There’s a verse that doesn’t get preached often:
“Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap.” (Galatians 6:7)
Today in prayer it dawned on me: I need to sow love, and joy, and peace, and fun into my marriage if I truly desire to reap these things.
Marriage is a lifetime investment. But what happens when you stop investing? Just as monthly you’re supposed to put money into a mutual fund so that it will grow all the more, if you want your marriage to grow more enriching, you must put in that which will bring about beautiful growth.
Now, the opposite is just as true, and rather frightening: if you sow anger, bitterness, and disrespect into your marriage, you will most certainly reap the destruction of your relationship.
How many couples continue fighting, only to have the fights get worse and worse, and even more worse, until finally, they throw in the towel on their union and decide to call it quits? Many times, the spouses blame each other, rather than themselves, and because of this wall of pride, their marriage is never restored.
If there’s constant arguments, or boredom, or distance in your marriage, I beg you to ask yourself: what have I been sowing into our relationship? None of us are completely perfect just yet, so even if you sow more good into your marriage than your spouse does, there’s still some bad seeds you’ve been planting. There may be bad seeds you aren’t even aware you are sowing. If you’re serious about honoring God and restoring your marriage, prayer can reveal what we’ve been blinded to.
If you’re married to a non-Christian or a Christian who is throwing bad seeds all over the place, that is still no excuse for you to do the same. You’re just picking up the shovel and helping him dig a grave for your marriage. But check out this awesome promise:
“Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear.” (I Peter 3:1, 2)
Say whaaaaaaat! Disobedient, ungodly, husbands can be “won” by just watching our godly lifestyle? Yup, sista, that’s what it says, and the Word of God will never pass away.
So my challenge to all of us wives—myself included—is to sow into our marriage what we’ve been wanting our hubby’s to sow. Let’s not cross our arms, lift our chins, and refuse to budge until he does. That’s not how Christians are to operate. Rather, let us respect, even if we aren’t respected. Let us love, even when we aren’t being loved. Let us bring on the fun and the romance despite if hubby hasn’t. Because truth be told, if we chose to follow Christ, that means we embraced suffering for Him as well. If you think following Christ is easy, I don’t know what pastor you’ve been listening to, but Jesus said the way to life is narrow and difficult, and that few find it. O, but the joy that awaits those of us who choose to pick up our cross, deny ourself, and follow Him. We will reap eternal life and riches that our minds can’t even fully grasp at the present.
And as a daughter of God, I have chosen to live for Him, not for myself.
So who’s ready to die to herself and sow goodness into her marriage?