Fat Shaming Vs. Beauty Vs. Reality

Hey precious ladies. First, let me say being cruel or unkind or mocking someone because of their appearance is foolish and, well, mean. God via the Bible has lots to say about kindness and the words we speak.

I’ve seen plenty of what I believe to be beautiful plus-sized women who look great and healthy. Call them, “curvy” or “voluptuous,” they’re not “skinny” and that’s totally okay!

But just as there are some who are unhealthily skinny, there are some who are unhealthily overweight.

For example: I have a grandmother who is obese. She was always “big-boned” which was fine. I believe she lived a healthy life in her earlier years. But then she got remarried after divorcing my grandfather…

Her second husband, “Liked fat women,” so he encouraged her to eat up and eventually, she became 200+ lbs–and the number has climbed and climbed. Nine years ago, she almost died from a blood clot which had to do with her weight and immobility. Currently, my grandmother is basically bedridden. With swollen legs, very heavy and hard to move, getting out of bed is a serious workout and she’s fallen more often because of muscle weakness (again, laying in bed means no real exercise of her limbs and without strengthening by means of use, eventually, our bodies grow frail).

She’s been eating better, thanks to my sister who cares for her and has been trying to help her lose weight so she’s more healthy and mobile. But there are people in the family who say to let her be because she’s happy. In reality, she’s quite the opposite, and though eating junk-food and however much food she desires momentarily releases happy chemicals, doesn’t mean she is truly happy and if anything, it sure is a cheap happiness in comparison to the simple but greater happiness of being able to move around and do necessary things like walk to the restroom, bathe, and not be bed-bound. She’s terrified of falling and has grown all the more bound to her bed because of it.

Many Americans are what doctors call “obese” or unhealthily overweight. You don’t even have to be visibly that “fat” in order to have clogged arteries, diabetes, and the like, but the point is that, at a certain point, “fat” can be more easily defined as unhealthy or potentially unhealthy and when a person is medically obese, encouraging them to stay that way, applauding it, etc. isn’t helpful, but harmful…

How many young people suffer from asthma and diabetes, or die prematurely from a heart attack because of fat build up? Again, I’m not for mocking anyone, but I am for being lovingly honest and offering solutions to what sometimes is just ignorance of how unhealthy certain stuff really is, and the addictive chemicals and whatnot in those foods that keep you coming back for more, or often, over-eating stems from deep, unresolved issues so encouraging the person to continue being unhealthily overweight is also encouraging them to ignore the deeper reasons as to why they’re placing their comfort in food.

Now we can offer help and support without openly embarrassing someone. We should be able to voice any concerns if it’s done so with the genuine intent of helping another person. I appreciate those who are honest with me about my issues and sins and offer advice and help me get through. No one is perfect, but man, the honest words and assistance of others can be such a blessing.

So yes, let us be kind to one another, but let us also offer support and help those whose weight has gotten to the point of being problematic to their health, rather than encourage them to continue embracing an unhealthy lifestyle. Not everyone desires to be helped, but we still love them anyway. Our love shouldn’t be dependent upon a person taking our advice or not, love is unconditional, but it also gently speaks the truth.

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What are your thoughts on this topic? Feel free to leave a comment. ❤

Bruce Jenner Will Never Be A Real Woman And Here’s Why

 

To go along with Bruce Jenner’s tragic delusion is to say that there is nothing uniquely special about being a woman; that even a man can be what we are if he merely says he feels like one, and then adds silicone to his chest, castrates himself, and applies makeup. Really? Is that the sum of what our culture deems woman to be?

How can a man feel like he’s a woman if he’s never been one? Has he experienced what it is like to have a life growing within, the way that life saturates our heart with an intense love and a new level of sacrifice and nurturing? Has he given birth and brought life into this world? Of course not, because the eternal order of human life and reproduction says that man cannot bear children.

Indeed, some women are barren, however, their design still begs to create life. And beyond child-bearing, the heart of a woman is beautifully unique, as is the heart of a man. The feminine was fashioned and designed into the woman, not into the man. Her womanly qualities are hers alone — with good reason — as is his manly qualities.

As Stasi Eldredge so gracefully puts it, there are three desires in the heart of a woman: to be romanced, to play an irreplaceable role in a great adventure, and to unveil beauty. However, there is so much more; our desire for intimacy, for face-to-face closeness, to be listened to, protected, cared for, fought for, and longed for; our desire to take care of our young and our husbands, to make things beautiful, our sensitivity to the emotions of others.

No. A man can and never will be a woman; no matter how much he transfigures himself to outwardly appear as one. Man and woman were created so differently, each so individually unique and beautiful, we complement one another. When God created man, He said it was not good for him to be alone, so He would make someone to help him. God created men and women in such a way that one needs the other; that what one has to offer, the other does not and vice versa. We were uniquely designed to help one another, not to try and become each other.

When a person does not know their Maker, identity crisis is bound to strike. One becomes desperate to find identity in something, sometimes in anything, just to feel belonged.

We are all like orphans stumbling around lost on the earth until our Heavenly Father finds us and brings us home — into His embrace.

The bible tells us that as many as trust in the sacrifice and resurrection of Jesus Christ, they become adopted children of God. He now accepts them as His children, and thus, they have been “born again” by His Holy Spirit:

But when the right time came, God sent his Son, born of a woman, subject to the law. God sent him to buy freedom for us who were slaves to the law, so that he could adopt us as his very own children. And because we are his children, God has sent the Spirit of his Son into our hearts, prompting us to call out, “Abba, Father.” Now you are no longer a slave but God’s own child. And since you are his child, God has made you his heir. (Galatians 4:4–7 NLT)

This is our true identity: children of God, created for His good pleasure and will. But if we reject Him, all of our lives we will be lost orphans, creating our own false identities.

I was there. My identity shifted with every guy I dated; from what they dressed like and the music they listened to, I embraced and built a false identity that would blend with theirs. Two lost orphans, trying to find themselves, not knowing our true selves were hidden in Christ:

Since you have been raised to new life with Christ, set your sights on the realities of heaven, where Christ sits in the place of honor at God’s right hand. Think about the things of heaven, not the things of earth. For you died to this life, and your real life is hidden with Christ in God. (Colossians 3:1–3 NLT)

I can say so joyfully, by the grace of God, I now know my true identity and I have not shifted from it for over nine years.

Thanks to His Spirit within me, this adoption I’ve experienced, I now only become more and more like Jesus. This is not from my own strength, but His alone. Any good in me is from Christ’s Spirit, His transforming power who makes this daughter more and more like her Heavenly Father. My heart is full to overflowing with joy, peace, and love, knowing who my King is and who I am to Him. I pray that Bruce, and many more come to know and enjoy the same.

God saved you by his grace when you believed. And you can’t take credit for this; it is a gift from God. Salvation is not a reward for the good things we have done, so none of us can boast about it. For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago. (Ephesians 2:8–10 NLT)

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I Am Woman. I Don’t Use My Body For Power. I Use Something Else.

O, precious sisters, please pray for our country. I just read an article on 45 communist goals to overthrow America and ladies, they are totally accomplishing them. Some of them were discredit the family as an institution, encourage promiscuity and easy divorce, present homosexuality, degeneracy and promiscuity as “normal, natural, healthy”, undermine the bible, exalt intellectualism, get prayer out of schools, break down cultural standards of morality by promoting pornography and obscenity in books, magazines, motion pictures, radio, and TV, the list goes on and we totally see these things dominating our culture.

Pray for my generation, Millenials, especially, because many of us are falling prey to these things.

And lastly, pray for me and all of us sisters, that we stand firm in holiness and sanctification, setting the example, not taking part in the corruption of this world, but shining the beautiful and pure light of Christ to the lost, calling them out of the darkness and into a right relationship with the Holy Father.

I pray none of us compromises our morality and that if we have been, we repent. A sister in Christ told me once, “God delights in redeeming our mistakes.” He is O so merciful. It doesn’t matter how far off you are from the holiness of God, He can forgive, cleanse, and restore you. Run into His loving arms while they’re still open, and change your mind about your sin. Hate evil and cling to what is Good–Jesus. You can cry out to Him even now, and He will hear those who are sincere.

“Two men went up to the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. 11 The Pharisee stood and prayed thus with himself, ‘God, I thank You that I am not like other men—extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even as this tax collector. 12 I fast twice a week; I give tithes of all that I possess.’ 13 And the tax collector, standing afar off, would not so much as raise his eyes to heaven, but beat his breast, saying, ‘God, be merciful to me a sinner!’ 14 I tell you, this man went down to his house justified rather than the other; for everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.”-Luke 18:10-14

Humble yourself before Christ, and He will raise you out of the ashes and turn you into something truly beautiful.

Time is running short, and we do not want to be enemies of our loving Savior. We want to be His representatives, not these evil communist’s representatives.

His divine power has given us everything required for life and godliness through the knowledge of Him who called us by His own glory and goodness. 4 By these He has given us very great and precious promises, so that through them you may share in the divine nature, escaping the corruption that is in the world because of evil desires.-1 Peter 1:3-4

Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, certain that God is appealing through us. We plead on Christ’s behalf, “Be reconciled to God.-2 Corinthians 5:20

For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; 4 that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, 5 not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God; 6 that no one should take advantage of and defraud his brother in this matter, because the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also forewarned you and testified. 7 For God did not call us to uncleanness, but in holiness. 8 Therefore he who rejects this does not reject man, but God, who has also given us His Holy Spirit.-1 Thessalonians 4:3-8

Pure and undefiled religion before our God and Father is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself unstained by the world.-James 1:27

May each of you princesses who follow this blog be the example of a godly woman and make disciples who “walk worthily” of the Lord like the Bible commands us to do. I love you and pray for you daily.

❤ Natasha

Becoming A Proverbs 31 Woman Day 11

She makes her own bed coverings; her clothing is fine linen and purple. (‭Proverbs‬ ‭31‬:‭22‬ HCSB)

Like we’ve already established, this Proverbs 31 woman is an excellent seamstress, but I don’t think every woman needs to become one in order to be a powerful and godly woman.

Apparently, the Proverbs 31 Woman dresses nicely as well. Again, this isn’t so much a character trait—outward appearance—but it’s mentioned here for a reason.

Not every woman can afford “fine linen.” I know I sure can’t. In fact, I go shopping for a few pieces of clothing literally once a year—if that, and it’s usually because someone bought me a Marshall’s gift card for Christmas.

I used to be really into how I look—before I surrendered to Christ. I confess, it’s been five years walking with my Lord and I only care less and less. I hardly wear make-up anymore. I don’t spend money on hair products (besides shampoo/conditioner). I still wear some of the same clothes I wore in high school. I don’t like designer stuff.

But, I think if I did have a good amount of extra money to spare, I may buy a few pretty affordable dresses. I like modest, dainty, flowy, princessy dresses that you can wear regularly, not just on special occasions. (Funny, before I surrendered to Christ I wore mostly black and dark colors, and hated bright colors and dresses).

I think this one’s somewhat of a toss-up. We know Paul says in the New Testament:

Your beauty should not consist of outward things like elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold ornaments or fine clothes. Instead, it should consist of what is inside the heart with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very valuable in God’s eyes. For in the past, the holy women who put their hope in God also beautified themselves in this way, submitting to their own husbands, just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. You have become her children when you do what is good and are not frightened by anything alarming. (‭1 Peter‬ ‭3‬:‭3-6‬)

So a godly woman doesn’t dress sloppy and immodestly, but she doesn’t go overboard with flashy jewelry and intricate hair-styles either.

It seems to me that she has a simple beauty. She doesn’t look like the world with their decadent jewelry and crazy hair-do’s. She doesn’t try to draw attention to herself with all that extra flash. She’s more concerned with her inward beauty, which is very valuable in the eyes of God, who—unlike other people—can see into the heart. So although a woman may be stunning on the outside, God looks beyond that and into her heart and turns away in disgust and anger at what He sees deep inside.

I care a lot more now about the purity of my heart than my outward beauty. It’s a work Christ has done in me, to have me truly grasp that He sees my heart and thoughts everyday and by His grace, He’s made both pure.

But dear sisters, know that sin in the heart is ugly to God, repulsive to Him. Remember how brutally Christ died for sin? That’s how much God hates it. The bible says God’s wrath was poured out on Christ, His wrath toward our sin. And remember how Revelation describes God’s righteous judgment on sinners? Sores, bloody rivers, huge locusts that sting people with scorpion-stingers, 100 lb hail that crushes those on earth. He loathes sin.

So may we trust His Words in Romans chapter 6 and 7, and no longer let sin have dominion over us. You can defeat it and literally not even sin in your mind. That is how pure Christ can make you if you take Him at His word. That’s how beautiful you can become, that the King of the universe peers into your heart and smiles and delights in what He sees, and looks forward to the day when He tells you in person: Well done, My good and faithful servant.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her to make her holy, cleansing her with the washing of water by the word. He did this to present the church to Himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or anything like that, but holy and blameless. (‭Ephesians‬ ‭5‬:‭25-27‬)

Proverbs 31 Woman Prayer

Heavenly Father, I thank You for Your truth. Please cleanse me by it. Please help me hide Your word in my heart that I may not sin against You. Help me to become pure and beautiful in Your sight, Lord. To care more about my inner beauty, which is a clean heart and mind. Help me turn my eyes from worthless things and let You sanctify me. Amen.

The Lie Of “Loving Someone Vs Being In Love With Him/Her”

What does pretty much every romance movie portray about love:

1.) There has to be a strong physical attraction.

2.) You won’t be able to get the person off your mind (in other words, you’ll obsess over him/her).

3.) You won’t be able to keep your hands off the person.

4.) You’ll have great premarital sex.

This is what they call, “being in love.” And O, how many times I’ve bought this lie with ex-boyfriends and exchanged the powerful four-letter word. I’m sure you have too. If you haven’t yet, praise God, you’re extremely fortunate.

Now with this whole “being in love” nonsense, there comes another lie: love leaves.

Ever hear someone say, “I love you, but I’m just not in love with you anymore.” In other words, I don’t obsess over you anymore and don’t feel all those intense lustful feelings I once did for you.

First of all, that crazy intense passionate feeling we once felt for a person was not love. This is how the Apostle Paul defined it:

“But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn [with passion]. (I Corinthians 7:8, 9)

Have you ever burned with lust? I have. Felt it all over my stomach and chest, it was consuming. Also felt it all over my body on my wedding night. What was I craving in that moment? To be touched.

Love isn’t unrestrained affection. That consuming fiery sensation is called lust, and of course it goes away, because when you get what you’ve desired, you’re satisfied for a while and then it gets old. Then you “fall in love” with someone else.

How about we get to what real love is?

1.) First off, it’s a choice.

Love isn’t some arbitrary mystical force that possesses you for a while and then vanishes once things get rough.

Love is God. God is love. Once we embrace Christ, who chooses us, He never leaves us or forsakes us. To say you’re in love with someone because you greatly lust after them is to call God a selfish pervert. (I’m not saying desire is wrong by the way. When in the right context, desire is beautiful and holy, i.e. when it is pure and then acted upon in marriage).

2.) Love isn’t earned, it’s given.

“Wow you’re really hot and when we hang out you make me feel super happy so I’m going to tell you I love you and seduce you so we can have sex and really show each other how much we love one another.”

Translation: “I get stuff from you that I like, and I want more of that stuff, so I’m going to suck you dry until I don’t ‘feel’ like I ‘love you’ anymore.”

Real love sounds like this:

Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. (I Corinthians 13:4-8)

Love suffers long. That means if that brother loves you, he keeps his pants zipped and his hands off your secret areas even if it pains him to, honoring you because he cherishes you and knows you are a daughter of God who does not yet belong to him. He does not seek his own selfish gain i.e an orgasm, but he seeks what’s best for God and you, putting his own desires at bay until the proper time: marriage.

The Bible teaches in 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8:

For this is God’s will, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality, so that each of you knows how to control his own body in sanctification and honor, not with lustful desires, like the Gentiles who don’t know God. This means one must not transgress against and defraud his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger of all these offenses, as we also previously told and warned you. For God has not called us to impurity but to sanctification. Therefore, the person who rejects this does not reject man, but God, who also gives you His Holy Spirit.

So while girls you know are getting used by their boyfriends and calling it love are telling you about how great their sex-life is, you can tell them what real love looks like and hopefully be able to show them when God puts you in the path of one of his godly princes, and that son of God cherishes you and respects you, showing you love by refraining from using your body and instead gets to know and protect your heart until God confirms to you both that you are to be married and on that night, he enjoys what he’s been lovingly waiting for.

Princess prayer: Heavenly Father, in the name of my King, Jesus, I ask that You help me tear down every lie about love that I have believed. I pray You enable me to keep my mind on You and wait for the man you have for me. Amen.

Shut Up And Let Us Kill And Do Whatever Else We Want

If the majority wants the right to murder their helpless children in their womb we should let them because well, they’re the majority, right? If the majority decides they don’t want to buy property anymore, but take homes they like by force, we should let them because they’re the majority, right? If the majority wants to legalize rape, we should legalize rape because the supposed majority wants it, right? Otherwise, we are forcing our moralism on them. Oh, but actually, if we do legalize what they want, they are forcing their lack of moralism on us.

Should we accept their violence, to ours and many people’s destruction? Or should we stand against sin and evil for the sake of the people, and by prayer and civil action, not permit such violence to be enacted on the basis of preserving life?

Chaos happens when evil laws are passed and God’s law is shunned. And this nation and our president, and many American politicians, to our shame and embarrassment, are doing this very thing: passing evil laws and trying to silence those who oppose them.

And we think God does not see? We should be terrified of His righteous judgement on a land that so spitefully rejects and fights against His laws and in pride justifies its treachery and lawlessness with meaningless ideologies of relativism and evolution. Why? Because we want to do what we want without fear of judgement. Deep down we know we are wrong but we silence our consciences by choosing to deceive ourselves with the teachings we like, the ones that don’t condemn our sins, but applaud them, until finally we believe them and have completely crucified our consciences.

Now, we think we are free, but really, we are a slave to the sin we have allowed to rule us, instead of letting the truth and reality of who Jesus Christ is to free us from the power of our evil desires that we may live righteously and truly love others, not just accept and tolerate them.

I love God and the homosexual so I speak against their destructive lifestyle. Not because I’m on a high-horse of self-righteousness but because I know God is love, yet He is also just, and cannot go back on His Word. If He condemns an act that can be forgivable, such as homosexuality, theft, lying, lust, adultery, premarital sex, and even murder, I would be hateful to just shut my mouth and let those indulging in such sins stroll blindly into hell. Because I would rather speak the truth in love, though it may hurt their pride or cause a brief pain when they realize they must separate themselves from that sin, than let them be deceived, or cheer them onto the path of destruction.

God loves us so He tells us the truth, plain and clear. He doesn’t blur the lines and confuse us with gray areas. He labels sin that we might repent of it and receive eternal life with Him. He gave His only perfect Son to die a gruesome death—the death we all deserved—because of our sins. Jesus, the Son of God, defeated sin and death by living a perfect sinless life and then rising from the grave the third day. And He promises that those who trust in Him and give their hearts to Him can likewise conquer sin and death. God “kills your party” to protect your body and soul that you may be able to join Him at His celebration in eternal paradise, where joy is not a fleeting drug or orgasm, but is being in the midst of love Himself for all eternity where He wipes away every tear, and where no more pain or evil exists. A place of true peace, the kind we hope for on this earth but will never have until Christ returns and once for all destroys satan and those who follow him, and Jesus who is Love and Truth rules over and cares for every soul who has chosen to be His and to follow Him.

You may not have tomorrow, so why not choose Life today. Jesus said: “I am the way, the truth, and the life, and no one gets to the Father except by Me.”

I pray your eyes are opened to what matters, that you set your mind on heaven, not earth, on life, not death. Jesus is the Best Person that has ever happened to me, and He offers Himself to anyone who is willing. You can ask Him yourself. You don’t need to go to a church building, or a pastor, to encounter Jesus. He is the only Mediator between God and man, and you can go directly to Him to have your sins forgiven, your slate made clean, and your heart transformed by the indwelling of His most powerful Holy Spirit. Please choose life today!