How To End Hellish Relationships

Speaking with a friend earlier today made me realize that Satan just loooovvvveesss attacking relationships. If he can mess you up in that area, he can destroy your very life.

Consider: When you got stats like these ( of women who are baby mamas with no men committing their life to them it’s no wonder broken relationships are destructive. On their own, most of these women struggle financially and then governments kickin’ out tax-payer dollars and the economy worsens (I love baby mamas, I love everyone, but let’s be honest, most can’t survive on their own, or if they do, their babies are surviving with a mom they barely see which causes more broken relationships).

Can a business thrive if the relationship between owners is screwed up? No. Hence people get “let go of” all the time.

Can marriages succeed if the relationship between the husband and wife isn’t functioning the way it should? The answer is clearly no.

We humans got a major problem: apart from God, we don’t know how to do relationships. Many of us ladies consume romantic comedies like chocolate when it’s that time of month and try to imitate them. This fails utterly. Instead of happily ever after with the hot guy, the hot guy’s left us pregnant and broke, or emotionally damaged. Whatever the situation, we’re abandoned and heart-broken (gentlemen, I know sometimes it’s the other way around).

There’s a war going on for your life. Jesus vs Satan. Jesus is all about restoring relationships: First your relationship with God the Father, then with your fellow man.

“The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.” -John 10:10

Jesus answered and said to him, “If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our home with him.” -John 14:23

At that day you will know that I am in My Father, and you in Me, and I in you. He who has My commandments and keeps them, it is he who loves Me. And he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and manifest Myself to him.”-John 14:20-21

I don’t know how many times Jesus talked about His relationship with His Father and with us, but it was a lot! He’s obsessed with relationships. That’s why we humans who are made in His image are obsessed with relationships! But in order to do them right, the most important relationship we will ever have has to be made right: our relationship with our Creator, our Father God. God’s made the way for reconciliation: His Son Jesus Christ. Once we accept His perfect Gift, our relationship with Him is restored and now we are at a place where we can do relationship with our fellow man rightly.

Right relationships look like this: They build up rather than tear down, they serve not steal, they respect instead of dishonor, they appreciate rather than disregard, they unite not divide, they cherish and don’t degrade, they love and don’t hate.

Wrong relationships are obviously the opposite of right ones, and there’s plenty of those out there (we need not mention divorce statistics). And I can say with 100% confidence God is not the center of these failed relationships. The pastor that mentored me and Sir Jonathan during our engagement displayed this concept beautifully. He drew a triangle out for Jonathan  in one of their one-on-ones and this is what it looked like:


Notice how when the husband and wife both pursue God, they let nothing get in their way, their relationship with Him is right, and they naturally come together. When they’re not pursuing God, they’re separate, apart, not one, not on the same page, and most certainly doing their relationship wrong. I read and know of horror stories of newly-weds and I can honestly say me and Sir Jonathan’s marriage just keeps getting better and better. Why? Because we both keep pursuing God. He’s the center and that’s where we meet, in Him who is love, patience, kindness, forgiveness, goodness. I’m not saying we’re perfect, we’re both still sinners, but we practice unconditional forgiveness, love, and respect, things we wouldn’t otherwise practice if God were not first in our lives and the center of our relationship.

See, when two hearts not only love Jesus, but submit to His Father’s will, they naturally submit to one another in the same way. Let’s face it, in marriage–in fact in any relationship–there will be times where you’re faced with a decision: submit to the other person’s will or follow your own. When you practice what Jesus taught and submit to one another, your fights go out the window. After all, doesn’t fighting come from you wanting your way and wanting the other person to submit to it? So if they do, you stop fighting them. Now imagine both of you submitting to one another. Both end up happy because both want to please the other just as Christ lived to please His Father.

So get your relationship with God on track, and all your other relationships will fall into place. That’s a promise.

Until next time, Know Your Worth.


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