“She is like the merchant ships, She brings her food from afar. She also rises while it is yet night, And provides food for her household, And a portion for her maidservants.”-Proverbs 31:14, 15
Another trait of the powerful Proverbs 31 Woman: she cooks.
“The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach,” is true to a degree. Men love to eat. I’ve seen it in my own marriage. Every time I cook a meal that is above average in my husband’s mind, which is pretty much every time I make dinner (thankfully, he doesn’t have high standards) he smiles and thanks me. After that first bite, I see his mood get lighter right before my eyes. I think that’s just God’s way of further solidifying His “it is not good for man to be alone, I shall make a helper for him,” idea.
Not that men can’t cook. In fact, some love to, like Jacob from the bible. But when a woman can cook a good meal, it causes the man to grow more fond of her.
Some husbands aren’t as vocal about their appreciation for the meal they just devoured, however, I’ve noticed in some men, the way they show appreciation is by not saying a word. They eat up the meal and are so engrossed in it, they totally forget to thank their wives.
Don’t hold a grudge. He appreciates it. And none of us are entitled to anything but hell, yet Christ forgave us and overlooked our many offenses toward Him. It’s to your glory that you overlook offenses. Be glad hubby isn’t turning his nose up at the food and grimacing.
There was a time in my marriage that I was so caught up in my writing career, that I neglected this important aspect of being a wife, and hubby suffered for it. Remember how I said some men can and love to cook, well, Jonathan isn’t one of them. He lost a lot of weight because of my lack of cooking, and would eat fast-food junk a lot.
The Holy Spirit really spoke to me one early morning and I realized what I’d been doing and repented.
So if you aren’t a wife yet, know that cooking is a big deal in marriage. It makes your hubby feel loved, and it blesses you both with more appreciation for each other.
If you don’t know how to cook, start learnin’. You’ll grow to like it, and your future marriage will be better because of it.
Proverbs 31 Woman Prayer
Father, in Jesus’ name, please help me to become a Proverbs 31 Woman. Help me to love the way You designed women, and to embrace every role You’ve established for us. Prepare me to be a good-cooking wife, and a good wife in every area of that calling. Amen.