I am mind-blown right now at all the revelation I received while deliberating God’s will for women with my lovely-spirited sister, Natalia.
“Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.” (Titus 2:3-5)
So I would have younger widows marry, bear children, manage their households, and give the adversary no occasion for slander. (1 Timothy 5:14)
Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve; and Adam was not deceived, but the woman was deceived and became a transgressor. Yet she will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith and love and holiness, with self-control. (1 Timothy 2:11-15)
1.) I realized I’m selfish.
I’ve pursued career my whole marriage. I’ve wanted to write and get my books out there. Babies were on the back-burner. I had “kingdom business” to accomplish for God, and in my pursuits, I many times neglected my husband. Not only did I neglect him relationally, but I was depraved of wifely duties that my husband really needed me to do I.e cooking and cleaning. He lost a lot of weight and our apartment was almost always a terrible mess. Why? Because I was working out in the field and when I was home I was working on “God’s business.”
Not saying if you have a gift you can never do anything for The Lord with it. I am saying we need to prioritize accordingly. As much as we don’t like to admit it:
For man was not made from woman, but woman from man. Neither was man created for woman, but woman for man. (1 Corinthians 11:8, 9)
Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” (Genesis 2:18)
How have I been helping my husband accomplish the dreams God has for Him? Yes, I’ve been praying, but what else have I been doing? I’ll tell you what I’ve been doing:
Working my tush off to get my books published and read.
For the past three years of our marriage my husband has been sacrificing his dreams of being a film-maker so he can financially support my books. And how much fruit has been produced from those books?
I can prioritize and write and work on my books after I’ve number one, spent time with God, and number two, made sure our house is in order. When he leaves to work in the field I can work on my books.
2.) women chasing careers is quite a new phenomenon and a satanic distraction.
For how many if thousands of years did women stay at home, taking care of it, and building up their children, loving them and their husbands? The fruit of their “simple” lives was incredible. Look at all the great men of old that did astounding revivals for the Lord that quite frankly, ya just don’t see too much of nowadays.
Now I know it’s not completely up to the mother, the absentee fathers screw up a lot of things, but family is incredibly vital to the advancement of God’s will on earth.
What’s the first thing God commanded Adam and Eve to do? Be fruitful and multiply. What does Malachi 2 say God seeks? Godly offspring. That should be my main priority after my relationship with Christ: producing godly children for Him.
This is the revelation I received, and I plan on practicing what I’m preaching. Please do hold me accountable to this. Feel free to ask how I’m doing and give tips on how you (wives), take care of your home and children. Please also pray that we would have children soon.
I love you ladies.
What do you think about this revelation? Please do share your thoughts in a comment.