To go along with Bruce Jenner’s tragic delusion is to say that there is nothing uniquely special about being a woman; that even a man can be what we are if he merely says he feels like one, and then adds silicone to his chest, castrates himself, and applies makeup. Really? Is that the sum of what our culture deems woman to be?
How can a man feel like he’s a woman if he’s never been one? Has he experienced what it is like to have a life growing within, the way that life saturates our heart with an intense love and a new level of sacrifice and nurturing? Has he given birth and brought life into this world? Of course not, because the eternal order of human life and reproduction says that man cannot bear children.
Indeed, some women are barren, however, their design still begs to create life. And beyond child-bearing, the heart of a woman is beautifully unique, as is the heart of a man. The feminine was fashioned and designed into the woman, not into the man. Her womanly qualities are hers alone — with good reason — as is his manly qualities.
As Stasi Eldredge so gracefully puts it, there are three desires in the heart of a woman: to be romanced, to play an irreplaceable role in a great adventure, and to unveil beauty. However, there is so much more; our desire for intimacy, for face-to-face closeness, to be listened to, protected, cared for, fought for, and longed for; our desire to take care of our young and our husbands, to make things beautiful, our sensitivity to the emotions of others.
No. A man can and never will be a woman; no matter how much he transfigures himself to outwardly appear as one. Man and woman were created so differently, each so individually unique and beautiful, we complement one another. When God created man, He said it was not good for him to be alone, so He would make someone to help him. God created men and women in such a way that one needs the other; that what one has to offer, the other does not and vice versa. We were uniquely designed to help one another, not to try and become each other.
When a person does not know their Maker, identity crisis is bound to strike. One becomes desperate to find identity in something, sometimes in anything, just to feel belonged.
We are all like orphans stumbling around lost on the earth until our Heavenly Father finds us and brings us home — into His embrace.
The bible tells us that as many as trust in the sacrifice and resurrection of Jesus Christ, they become adopted children of God. He now accepts them as His children, and thus, they have been “born again” by His Holy Spirit:
But when the right time came, God sent his Son, born of a woman, subject to the law. God sent him to buy freedom for us who were slaves to the law, so that he could adopt us as his very own children. And because we are his children, God has sent the Spirit of his Son into our hearts, prompting us to call out, “Abba, Father.” Now you are no longer a slave but God’s own child. And since you are his child, God has made you his heir. (Galatians 4:4–7 NLT)
This is our true identity: children of God, created for His good pleasure and will. But if we reject Him, all of our lives we will be lost orphans, creating our own false identities.
I was there. My identity shifted with every guy I dated; from what they dressed like and the music they listened to, I embraced and built a false identity that would blend with theirs. Two lost orphans, trying to find themselves, not knowing our true selves were hidden in Christ:
Since you have been raised to new life with Christ, set your sights on the realities of heaven, where Christ sits in the place of honor at God’s right hand. Think about the things of heaven, not the things of earth. For you died to this life, and your real life is hidden with Christ in God. (Colossians 3:1–3 NLT)
I can say so joyfully, by the grace of God, I now know my true identity and I have not shifted from it for over nine years.
Thanks to His Spirit within me, this adoption I’ve experienced, I now only become more and more like Jesus. This is not from my own strength, but His alone. Any good in me is from Christ’s Spirit, His transforming power who makes this daughter more and more like her Heavenly Father. My heart is full to overflowing with joy, peace, and love, knowing who my King is and who I am to Him. I pray that Bruce, and many more come to know and enjoy the same.
God saved you by his grace when you believed. And you can’t take credit for this; it is a gift from God. Salvation is not a reward for the good things we have done, so none of us can boast about it. For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago. (Ephesians 2:8–10 NLT)
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