable for many.
A guy I interviewed yesterday said once you have sex, it becomes addicting, worse than a drug. It begins to consume your thoughts. Now some of us ladies don’t think about sex as much as guys do, but we very well can, especially if we’re in a serious relationship. My goodness, I BEG you not to have sex unless the man has legitimately made you his wife. Save yourself from the pain and heartache! I promise you it isn’t worth it, and neither is the guy who is receiving it! Whether you and him realize it or not, he is disrespecting and dishonoring you, and you are disrespecting and dishonoring him. He does not belong to you, and you do not belong to him. Only when you’ve become husband and wife do you officially belong to one another (and it is an equal belonging. If it isn’t, then it ain’t biblical). Allow the man who cherishes you enough to respect your body and love your heart first, get the dibs after marriage. Every guy before him does not have the right.
A lot of people think it’s okay if you’re only having sex with one person and you guys, ‘care about each other.’ We think sins like murder, rape, and adultery are much more condemnable in the sight of God. But God places sexual immorality (i.e. sex before marriage, homosexuality, bestiality, incest), on the same level:
But the cowardly, unbelieving, abominable, murderers, sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars shall have their part in the lake which burns with fire and brimstone, which is the second death. Revelation 21:8
So not only is it good to wait till marriage so you can avoid the physical and emotional consequences of it, but so you can also avoid being immoral in God’s eyes. He wants you to be pure. He didn’t send His Son to die for you just so you can go to heaven yet continue living your way, He died so you can know Him personally, and follow His path for your life, which the Bible says is good, pleasing, and perfect! He knows best ladies, trust me. There is no better match-maker than God. He literally molded and fashioned a man for you out there that complements you perfectly. Are you really going to decide for yourself who you’re going to spend the rest of your life with? I would imagine one of the worst feelings to have in this life is the feeling that you may have married the wrong person. Do you know how amazing it is to know you married the right person? The person God wanted you to marry from the very beginning, from before either of you were even born! Not to mention it’s so much more romantic when you finally meet. God writes the best love stories, I’m telling you. If you heard some of the ones I have you’d never choose a guy for yourself again. Seriously.
Well, this is why I do what I do. I write for God because I love Him, and I write for you because I love you. Just do me and Him the favor of taking the advice. It’ll save you in every way imaginable. Until the next post, know your worth.