Have you ever taken matters into your own hands? When you just think you know the right thing to do and are sick of waiting for your husband to do it, so you push him aside (or maybe secretly side-step him), and take the reins?
It usually doesn’t end well, does it?
I’m reminded of Sara and Abraham way back in Genesis.
Abraham receives a promise from God that he will have a son and his ancestors will be as numerous as the stars and all the nations of the earth will be blessed through his seed.
Being Abraham’s wife, naturally, Sara is apart of that promise. She is to be the mother of this great nation–so to speak–and even though she’s well past child-birthing years, she’s supposed to get pregnant.
Time goes by. A lot of it. Years worth. And hey, Sara begins to doubt. I don’t blame her. I’ve been there. I am there. So what does she decide to do?
Take matters into her own hands.
She tells hubby he should just sleep with her maidservant and then that child will become this special son that God promised He would give several years back. Abraham heeds his wife’s sensible and logical, not-prayed-about or God-given opinion and advice and they both suffer for it.
Maidservant gets pregnant. Sara gets jealous and angry and regretful. God shows up and is basically like, that’s not how this is going to work, and it was not what I promised you guys. I told you, Sara, that YOU’D be the one to conceive, but you didn’t wait patiently and instead, took matters into your own hands, so now here’s the consequences of your faithless actions: a son will be born to the maidservant and he will always be against his brother and will become a great nation who always wars against their brethren. By the way, God is so supremely good and just and faithful, He eventually did fulfill His promise to Abraham and Sara, and she gave birth to a son in her super old age of nearly 100.
But Sara had to wait. And so do we, sisters.
I was tempted to take matters into my own hands today. And to a degree, I did. Hubby didn’t heed, though he did do some digging on it, and I’m thankful he didn’t. Because my advice was driven from frustration and doubt, not from prayerful confirmation from God. And who knows what the outcome could’ve been. In my discouragement, I was tempted again to take matters into my own hands, but I asked for prayer, and went to the Word of God and read Romans 8 out loud. And it worked. Uttering the correlating promises of God helped me to stop fretting and to just “let go and let God.”
I remember another circumstance where Abraham was definitely wrong, but this time, Sara didn’t take the reins. She submitted even to her husband’s wrongness by allowing him to lie about their relationship to the pharaoh so he wouldn’t kill Abraham, and he let the man take Sara into his palace where his plan was to sleep with her. Can you flipping believe it? I know, it upsets me, too, ladies. But, just as Sara had made a mistake in her frustration, Abraham made a mistake in his fear, but guess what? God still kept His promise and in this situation, He stepped in like a protective husband should, and protected Sara supernaturally, and then caused Pharaoh to hurry them out with no punishment and tons of provisions. And guess whose name went down in the “Faith hall of Fame” thousands of years later penned by the Apostle Paul? Sara. What a legacy for all her ancestors and daughters to follow.
So you know what, I wanna be like Sara in that second situation. I don’t wanna take matters into my own hands to the harm of my whole family. I want to shut up, trust God, and wait patiently for HIM to act. Because He will, at the perfect time.
Do you know it’s also true for you?