Christian Girls & Make-up

Hey precious princesses. I want you all to know that I pray for you every day, and over every post I write, that God will use them in your life, to reveal more of His great love for you.

Today I saw a few covers from a Christian beauty magazine that I commend for featuring modest women with humble poses. But something I noticed was the amount of make-up the women wore, and an article title on one of the covers that said make-up “must-haves.”

This caused the Holy Spirit to stir within me, which led me to send them a message, and what I shared, I’d like to share with you.

I may be wrong, but I don’t think make-up in itself is evil. However, when we use it to disguise who we are, or we feel like we need it or otherwise we aren’t beautiful, it becomes an issue.

God’s Word says we are fearfully and wonderfully made, and there is no mentioning of make-up being necessary for true beauty anywhere in the Bible (in fact, the times make-up is mentioned, it’s always regarding prideful women). So make-up doesn’t make us beautiful, God does, as 1 Peter 3:3-4 states:

Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.

And as does Proverbs 31:30:

Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord will be praised.

The world we now live in is so dangerous for young minds. The world force-feeds us that we need lots of make-up, sexy clothing, and to be underweight in order to obtain beauty.

Some of these lies even convinced me for a long time. I started wearing make-up daily starting in sixth grade. First, it was just black eye-liner and lip-gloss. My best friends will tell you, I needed my eye-liner and shiny lips.

Then by eighth or ninth grade it became mascara, bronzer, lip-gloss, and concealer that I needed everyday, or else in my mind, I looked terrible.

I would wake up early and spend nearly an hour applying make-up. This continued until after I graduated. But on February 22nd, 2009, I gave my entire heart to Jesus, and He started transforming it. Now I ditched the bronzer and lip-gloss, and went down to only mascara and concealer. Soon, it was only concealer. Then it became concealer sometimes and chap-stick, though I’d often use a white shine for my the outline of my inner canthus because I liked how it looked, and now it’s just chap-stick and concealer sometimes.

You can note in my youtube videos I’m wearing mineral powder, concealer, eyeshadow, mascara, lip-color, and usually eye-liner. Why? Partly for the camera and lights, but another reason was because deep down I believed if I looked beautiful, you ladies would pay more attention to what I say. But I realize now, it’s not my beauty that is effective for Christ, it is His Word, His Holy Spirit who works mightily in and through me to reach out to you precious women. By His goodness, He has shown me I don’t need lots of make-up, and I pray you soon come to the same conclusion as you continue to allow our Heavenly Father to conform you into the image and likeness of His Son of whom the prophet Isaiah stated, “He didn’t have an impressive form or majesty that we should look at Him, no appearance that we should desire Him.”

We’re bombarded with the world’s lies of what beauty is every day, but our duty as Christians is to “not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of our mind.”

I pray in Jesus’ name you are transformed by reading His Word, and praying that He will teach you what true beauty is in His opinion so you can be set free from the chains of insecurity and walk in humble, yet bold confidence in your identity in Christ.

Before I end, I’d like to testify to the truth of Proverbs 31:30.

My husband rarely tells me I look pretty when I have a lot of make-up on. In fact, he’s expressed his dislike of it a few times before. But comically enough, when I’m not expecting any compliments, when my face is free of any make-up at all, my husband will look at me and say, “You’re pretty.” I usually smile and reply, “I look like a mess right now,” but by then he’s grabbing me and silencing my words with a kiss.

I thank Jesus for making my spirit beautiful and letting His light shine through me so others think my outside is “pretty” too.

If you’re a daughter of God through faith in Jesus Christ, and following Him, God thinks and says you’re beautiful, and He cannot lie.

Your sister and fellow princess in Christ,

Natasha

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9 thoughts on “Christian Girls & Make-up

  1. I always look forward to reading your blog and I sincerely appreciate your ministry. With that being said, I do have some issues with your latest post. PLEASE DON’T MAKE THINGS HARDER FOR YOUR SINGLE SISTERS! I’m 30 and single without a prospect. I wear makeup to make myself more attractive to men because they are visual and even the holiest of men will look pass a “plain Jane” because she’s well, plain. I’m so frustrated by all the advice that I feel contributes to the epidemic of single women. It’s so easy for you to say don’t wear makeup because you have a man that tells you that you’re beautiful everyday! Ask one of your single sisters when somebody told them they were beautiful last or when they felt like they like they were desireable. See, these are things that you take for granted everyday, yet you tell us to not wear makeup or make ourselves more attractive to the opposite sex. You have no idea the pain that rejection and loneliness brings. Too see women slur it up and still get married while remaining chaste repels all men that come your way. I don’t know how much more of this loneliness I can take…. It’s deafening…. It’s excruciating and despite my prayers I see nothing but a bleak future spent all alone with no husband or Children. What’s the point of all this if I have no hope?…… I guess God loves you more because He’s blessed you with so much.

    1. Dear LB Song,

      My question to you is this: do you know what kind of women that godly men (holiest of men) truly want? Have you spoken to these holiest of men? Ones that are single or married?

      After I’ve read your reply, I can’t help but only see hopelessness, loneliness, and despair. But you know what, you’re not alone. I can feel your pain. And I want to lovingly point out to you that this is not just “the epidemic of single women.”

      Single guys feel the same way. How do I know? I’m a guy in my 20s and never had a girlfriend. And please don’t say that: “Oh you have plenty of time!” I might die tomorrow in a car accident, heart attack, etc you name it. And if you think that: “No wonder you’ve never had a girlfriend because you’re a creep!” because I’m posting on a blog for ladies then I’m sorry, let me be a creep…I guess? But I’ll encourage you to continue to read this. I know you’re pretty tired of advice by now. So this is not simply another advice.

      When I said that single guys feel the same way, I really mean it. For girls’ standards/ideals/expectations, I get rejected because I’m a boring person, I’m short, skinny (like twigs/chopsticks), and not good-looking. Do you think that I have any hope that a girl would love me for who I am? Do you think that I should just pump up to meet a certain profile just for a girl to like me?

      You see this is not just a physical issue anymore. Neither a soul issue nor an epidemic. This is a spiritual battle. We’re living in an age where information are overwhelming our ability to absorb all of them (some say that we are in an age of “infobesity”). Please, I’m not saying that knowledge/information are bad. But Satan can certainly use these media (such as magazine, TV shows, movies, social media, and etc) to deceive us more effectively.

      We are being told by the lies that women have to look a certain shape, dress well, smell good, make yourself look attractive with make-up, not too short, not too tall, fun, outgoing, and the list goes. And for men? Well, they’ve got to have wealth, good-looks, look-at-them-guns, the 13 packs (don’t know where the odd one comes from), charismatic, charming, someone that can rock your world and so on. Again, not saying these qualities are bad. If God has blessed you with these qualities, praise God! Use them for His glory and not pride to build ones-self up.

      When you start letting these qualities to identify you as an individual, that’s the problem. Your true identity is only found in Christ. I’m not saying this to be cheesy. But because He is the one that truly knows you more than anyone else and He has a purpose for you.

      So to address the questions at the beginning; true, godly, faithful men drool over faithful and godly women. A real godly man wants a real godly woman to be stable and confident in the Lord. Who has healthy fear for the Lord. So when difficulties/trials come, he can trust that she (the helper) can support and encourage him. Not giving up on the marriage and leave him for some other men. Difficulties can be: financial problems, illness of a family member, parenting, in-laws, and even death of a child (like Levi Lusko’s daughter, Lenya).

      {Psst, on an extra note, I know more guys that like bare faces. When there’s intimacy within the marriage bed, a guy doesn’t want to kiss those powdery cheeks nor those red lips from crushed cochineal beetles…just saying.}

      Lastly, what I want to encourage you is this: God loves and accepts you just as much as He does for Natasha and everyone else. God’s word says “then Peter opened his mouth and said: ‘In truth I perceive that God shows no partiality. But in every nation whoever fears Him and works righteousness is accepted by Him.'” [Acts 10:34-35] God actually hates partiality/favoritism. It is considered as blasphemy against Him. [James 2:1-13]

      So please, don’t give up on the Lord and don’t stop praying and asking Him for wisdom. God says “…count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.” [James 1:2-4] And I would encourage you to read the rest of James chapter 1. This is not God being irrational and tells you that you have to say “yay” to trials. No one likes trials. But they shape you to be more like Christ. Helping you to be a great wife for your future husband.

      Here are some resources that you might want to check out:

      Something Every Girl Needs To Hear:

      The O2 Experience by Levi Lusko:

      David Platt’s Secret Church series (especially part 3):
      http://www.radical.net/media/schurch/series_list/?id=293

      In Christ,
      A dude

      1. Amen brother! Thanks so much for your encouragement. And sweet, LB, I’m not saying never wear any make-up, but when you use it to really hide your true self (make-up can transform a face), or think you need it, it’s an issue because that’s idolatry. In truth, we don’t need anyone but Christ. Physically, we only need food and water. I’m praying for you sister. Please keep pouring your heart out to Jesus and allow His love to be enough for you. If it’s not enough for you now, an imperfect earthly husband will certainly not be enough.

    2. Oh sister, I feel so bad I am just now seeing all of these comments I had! I am super late, I’m sure, but I want to respond to this. The bible says not to be conformed to the pattern of this world, but to be transformed by the renewing of our mind. The world believes the lie that finding a significant other is about being happy, about having what you think will make you happy. It’s this selfish mindset of wanting to feel and be desired and have someone make you feel desirable. But being a Christian wife is a very sacrificial and potentially very difficult thing. Because you have to serve and support and help another individual and sometimes–a lot of times–that means putting your desires on hold because your family needs you. Cooking for a family, keeping things cleans, making sure your family has what they need, nursing, raising children, losing sleep, having to make time for your husband and kids, all of this takes sacrifice. So many Christian women are buying the lie that once they have a husband they’ll be content or complete and happy. Truth is, humans are not perfect and so if you are in so much turmoil because you are lacking a romantic companion then once the temporal and fleshly desires have been entertained for a while, your longing and emptiness will return. Because if you weren’t complete and content in your marriage to Christ, you will have a very difficult marriage because when your husband stops being so romantic and his imperfections and sins come forth you’re going to become bitter and angry at him for no longer bringing the happiness he brought before. Not to say marriage is this weight of all sacrifice and no enjoyment, but too many go into it without first having complete joy in Christ who said He came so our joy would be complete (and he didn’t say it’ll only be complete for married folks) then they separate and divorce and it’s a devastating mess. I was content before meeting Jonathan. He and I have our joy and hopes set in Christ and because we love Jesus first, our marriage is strong. But I know way too many sisters who are separated or struggling in their marriages. Too many get divorced or have adultery in their marriages and it comes down to false expectations and often being led by their own flesh and desire to have a husband rather than being content and patient and waiting on God’s timing or trusting His plan which may be singleness. I just don’t want my sisters to go through the pain of separation and divorce because they didn’t have the right mind and heart about marriage.

  2. Wow, I love this. Especially what your husband did, because he sees the beauty in you even when your doubtful and thats so wonderful. Its so important to me that I am with someone that don’t mind me in sweats, twists in hair, and no makeup, and still believe am absolutely beautiful. I can’t even imagine being married to a man that wants his wife to wear makeup 24/7 or even desire her to have it on most of the time. And God and your husband view about you, is all that matters.

    By reading this I made a promise to myself to NOT wear makeup on any dates within the first two months – maybe more – in any courtship I enter. Thank you so much for sharing the word of God and your personal live.

  3. Thank you Lord for reminding me of how passionately You love me. I’m so sorry that I do not really believe your word, when You say I am “fearfully and wonderfully made”. Help me to become a true princess who will work diligently and humbly for Your kingdom.

    Natasha,
    This post deeply touched my heart. Ever since I could remember I have always tried to alter my self in order to look beautiful. Never been satisfied with my appearance. I’ve been wearing makeup almost every day since the 6th grade. More and more of it, as the years progressed. I’ve been on every diet, and workout routine imaginable. Always wondering “If I do ‘this’ will someone love me and tell me I’m beautiful?”.

    I came to Christ and repented on November 26th 2012, and it has been a roller coaster ever since then. By the Lords never ending grace and mercy He has delivered me and has brought me thus far. He is always opening my eyes and and convicting my heart.

    But this completely blindsided me. I cant believe I have been calling My Lord a liar every time I look in the mirror with disgust, every time I think I am not pretty enough. Never have I thought that there was something deeper to me wearing makeup. Never did i think that being dissatisfied with myself actually deeply saddened,maybe even angered,my Creator. My heart had been hardened and my eyes blind. Satan had fed me lies and I had believed them.

    But today I can declare that I am The Lords creation, I am fearfully and wonderfully made, and that The God of the universe adores me. Through Jesus all my transgressions have died on the cross. The Lord has adopted me and in Jesus I am beautiful. And I am so grateful to God that his Holy spirit stirred up the desire in your heart to write this post, and in result convict my heart and bring me to repentance. Please pray over me. It is the desire of my heart to get baptized and join into an official union with God as his beloved child. Thank you dear Natasha. May Gods spirit move you, and work through you, that your life would bring Him and His kingdom glory.

    1. Oh precious sister! Praise God! He is so good. I am so thankful He brought you to this post. I will certainly pray for you sister. I’ve been there! I started in sixth grade too! Just continue renewing your mind through the Scriptures and thinking twice before you do something the world does; the way they dress, what they listen to, watch, etc. We can never be more beautiful to God who calls us His prized possession and the apple of His eye. I believe Psalm 45 is how we look in the spiritual realm, how we look to God, and it’s lovely! Every culture has their /opinion/ of what beauty looks like; some cultures it’s extremely long necks, others it’s tiny feet, others it’s obesity, the list goes on. For now ours says unhealthily skinny and covered in contour make-up that completely transforms your natural features and makes you look quite different from the real you. But that’s THEIR opinion. God says a gentle and quiet spirit is beautiful in His sight, and that a woman who fears Him is to be praised, and is a crown to her husband’s head. The man God has for you will think you’re beautiful inside and out. Much love and grace to you, princess!

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