“Love is patient, love is kind.
Love does not envy,
is not boastful, is not conceited,
does not act improperly,
is not selfish, is not provoked,
and does not keep a record of wrongs.
Love finds no joy in unrighteousness
but rejoices in the truth.
It bears all things, believes all things,
hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never ends.”-1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Before you like this post, really let these words sink in. Allow them to act as a mirror to reflect this truth about what Love is into your mind and heart. How many of us hold these standards as love, or even think about these things when we’re saying, “I love you,” or even hold to these things with the ones we claim to love? Are you patient with your beloved? Are you kind to your beloved? Are you envious of your beloved? Are you boastful about yourself and your accomplishments? Are you conceited? Are you acting improperly toward your beloved (which in this case, would be in a romantic relationship among an unmarried man and woman), are you selfish–your way or you get angry? Are you provoked, do you get easily angered by your beloved? Do you keep a record of wrongs, remembering and holding onto things your beloved has done to you? Do you bring up those things? Do you think about those things? Do you tell others about those things? Are you taking joy in unrighteousness; are you enjoying sin with your beloved? Are you rejoicing in the truth together, the truth about who Jesus Christ is, and what He has done and spoken? Are you holding fast during hardship, or throwing in the towel? Are you hoping the best, or thinking the worst? Are you “falling out of love?” because real love never ends. This is the litmus test for if you are truly loving another person AND if he or she is truly loving you!
This I KNOW from not just experience, because I HAVE gone through this, BUT because by His amazing goodness, kindness, and mercy, Jesus has shown me what REAL LOVE is, love is NOT intense, pleasurable feelings, and happiness. It is not enjoying one another’s company and affection. Outside of marriage, that is NOT love, it is lust and infatuation. It is tainted and selfish, because the motivation for continuing with this person is because how he or she makes YOU feel. Take away the affection and enjoyment of their company and so goes away your “love.”
So, are you really walking in love with another person? And how can you really know? God alone holds the answers and thank goodness He shares them with us very clearly and plainly in His Word, the bible. If you refrain from reading it and studying it, you can easily be deceived by emotions and the support and encouragement of others who also don’t know what true love is. And this is not only tragic, but can be extremely dangerous to your soul and your relationship and standing with God. Yes, God wants you to be happy, but not at the expense of being holy, of being like Him, of following Him, of being an obedient son or daughter. Happiness without holiness is temporal, fleeting, and will not bring God’s blessing, but His wrath. Indeed, He disciplines those He loves, He does not bless sin, He blesses righteousness. Doing the right thing isn’t always easy, but if you cling to Him and get to know His love, it becomes much easier, and only more easy as you grow more in love with Him.
“Jesus said to the people who believed in him, ‘You are truly my disciples if you remain faithful to my teachings. And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.'”-John 8:31-32