Single Christian Woman: Where’s all the eligible brothers?

Christian lady, ever feel like there’s so many fellow eligible sisters out there, but not quite as many eligible brothers? I have a theory: Christian men (and men in general), are getting increasingly intimidated by us women. As feminism rubs off on us gals who confess Christ as Lord, we simultaneously repel brothers. They may darn well be attracted to us, but they’ll keep commitment out of mind and out of heart because at the end of the day, God made the man (Adam) with a desire to be supported–not competed with. 

So if you’re serious about getting married someday and raising a family, do a mirror check: How am I coming across to my brothers in Christ? Am I intimidating? Do I challenge them with my attitude and words? Do I question or laugh at their insight and discernment? Do I quickly dismiss things they say right to their face, without fully listening and prayerfully considering them first? Am I very judgmental when it comes to them? Am I feisty? Do I speak respectfully, or freely without any reserve or thought to my words? And the most dreaded of all, am I being disrespectful?

If reflecting on whether or not you’re being disrespectful to a brother already has you balking, you’re likely not being pursed or view as “marriage material.” “Submission” and “respect” from women toward men is increasingly taboo and disgraceful among those outside of the Church, but within her, it is rare, beautiful, and attractive. If you disagree just look at these feminists: how many of them are married? And then again, look at the Church, how many of us young women are married? 

Is it all of our faults, no, of course not. But we’d be wise to own our faults and seek to overcome them by the power of the Holy Spirit–especially if we want to get married someday, and most importantly, if we want to please God, who calls His children to be respectful and to honor all.

“As a ring of gold in a swine’s snout,
So is a lovely woman who lacks discretion.”-Proverbs 11:22

“Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel—rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.”-1 Peter 3:3-4

Why Do All My Relationships Fail?

Natasha Sapienza

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Wanting to be wanted. I’ve been there. I used to dress sexy. Ironically, I was trying to reel in “the one” but all I was reeling in were sharks, toads, and wolves. Little did I know, my outer appearance displayed a very different message to the men crossing my path. I remember once I was in the mall and a group of men started yelling about my behind. Though I had specifically chosen to wear those skin-tight jeans because I thought they made my bottom look bigger, I got so angry at their attention. I cussed and yelled at them, but really, I had spurred them on with my attire. How I was dressed sent the message: treat me like I’m an object for your pleasure, rather than a woman who is worthy of respect.

Now my heart breaks when I see women doing the same thing I used to…

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Let Jesus Save You From Your Whack Boyfriend

Natasha Sapienza

Jesus isn’t trying to rain on your parade; He simply desires to protect you from the storms that come from disobedience.

God is Love. Every single thing He does and says is good because He is Love. When He commands you not to be with an unbeliever (2 Corinthians 6:14-18), He commands it from love. He knows every outcome, and desires to spare you from that so you won’t die. Sin, which is disobedience to God, ends in death.

When your heart is broken by this man, you may despair, or become bitter, and then never come back to the arms of True Love because you don’t believe a real, pure love exists. Or you get so caught up in the emotions of fake love (infatuation) that you’re distracted from the all-amazing, all-consuming Real Love; Jesus Himself.

If a man isn’t pointing you to Christ, chances are, although he genuinely…

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How To Defeat The Two Forms Of Temptation

Natasha Sapienza

I pray for you precious sisters every day. I love you all and it is my great desire to see you walk in power, faithfulness, and the blessedness of the Lord by your obedience to Him. I want to talk to you ladies about the practical instructions given to us in several places in the bible: “Flee youthful lusts; Run from temptation.”

I believe as Christians, our flesh has been crucified because the bible tells us it has, but if you feed the flesh long enough, you can fall into sin. There are two forms of temptation. The first is what I’ll call Satanic Set-ups. Sometimes, the devil sets us up. In Job chapter one, Satan goes to God and asks if he can tempt Job to blaspheme by taking away his belongings. In Luke chapter four, Jesus is just following the Spirit as always, and Satan shows up to…

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When Your Man Turns Into the Green Goblin

I went into my bedroom to put my two-month-old, Viera, to sleep, leaving a cup of green smoothie on the table. My three-year-old, Arrow, tagged along, playing on my bed. Five minutes later, I wondered what my 22-month-old, Braven, was doing. He’d gotten awfully quiet. I lay my baby down and had Arrow join me to catch up on Braven. I glanced around our 1,099 sq foot apartment. “Braven, where are you?”

No response.

“Braven?”

But before I could begin panicking, I spotted him beneath our dining table. Green smoothie soaked his blonde curls and hands, and painted his face. And he smeared the smoothie across the table and on a chair for good measure. Evidence:

And it hit me: It only took five minutes for my middle-child to turn into the Green Goblin. And how many women can say the same regarding their boyfriend or husband?

In the beginning of your relationship, perhaps for the first six months, he’s Mr. Osborne, confident and charming, but then somewhere along the line he starts becoming jealous, controlling, manipulating, verbally abusive perhaps, or a heavy drinker. And then one day, you realize your Mr. Osborne has become the evil Green Goblin.

“How could I have missed it?” You wonder. But alas, here you are, and the question now is: “What do I do about it?” Hopefully, this short advice will help.

When to Spider-Man kick your Green Goblin to the curb

If you’re a girlfriend, i.e, you’re not a wife, but your boyfriend becomes a disrespectful, name-calling bully, or a liar, or a cheat, he’s gotta go.

Now Christian sister, you know how God is all-knowing and can tell the future? Statistics show that unmarried women living with a boyfriend (having sex) are a lot more likely to experience physical abuse, suicide, and a higher divorce rate.

God, in His goodness, kindness and most importantly, from love, commands His children not to fornicate (have premarital sex). The cost of engaging in that kind of sexual immorality is the kingdom of heaven itself. It’s serious. God is super holy and though He loves you beyond comprehension, there’s certain sins He absolutely cannot tolerate, just as I myself, as a much less holy mother, will not tolerate certain sins in my home.

So being children of God, He does have expectations and does still punish those He has accepted in Christ. My encouragement is that if you’re in a sexual relationship, to repent by telling your guy he needs to respect you or you’re out.

Indeed, as 1 Corinthians 13:4 says, “Love suffer long.” If your boyfriend really loves you, he can suffer a while until he’s honorable and mature enough to make you his wife. (Click to Tweet)

When You’re Married to a Green Goblin

Christian wife, I know it hurts, but you also have to long-suffer for your husband (but if he’s physically abusive, get out and get safe). But if you’re disappointed in the man he’s become, I ask you to role play. If you were the one really struggling, would you want him to give up on you, or would you hope he’d keep his promise to be with you through good times and in bad? God sees the future, remember? Apparently, married couples who stick it out, even if it’s years of suffering, end up happier than those who chose divorce.

It’s all a matter of truly trusting God versus just saying you do. God wants us to love even our own enemies, and Paul exhorts the Christian spouse who has an unbelieving wife or husband to stick it out: your example could be used by God to bring that person to Christ, and nonetheless, your children will be made holy because of your godliness.

I remember how long God put up with me loving and idolizing guys and relationships and it humbles me. Think of how long God has and still does put up with you and all of your sin. And if you’ve placed your trust in Christ, you are way stronger than Spider-Man for, “He who is in you is greater than he who is in the world.” (1 John 4:4)

Christ in you is stronger than your husband’s sins and failures, and stronger than Satan, who wants to destroy the both of you, starting with your marriage. (Click to Tweet)

For when two are in agreement in Christ, they are a serious force to be reckoned with: “On this rock I will build my church, and the gates of hell will not prevail against it.” (Matthew 16:18)

Two Christians can storm the gates of hell, tearing down its stronghold on others, and set captives free.

Satan is it out to steal, kill and destroy everyone, but especially the Christian, and that includes your husband. (Click to Tweet)

Beg Jesus to fill you and strengthen you so you can stop fighting against your husband and instead, be the superhero who fights for him. (Click to Tweet)

And who but God knows when that Green Goblin of yours will change again, and this time, transforming into the man of Christ God wants him to be.


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Me and Sir Jonathan’s TRUE supernatural love story is now on Wattpad!

I quickly tossed the bags in a bin by the counter as Chris did the same, and then turned to leave.

“Wait,” he said.

I halted, my heart beginning to pound, and then slowly faced him. He stepped forward, his deep, brown eyes rapt on me. And without any more warning, he took my face in his hands and pressed his supple lips against mine. My muscles tensed and I froze. Is this really happening right now? I closed my eyes, even though doing so felt like a crime. His kiss held much of the same weakening effect it had on me last time, but anxiety combated some of it. The fear of getting hurt again gripped me just as much as his kiss did.

After a very long moment he released me. “I really like you, Natasha…a lot.”

I blinked at him, my tongue still frozen. Thoughts fumbled around my mind in a drunken stupor despite having not drank. Did he just say-but how-I thought he-Heat filled my cheeks as I smiled. Maybe now isn’t the time to process Chris’s antics. He returned the gesture. But surprisingly, it wasn’t that pleased/amused smile. It was…different. It looked tender, genuine…


“You scared me,” I said.

“I’m sorry.” Dace slid his hands onto my hips and kissed me.

I caressed the back of his head, my heartbeat slowing as I pressed my body closer to his. His warm torso felt like stone. I pulled back and peered into his eyes.

“There’s something so mystical about you.” Dace stared with a passion that seared into the depths of me.

“Mystical? How so?”

“Just the way you move or don’t move. There’s a charm about you that I’ve never seen before.”
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The Phantom Lover, the Dark Angel, and the Dream Prince.

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