“Do not be conformed to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind so that you may discern what is the good, pleasing, and perfect will of God.” -Romans 12:2
In other words …
You don’t have to dress provocatively and get lustful attention from men.
You don’t have to move in with a guy and have sex with him before marriage.
You don’t have to get married just to divorce and then remarry again and continue the viscous cycle.
There’s a best way to go about life and relationships: God’s way.
Instead of dressing provocatively and drawing in men that just want to have sex with you. Dress modestly and draw in guys that think you’re pretty and would like to get to know you better for you.
“Women are to dress themselves in modest clothing, with decency and good sense; not with elaborate hairstyles, gold, pearls, or expensive apparel, but with good works, as is proper for women who affirm that they worship God.” -1 Timothy 2:9-10
Don’t believe the hype: being overtly sexy isn’t liberating, it’s enslaving. You will always be enslaved to pleasing a man’s lustful appetite and competing with every other girl who puts herself on display. And if your main tool in drawing in men is your looks, as time works with gravity, and your beauty starts to fade, you’re gonna encounter some serious issues.
Instead of moving in with your boyfriend and giving him your body, wait for the man God brings you; who will respect and honor you and God by waiting for you until marriage.
Don’t believe the lie that men in our day and age just don’t wait till marriage anymore, because I know plenty of men who have–one of them being my husband.
Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body. -1 Corinthians 6:18-20
Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. -1 Corinthians 7:1-4
Notice it doesn’t say, “For the girlfriend does not have authority over her own body, but the boyfriend does.” The HUSBAND has authority over your body. Get it together ladies!
If you’re having marital problems you don’t have to divorce like this world advises you to do.
The Lord was witness between you and the wife of your youth, to whom you have been faithless, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant. Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking? Godly offspring. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and let none of you be faithless to the wife of your youth. “For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her, says the Lord, the God of Israel, covers his garment with violence, says the Lord of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless.” -Malachi 2:14-16
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 Forthe husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. -Ephesians 5:22-32
Notice a trend? It’s a command to love one another, not an option.
I know of couples who were already divorced–some thirteen years!–and God brought them back together! Check out this amazing testimony.
So enough conforming! Not only are we breaking God’s heart when we justify sinning, but we place ourselves in an unsafe place spiritually.
For if we go on sinning deliberately after receiving the knowledge of the truth, there no longer remains a sacrifice for sins, but a fearful expectation of judgment, and a fury of fire that will consume the adversaries. Anyone who has set aside the law of Moses dies without mercy on the evidence of two or three witnesses. How much worse punishment, do you think, will be deserved by the one who has trampled underfoot the Son of God, and has profaned the blood of the covenant by which he was sanctified, and has outraged the Spirit of grace? For we know him who said, “Vengeance is mine; I will repay.” And again, “The Lord will judge his people.” It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God. -Hebrews 10:26-31
Know your worth,