She considers a field and buys it; From her profits she plants a vineyard. (Proverbs 31:16)
This is one hard-working woman! I just googled “how to make a vineyard” and my goodness, it’s no joke.
You have to dig three-feet holes in the ground. You have to watch out for pests like rabbits and other creatures that like grapes, so you might have to build a fence around your vineyard. Then when the fruit comes, it takes 20 pounds of grapes to make one gallon of homemade wine! And back then, they’d stomp on the grapes to get the juice out which is a messy work-out!
So of all the fruits and veggies, she chooses to make a vineyard, which requires a lot more work after-the-fact than planting tomatoes or parsley.
This says a lot about her work-ethic, don’t you think? She’s willing to get her hands dirty—literally. She is willing to sweat and toil, and that by choice! AND she’s not doing it for selfish gain. Back then, wine wasn’t as highly concentrated with alcohol as it is now so it was used not only for celebratory events, but also as remedies for certain illnesses so chances are she had her family in mind when taking on the burden of a vineyard (grapes are ridiculously healthy).
It seems nowadays women don’t like to sweat very much, or get dirty. I don’t know who started the whole dainty, high-maintenance, princess doll who doesn’t ever get messy and must have acrylics thing, but it sure ain’t what the bible considers a powerful and noble woman.
Apparently, godly women in the old days not only took care of the inside of the home, but they bore the heat of the day and took care of the outside as well.
A trait of a Proverbs 31 Woman is that she works hard—indoors, outdoors, you name it—she is willing to sweat and get dirty for her family.
To be honest, I’m not sure how a mother and full-time career woman can pull something like this off: working, gardening, cooking, house-keeping, training children in godliness and academia, and still manage to also make time for her husband. However, I believe the stay-at-home wife and mother can make this happen. Here’s the clincher: are you—am I—willing to sweat and get dirty for the family? Do we really want to imitate the Proverbs 31 Woman, or would we prefer to not break a nail or mess up our hair?
I can guarantee, if your husband is a good Christian man, he will think a sweaty, hot, dirt-stained wife who just worked her butt off to make a healthy garden for him and the kids is a lot more sexy than a dolled-up, manicured and pedicured wife who won’t dare conceive of doing such hard and messy work for anyone. I wouldn’t be surprised if he desires and cherishes you more for getting dirt in your nails and on your face so you can provide something good for him and the children.
Men understand hard work. It’s their native tongue. When they see it, they totally register it, and respect and appreciation is the response. In fact, many men feel disrespected and are very hurt by wives who don’t show appreciation for them working hard to provide. It’s a dagger to their soul to have their effort completely overlooked.
It’s how wives feel when hubby doesn’t seem to understand how draining it can be raising and taking care of children. But, let’s not foster negative thoughts. I’m sure those emotions can come, but you know that God sees, and when you work hard, you’re doing it out of obedience and reverence to Him, and from deep love of your family. You’re not doing it for accolades, and if you are, your motives aren’t right.
Love is sacrificial, it’s long-suffering.
The Proverbs 31 Woman works hard because she loves much, and with Christ, we can do the same.
Proverbs 31 Woman Prayer:
Father, in Jesus’ name please help me to work hard for my family. Help me not to grow weary in doing good, and to seek their well-being above my own. I pray I take care of them in love, and that everything I do would be done from and in love, expecting nothing in return. Give me great joy in sacrificial service, knowing I am pleasing You. Amen.