I know of eleven sisters who have fallen into sexual sin over the past five years in my walk, and I was one of them. Before me and Jonathan got married, we too stumbled sexually. I praise God we finally overcame it, but it is a serious epidemic in our Church and we cannot, I repeat, we absolutely cannot take it lightly.
Finally, then, brothers, we ask and urge you in the Lord Jesus, that as you received from us how you ought to walk and to please God, just as you are doing, that you do so more and more. For you know what instructions we gave you through the Lord Jesus. For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one transgress and wrong his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you beforehand and solemnly warned you. For God has not called us for impurity, but in holiness. Therefore whoever disregards this, disregards not man but God, who gives his Holy Spirit to you. (1 Thessalonians 4:1-8)
God is an Avenger of sin–especially sexual sin.
For I want you to know, brothers, that our fathers were all under the cloud, and all passed through the sea, and all were baptized into Moses in the cloud and in the sea, and all ate the same spiritual food, and all drank the same spiritual drink. For they drank from the spiritual Rock that followed them, and the Rock was Christ. Nevertheless, with most of them God was not pleased, for they were overthrown in the wilderness. Now these things took place as examples for us, that we might not desire evil as they did. Do not be idolaters as some of them were; as it is written, “The people sat down to eat and drink and rose up to play.” We must not indulge in sexual immorality as some of them did, and twenty-three thousand fell in a single day. (1 Corinthians 10:1-8)
God hates sin. He completely despises it. It is so wicked and despicable to Him, that literally, the only thing that was able to appease His wrath and allow Him to accept us as children was the very blood-shed of His perfect Son. In His opinion, nothing at all was able to cleanse us from the stains of our sin except the absolute opposite of it–pure and holy perfection. Now, He so cannot stand it, that although the blood of His precious Son and our beautiful Savior washes us white as snow, He still hates it and greatly desires, commands, and expects that after all He’s given us–the life of His very Son, heaven, eternal peace, joy, guidance, and companionship with Himself while on this earth and for eternity, plus gifts and His Church–that we would not continue sinning.
Everyone who makes a practice of sinning also practices lawlessness; sin is lawlessness. You know that he appeared to take away sins, and in him there is no sin. No one who abides in him keeps on sinning; no one who keeps on sinning has either seen him or known him. Little children, let no one deceive you. Whoever practices righteousness is righteous, as he is righteous. Whoever makes a practice of sinning is of the devil, for the devil has been sinning from the beginning. The reason the Son of God appeared was to destroy the works of the devil. (1 John 3:4-8)
Prince and princesses, the World is VERY aggressive in tempting you to indulge in sexual sin. Whether you go to the mall, or the grocery store, or watch tv or use the Internet, or just drive down a highway, they have posters, magazines, commercials, tv shows, movies, billboards, and stores all dedicated to encouraging you to sin sexually. So we need to be just as aggressive if we plan on not taking the bait. Before I give you simple but extremely powerful tips on how to guard yourself, consider these verses:
Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. (I Peter 5:8)
I wrote to you in my letter not to associate with sexually immoral people— not at all meaning the sexually immoral of this world, or the greedy and swindlers, or idolaters, since then you would need to go out of the world. But now I am writing to you not to associate with anyone who bears the name of brother if he is guilty of sexual immorality or greed, or is an idolater, reviler, drunkard, or swindler—not even to eat with such a one. For what have I to do with judging outsiders? Is it not those inside the church whom you are to judge? God judges those outside. “Purge the evil person from among you.” (1 Corinthians 5:9-13)
If you have not repented of sexual sin, Paul the Apostle literally says you should be cast out of your Church.
…you are to deliver this man to Satan for the destruction of the flesh, so that his spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord. (1 Corinthians 5:5)
So, if you don’t want to experience God’s wrath, here’s four A’s to prevent you from falling into sexual sin:
Accept that apart from God, you’re heart is completely wicked.
“The heart is deceitful above all things, And desperately wicked; Who can know it? (Jeremiah 17:9)
And Jesus said, “What comes out of a person is what defiles him. For from within, out of the heart of man, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, coveting, wickedness, deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride, foolishness. All these evil things come from within, and they defile a person.” (Mark 7:20-23)
Knowing that apart from Christ you’re completely prone to doing evil, abide in Jesus. To abide means to stay, continue, dwell, endure, be present, remain, stand, tarry.
Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in Me. I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing. (John 15:4-5)
If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, you will ask what you desire, and it shall be done for you. (John 15:7)
If you keep My commandments, you will abide in My love, just as I have kept My Father’s commandments and abide in His love. (John 15:10 NKJV)
If anyone does not abide in Me, he is cast out as a branch and is withered; and they gather them and throw them into the fire, and they are burned. (John 15:6)
So what’s Jesus’ advice? Stay in My Word and obey it. If you do these things you will abide in God’s love, rather than His wrath.
How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your word. (Psalms 119:9 ESV)
Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. (I Corinthians 6:18)
Run from anything that stimulates youthful lusts. Instead, pursue righteous living, faithfulness, love, and peace. Enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts. (2 Timothy 2:22 NLT)
No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it. (1 Corinthians 10:13 ESV)
Don’t put yourself in foolish situations. Never be alone with the opposite sex unless you’re out in public (and have driven separate cars to meet).
Don’t be around a brother or sister who causes you to lust. Simply avoid them when you know they’re around. Now if they’re purposefully causing you to lust, e.g. with the way they dress or they’re flirtatious, tell a pastor or Church leader. (Yup, it is more than ok to tattle-tail on a sheep-strayer. Remember 1 Corinthians 5:5.)
This is what really helped me and Jonathan overcome. We no longer hung out alone (yes, if you’re downstairs watching tv and your parents are upstairs, you’re alone), and met with a pastor monthly to tell him how things were going and we took his advice.
Without counsel, plans go awry, But in the multitude of counselors they are established. (Proverbs 15:22)
Where there is no counsel, the people fall; But in the multitude of counselors there is safety. (Proverbs 11:14)
Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results. (James 5:16 NLT)
If you hold fast to these principles, I promise you, you will never fall into sexual sin. Until next time,
Know Your Worth,