Some Wives Need To Stop Pursuing Their Calling

I’ve been there as a wife, for the first year-and-a-half or so of my marriage, pursuing my own endeavors, my God-given dreams. Now, certainly, God had called me to be a writer, but I took that calling and exalted it above my marriage. 
Sometimes, we wives do that: God has a calling on our lives, has gifted us, but in our zeal and lack of wisdom, we dash to make that calling a reality, rather than patiently wait for Him to make it a reality. 

Those early endeavors of mine were hardly fruitful. I look at women who are twice my age or so, usually with kids out of the house already, and God is using their gifts in mighty ways. They typically have their own ministry and its bearing wonderful fruit for God’s kingdom, but again, they’re twice my age without little kids to care for. These women were likely faithful in what God gave them; their duties as a wife and mother, and put their ministry dreams on hold. I bet most, if not all of them didn’t even realize God was using their family to train and prepare them for their future ministries. 

I came to a place where I said yes, I have these cool dreams I’d like to someday walk in for the Lord, like have my own Christian acting school, but I sure ain’t pursuing that now! I’m a wife and mommy first, and I know God wants me to be faithful in these ministries first and devote myself to them because these ministries are far more important than I can probably even fathom. As the bible says:

“The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish pulls it down with her hands.”-Proverbs‬ ‭14:1‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

Supporting my husband and working alongside him has borne delightful fruit and I actually enjoy it more than pursuing or doing my own thing, and I pray for as long as we both are alive, we are one team for Jesus, co-laboring for the gospel.
Lord, please help me to remember and grow in my understanding of how crucial my current roles are. Guard me from trying to speed up Your calling on my life, and help me to be faithful with what You’ve given me. Give me patience, and let me not forsake abiding in Your presence, for ultimately, with You there is fullness of joy. In Jesus’ name, amen. 

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Daughter of the King, married to a prince. Writer, actress, and my husband's side-kick filmmaker.

4 thoughts on “Some Wives Need To Stop Pursuing Their Calling

  1. Ooo sis…I have to say this one’s a tough one for me. I’ve had those moments where I have asked myself if I could put pursuing my dream on hold for anything, anyone else. Honestly the answer has been no. Reading this has given me something to think about because honestly I don’t want to feel like I’m giving up on my dream, but I don’t want to abandon what’s important because I was selfish. I guess ultimately I have to really sit down and reflect on what’s truly important. Thanks for writing this!

    1. Amen sister! God is faithful to show you what He wills. If you’re single, just keep serving the Lord. When a potential husband comes into the picture is when you really need to seek Him regarding marriage.

  2. Hey Tasha, I pray that all is well. Honestly, there were some stuff in this that I do not believe. I believe that God is not a God of confusion. We, whether male or female, should never “stop” pursuing what God told us to do. Now if we are doing our own thing and it is affecting our marriage then that’s one thing, but a God ordained assignment should never be put on hold. This is why I believe that we have to be extremely careful about who we marry. We have to marry a man that recognized the assignment on our lives and that they as well knows their own so both match. God won’t tell you to be a missionary in Africa and tell your husband he suppose to work a 9-5 job in NY. Marriage is a ministry which means that a person’s God ordained assignment will not have to be put on hold for someone God brought in their life. I’m not saying that compromising never takes place, but you should not tell women that their anointing is not as important as their husband so leave your dreams till you’re old. Your nation(people God called you to reach) is waiting for you and many are dying

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