In marriage, you don’t always get what you want. Can you believe it? I happened to experience this two days ago.
I really wanted something, and Sir Jonathan was planning on giving it to me, but preventable things got in the way.
This upset me.
I felt like I wasn’t being prioritized. I didn’t consider it at the time, but I was being selfish.
I shared my heart with my sweet hubby, he apologized, and I felt better. Besides, eventually I’d get what I wanted.
The following day, Jonathan wanted something now. But just as my desire had to wait, I was quick to put his on hold, and although my excuse was an honest and even honorable one, the way I said it had the slightest flair of revenge, and I felt a twinge of satisfaction from it.
It didn’t take long for the Holy Spirit to convict me. Again, I was being selfish. I confessed to Jonathan the hint of revenge, to which he—as usual—gracefully and immediately forgave me.
But the Spirit was still working. I offered hubby what he wanted, but then brought up my desire as well. To my dismay, something else threatened to get in the way—again!
Then the thought hit me: this must be a test from God.
What I desired wasn’t anything evil. In fact, it was according to God’s will, something He desires. But how would I react to not getting what I wanted when I wanted it? I decided I would give Jonathan what he wanted, whether or not I got what I wanted.
And guess what happened? The thing that was threatening to put off my desire, didn’t happen. And hubby and I both got what we wanted.
Finances, children, disagreements; these aren’t what cause divorce. Sin does. It’s when we let our selfishness control us, rather than the Holy Spirit, that we destroy our marriage. Nothing else is to blame.
But when simply obey Him we call Master, denying ourselves and putting others’ needs before our own, God is pleased and we are blessed.
As always, God proved His word is true.
Repay no one evil for evil. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men. If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men. Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord. Therefore “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; If he is thirsty, give him a drink; For in so doing you will heap coals of fire on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. (Romans 12:17-21 NKJV)
For You, O LORD, will bless the righteous; With favor You will surround him as with a shield. (Psalms 5:12 NKJV)