How to Know If Your Guy is Really a Christian

Last night a seventeen-year-old girl asked me, “How do I know if he isn’t really a Christian?”

Requirements of a true Christ-follower:

1.) He must confess Jesus is Lord, and believe in his heart that God raised Him from the dead.

And listen closely to what comes out of the guy’s mouth, for what’s in a person’s heart, eventually comes out of his mouth. Does he talk more about himself, or Jesus? Is he always talking about what he wants to do, or what God is leading him to do? Is he always talking about some material thing, or a business, or something of the world that he loves? He who loves the world, “does not have the love of the Father in him (1 John 2:15),” and whoever makes himself a friend of the world, “makes himself an enemy of God (James 4:4).” Does he love his car and all his possessions and hobbies and career etc., but hardly talks about Jesus moving in his life, and serving Jesus, and living for Jesus?

2.) In addition to loving Jesus and his neighbor, he must love other Christians.

But, love isn’t tolerance, acceptance, and whatever makes you happy; that’s how the world, how non-believers, define love. But true love is laid out in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, and is most clearly displayed by Jesus Christ Himself. The Bible says God is love, and that Jesus Christ is the visible image of the invisible God, that all of God’s fullness lived in Christ.

If you wanna know a man belongs to Jesus, the man must love like Jesus loved.

And Jesus loved the church–anyone who trusts in Him and confesses He is Lord–so much, that Jesus died for them. If this man hates Christians, He is not a son of God, because although we aren’t perfect, God loves us and gave His only Son for us. If this man is hostile to Christians, the love of Jesus is not in him.

3.) He must bear good fruit, i.e., good works that prove he genuinely knows and has Jesus.

Galatians 5 tells us what “the deeds of the flesh” look like, versus what the “fruits of the Holy Spirit” look like. Read over that chapter and see which fruit this guy displays more of. 

Precious sisters, be wise. There are MANY wolves in sheep’s clothing. There are many children of the devil “disguised as workers of light.” 

Our enemy prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.

However much knowledge you have of the Bible is as much knowledge you have about Jesus.

Jesus is literally the fulfillment of every Old Testament prophecy and everything we need to know about Him, who He is, what He’s done, what He thinks of us and desires for us, what He has in store for our future and the future of the entire world, is all in the Bible.

Get to know God just as you get to know the guy you’re really into. Listen to Jesus as you listen to this guy talk, whether it be for hours as you hang out in person, or over the phone. Spend time with Jesus like you do with this guy. Make time for Jesus as you make time for this guy. Drop things for Jesus as you drop things for this guy.

Following Jesus is simple and it all starts with getting to know Him. 

Until next time, know your worth.

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