So many of us fall in love with the wrong person. We get into a relationship with someone (usually someone we’re very attracted to), and in a month or so, we’re in love with them. Then three to six months down the road, we break up and we’re heart-broken. Then we meet another person we’re very attracted to and share common interests with. A few months (maybe a year, or years even), things fall apart with them as well. And the merciless cycle continues.
Here’s my expert advice: DON’T FALL IN LOVE UNTIL YOU ARE CERTAIN IT’S THE PERSON GOD WANTS YOU TO MARRY.
Why, ladies and gentlemen, would you give your heart to someone if you weren’t 100% sure they were the one God appointed for you to marry? Why? There is no logical reason.
I’ve personally done this time and again, and have had four major heart breaks, two of which were by the same guy. That’ll give you nice baggage and a bunch load of unnecessary memories to bring into the relationship God actually wants you to be in. And if you have yet to give your life to God, you’re gonna have wounds and scars that take years to mend, if they ever even mend completely. (Trust me, save yourself years of recovery by giving your life to Jesus. He healed my beat up heart in six days!)
Trust me, waiting isn’t more painful than not waiting and getting your heart-broken multiple times over. Heck, one heart-break is damaging enough, let alone several.
If you’re having anxiety over waiting, the root problem’s a simple one: You have trust issues with God.
You don’t really trust that He’s gonna bring that person to you. So you decide to take matters into your own hands, and get bruised and broken in the process.
So, what you need to do is first pray. Confess this lack of trust and ask God to help you learn to trust Him. Ask Him to help you understand and grasp His insurmountable love for you. Then, get to know Him. I have found that trust-struggles regarding God are almost always a direct link to the person not really knowing who He is.
I will betroth you to Me forever;
Yes, I will betroth you to Me
In righteousness and justice,
In lovingkindness and mercy;
I will betroth you to Me in faithfulness,
And you shall know the Lord. -Hosea 2:19-20
God is righteous, He is good, He is just, He is kind and loving, merciful, and faithful. The more you read His infallible Word (Yes, the Bible, if you doubt it’s His Word, do your research on how authentic it is Dead Sea Scrolls, the Green Collection, how there’s 2500 prophecies in it and 2000 of them have already been fulfilled to the letter-no errors), the more you read this amazing book He inspired, the stronger your trust in Him will become, and you will sleep sweetly, knowing He’s got you on every front.
Wait for that person. Know your worth.