To my O so precious younger sisters in Christ:
Before I stopped chasing guys, and pursued Jesus, I treated God like medicine. I used Him when I felt bad, but once He made me better, I stopped taking Him in. Instead, I put Him away, and kept hurting myself with relationships I wasn’t ready for.
And though I didn’t know it until I was eighteen-years-old, that’s the reason I kept craving a boyfriend. I was looking for the love only Jesus could give me. I wasn’t satisfied because I kept leaving God and not listening to Him. I kept ditching Him and getting into relationships. I didn’t need a boyfriend, I needed Jesus. When I finally realized that, I stopped pursuing guys and started really pursuing Jesus. He began flooding my life with love and joy and for once in my life I FINALLY didn’t need or care to have a boyfriend or attention from a guy.
And guess what else? When I was ready for marriage (believe it or not, at age eighteen, after I surrendered to Jesus, I didn’t want a boyfriend anymore, but I looked forward to some day having a husband. I met Jon and we were ready by a year. After a year and two months, he proposed.
Being ready for marriage within a year or so is super important because of sexual temptation. As our pastor who married us would say, “if you’re in a relationship and not married by a year, you’re playing with fire.” So at 14, you’ll have to wait at least four years to be physical with your husband. You think you could really refrain that long the more and more you begin liking a guy? That’s why teenage relationships are very dangerous.
I know it can be especially hard going to public or private school, and God knows your friends are probably boy crazy, but when you allow Jesus to blow your mind with His love, you’ll be strong enough to wait on your future husband, and you’ll be the girl your friends come to when they’re heart broken and going through boy drama. If you find that satisfaction in Jesus and no longer seek a guy’s attention, it will be such a powerful example, you’ll be so extremely different, God will use you to save your unsaved friends.
Remember, YOU are the light your friends NEED. As a Christian, you alone have what they need to escape heart break AND more importantly, hell.
Maybe try to switch your focus and instead of finding your identity as some cute guy’s girlfriend, you realize you’re so much more special than that. You’re like a superhero, saving souls from the devil’s grip on their life. You’re a warrior princess, a leader among your friends and younger family members, placed in their lives by God’s will. You have a great mission. Will you train yourself for that mission, or train yourself to just be another girl guys use?
Praying for you,