4 Questions to Consider Before You Seek a Spouse

Disclaimer: this post is geared toward non-married Christian women.

1.) Do you obey all of Christ’s commands?

What I mean is, do you love like He commands you to? (See 1 Corinthians 13:4-8)

Because if you don’t, why get married? You’re not going to love the right way, so you’ll only damage that person’s heart rather than bless it.

2.) If you do obey Christ, do you do so with pleasure, or begrudgingly?

If you can lovingly submit to the only Heavenly Man, the Alpha and Omega, the King of Kings, what makes you think you’ll submit to an earthly man?

3.) Do you have unresolved issues?

Do you have any deep wounds that have yet to be closed? Were you wronged by someone, but have yet to forgive them and receive healing from the hurt they caused? Do you lack trust because of people who have broken it in the past? You can’t get married if you haven’t let Christ fully heal your heart. Your poor future spouse will have to suffer for it. The baggage will get dumped on them and begin to crush your marriage.

It may be painful, but the healing process is necessary if you are going to have any healthy relationships in general.

4.) Do I have any soul-ties?

Do you still have “feelings” for an ex or past fling? Do you let your eyes linger on someone at church?

Those bonds need to be clipped before you can give your heart to another person. Otherwise you leave the back door open for Satan to creep in and cause doubt and potential adultery to seep into your life.

Pray those feelings away and delete all photos and all social media access to that person.

There’s probably other good questions to consider, but that’s all I got for now.

Much love,


Did I miss something? Feel free to share your thoughts in a comment.

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