Why Not To Chase A Name For Yourself

Are you hustling to make a name for yourself? If you’re putting anything above Christ—career, school, auditions, a boyfriend or girlfriend, etc.—Jesus has some tough words: 

    “He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who does not take his cross and follow after Me is not worthy of Me. He who finds his life will lose it, and he who loses his life for My sake will find it.”-Matthew 10:37-39 NKJV

    If you’re trying hard to make a life for yourself, accomplish what you want to accomplish, and that comes first in your life, then you’ll lose it. But if you lay down everything and say, “Jesus, whatever You will for me because You deserve all of me since you gave all of Yourself, You withheld nothing, not even your own life for me, how can I not in turn surrender my will and desires to You who have PROVEN You are worthy to follow. No human being is more worthy than You. No one else died to set me free, to forgive me when I wasn’t even seeking forgiveness, but was loving my sin. No one offers me heaven, everlasting peace, joy, and power to overcome the devil. Only You do. So I will do what You want me to because You are perfect goodness and love,”—if you have that kind of heart, Jesus promises you will find your life. 

    Many are lost because they haven’t discovered their true life and purpose is hidden in Christ and only by seeking Him can it be found.

    And many are deceived into practicing selfishness in the name of, “God wants to bless me!”

    Too many are chasing fleeting things and forgetting to chase Christ. The kingdom and glory of this world is FADING fast, but God’s kingdom is the only one that will remain. 

    What will you choose to chase?

    Are You On the Way to Hell In the Name of Love?

    How many people are on their way to hell in the name of love?

    I thought I knew what love was. I didn’t know at the time that the reason I kept searching for it was because I had no idea what it was, so everywhere I looked, it escaped me. There was no real love in the relationships I had; in the fire I felt by the touch of a guy. No amount of attention or affection was ever enough. And it was always polluted, and left me broken, over and over and over again. I thought for sure I’d be unmarried the rest of my life, and alone.

    And all the while, there were times where, in the midst of my brokenness, my heartache over yet again another failed attempt at love, I cried out to Jesus. I remembered the One…but then, the devil would send another beautiful guy in my path who said the right words and I forgot about Christ; forgot how He answered my cry and showed me He was there…listening, near…I didn’t know He wasn’t just close, but that He was waiting…for me.

    So years passed and heartbreak after heartbreak it was the same thing, moments of crying to Jesus, experiencing His nearness, and then getting distracted from it. This path of darkness and thorns with just the briefest moments of light was all my doing…I didn’t know that Jesus didn’t want to just pierce my darkness once in a while, but that He wanted to completely eradicate it and flood my life with His light.

    After my third heartbreak in a row from the same guy, the one I had loved more than any other, I cried out to Jesus. But this time, it was different. Because this time, when He answered me, I determined to respond, and to keep responding.

    I was done searching for love in broken human beings, I was going to seek out Jesus like I had the many guys whom I wanted attention from. I began reading the New Testament, I turned on Christian music and that’s all I listened to. I went back to Christian, bible-teaching church, I attended a woman’s bible study. My prayers were suddenly being answered like never before. Joy flooded my heart and in six days after that last heartbreak, my heart was healed! I was so content, so joyful, so excited. Everything was different, and it wasn’t just a shift of perspective, by my whole life began to transform. Light had found His way in my heart and mind and now I was walking on a clear, bright path.
    And till this day, I still am.

    If you’re looking for love everywhere, but have yet to REALLY seek it in Jesus, I dare you to start hunting. And here is what I am absolutely, undeniably certain of, you will discover Him, and you will never need to look anywhere else again.

    What Single Sisters Should Learn From Ruth Part 2

    You can read part one of this study here.

    In further studying the book of Ruth, something astounding about her going after Boaz for a husband was revealed:
    7.) Ruth didn’t marry Boaz just for her own happiness and well-being, but for others’ as well.

    Ruth didn’t marry Boaz for a selfish reason. She didn’t marry him just because he made her happy. Ruth knew Boaz would be a major blessing for her mother-in-law, Naomi, as well, since he was one of her relatives, aka a family redeemer, someone who could buy back the land Naomi had lost.

    Ruth was a treasure, a prime catch; she was beautiful both inside and out, yet she chose to marry a significantly older man rather than going after younger, “hotter” men. Had she chose to do the latter, her mother-in-law would’ve been abandoned to live in poverty with none to care for her.

    Ruth wasn’t thinking about herself alone in her decision to marry Boaz, but instead, knew her marriage to him would be a ministry and blessing to someone else.

    Too often we enter into engagement and marriage solely because the person makes us happy. We aren’t thinking about how our marriage can bless others and be a ministry. Happiness is certainly a by-product of a godly marriage, but it shouldn’t be the sole motivating factor as to why we do it. God is much bigger and much more generous than that. Which leads to the final lesson I want to share with you ladies:

    8.) Ruth and Boaz’s marriage pointed people to God.

    And all the people who were at the gate, and the elders, said, “ We are witnesses. The LORD make the woman who is coming to your house like Rachel and Leah, the two who built the house of Israel; and may you prosper in Ephrathah and be famous in Bethlehem. May your house be like the house of Perez, whom Tamar bore to Judah, because of the offspring which the LORD will give you from this young woman.” So Boaz took Ruth and she became his wife; and when he went in to her, the LORD gave her conception, and she bore a son. Then the women said to Naomi, “Blessed be the LORD, who has not left you this day without a close relative; and may his name be famous in Israel! And may he be to you a restorer of life and a nourisher of your old age; for your daughter-in-law, who loves you, who is better to you than seven sons, has borne him.”-Ruth‬ ‭4:11-15‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

    Both the noble men of the city and the women saw God in Ruth and Boaz’s relationship and were very encouraged by it. They knew the union of this godly couple was special. And indeed, their marriage bore the grandfather of King David and from their lineage, Jesus the Messiah came forth.
    Their union was a blessing, a ministry, and a beacon of Christ’s light to not only their community, but to the many generations that would follow.

    For us Christians, it is the same. The weight of the legacy we leave behind will be according to our doing. We reap what we sow. If our marriage was ultimately about advancing the gospel and enlarging Christ’s kingdom, the legacy we leave will be great and will effect even the generations after us.

    I don’t know about you, but I want my marriage to be a powerful force that echoes on long after I’m gone and resounds into eternity where I will see and meet the lives that are in heaven because of it. And I pray the same becomes true for you.
    With love,

    Here’s Why We Were Created


    “I give waters in the wilderness And rivers in the desert, To give drink to My people, My chosen. This [insert your name] I have formed for Myself; [she] shall declare My praise.”
    Isaiah‬ ‭43:20-21‬ ‭NKJV


    Let that marinate in your brain. If you are a Christian, God chose you. God formed you for Himself so that you would declare His praise.

    The Perfect Creator, the One all will someday bow before, picked you; He picked me. Why?

    Because I knew you would pick Me. I formed you to be loved by Me, and I by you.

    Do we grasp this? I mean really? How can we? The closest earthly picture I can fathom to even begin understanding why on earth God just wants to love us and be loved by us is my son.

    Before I got pregnant, I longed for a child. Interestingly, the longer I walked with Jesus, growing more like Him, the stronger this desire became. It was so great, I wanted a child so immensely, I just remember falling to my knees during worship and weeping.

    But why? Why did I want a kid so bad? Because though I didn’t think this at the time, because I never had a child so my brain couldn’t compute this, my heart, my spirit knew that I would so love and enjoy a child. It was and is a supernatural instinct. That’s the only way this makes any sense at all. Because if you’ve had a child you understand all the discomfort and pain pregnancy and birth brings, and all the extreme exhaustion and difficulty caring for a child entails. It just does not naturally make sense to so deeply desire something that takes such hard work and makes us so vulnerable.

    When a child rebels, it absolutely breaks a loving parent’s heart. My dad was a marine. He is one of the toughest if not thee toughest men I know, but when he found out my sister was on crack for a week, he was destroyed. When he broke down in front of her, it so moved her, she stopped doing it.

    We were created in Christ’s image. Our desire to love and be loved is not natural, it is godly. Though we can grow up and choose our own path, rejecting Him and utterly breaking God’s heart, He loves us enough to make us anyway because He knows that some of us will love Him back. And to Him, that’s worth it; we’re worth it.

    If you didn’t know what your purpose was, you do now: to love God and be loved by Him. Praise God indeed. What an amazing reality. As time goes on, and we continue holding Christ’s hand, I pray we grasp this truth evermore deeply because God wants us to.

    “I made known to them your name, and I will continue to make it known, that the love with which you have loved me may be in them, and I in them.”-Jesus (John 17:26)

    Finally, A Romance That Never Ends


    “For your Maker is your husband, the Lord of Hosts is His name; And your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel; He is called the God of the whole earth. For the Lord has called you like a woman forsaken and grieved in spirit, like a youthful wife when you were refused,” says your God. “For a mere moment I have forsaken you, but with great mercies I will gather you. With a little wrath I hid My face from you for a moment; but with everlasting kindness I will have mercy on you,” says the Lord, your Redeemer. “For this is like the waters of Noah to Me; for as I have sworn that the waters of Noah would no longer cover the earth, so have I sworn that I would not be angry with you, nor rebuke you. For the mountains shall depart and the hills be removed, but My kindness shall not depart from you. Nor shall My covenant of peace be removed,” says the Lord, who has mercy on you.”-Isaiah 54:5-10
    God is the Author of romance. He is the embodiment of love; He is love personified. When He speaks, it is from a source of pure, unadulterated, all-powerful, all-consuming love. There is nothing more intoxicating than God’s love.

    Before midnight, February 22nd, 2009, I was intoxicated by what I thought was love. The affection and attention I received from guys controlled basically everything I did in life. My desire for love was so great, it influenced all of my decisions from the moment my eyes opened each morning. I would spend at least forty-five minutes on my hair and makeup before leaving for school, and my outfits had to be sexy.

    Every weekend I went places with a motive: to find a hot guy and reel him in. I was always seeking attention, affirmation, and adoration from guys I liked. If I didn’t get what I wanted, and when things fell apart, it always made me sorrowful. My relational status dictated my demeanor and my outlook on life.

    I was so consumed with finding “the one,” I was so lost in the feelings, the emotional high, the pleasure of being desired, that I had no idea it was an idol; guys were my god.

    I worshipped being wanted.

    I told people I was a Christian; I thought since I believed in Jesus and prayed that I was good. I was totally oblivious to the fact that I was breaking the very first of the Ten Commandments: “You shall have no other gods before me.” A “god” or an “idol” is anything you love more than god, anything that controls you, anything you can’t let go of. I allowed romantic relationships with guys to grab a hold of my deepest desire and greatest need and try to fulfill it. Obviously, they never did.

    Whoever coined the phrase, “You’re looking for love in all the wrong places,” was quite wise. I was looking for love in the wrong places: broken, fallen, sinful guys. They didn’t know the Author of Love, they didn’t have him in their heart. They could never love me the way I so desperately wanted them to. There was only one Man who could love me the way I needed to be loved: Jesus.

    On February 22nd, 2009 I finally awoke to that amazing truth. My last heartbreak jarred me. I had been inching closer to God, but that day I collapsed into His arms, and this time, I didn’t want to let go. I was done. I knew what I hoped in­—the relationships I had dreamed of—were just that: dreams distracting me from the truth; the truth that my real dream Prince was there all along, waiting to sweep me into His adventure, into His great romance, and fulfill all of my desires.

    I stopped searching for love in guys and began finding it in Christ. 

    His love was so sweet, so tender, so healthy, it healed me in literally six days. I no longer needed attention from a guy, or a boyfriend. I was single and happier than I’d ever been. Almost seven years later, and I am still more joyful than ever, in love with my Redeemer, my first Husband, my King, Jesus Christ. I was carried into a divine romance, and by God’s breathtaking grace, I will enjoy it for all eternity.

    Have you been captivated by God’s love? Do share in a comment when your divine romance began and where it has brought you. If you have yet to experience God’s intoxicating love, I pray you consider what the idol is in your life, lay it down, and seek Christ. You will certainly discover all that you’ve ever needed is in Him. If you need prayer or encouragement, feel free to email me: BetterThanPrinceCharming(at)gmail.com

    The Real Reason Why A Man Pushing Premarital Sex Doesn’t Love You

    Ladies, if a “Christian” man intends on and expects to have sex before marriage, he does not really love you, and you may not have considered this as the reason why. Stay put; it’s about to get deep.

    “Finally then, brothers, we ask and encourage you in the Lord Jesus, that as you have received from us how you must walk and please God — as you are doing — do so even more.

    For this is God’s will, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality, so that each of you knows how to control his own body in sanctification and honor, not with lustful desires, like the Gentiles who don’t know God. This means one must not transgress against and defraud his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger of all these offenses, as we also previously told and warned you. For God has not called us to impurity but to sanctification. Therefore, the person who rejects this does not reject man, but God, who also gives you His Holy Spirit.”
    ‭‭1 Thessalonians‬ ‭4:1, 3-8‬ ‭HCSB‬‬

    The man who purposes to have sex with you before marriage is rejecting God by refusing to abstain from premarital sex. He is rejecting Christ which means if he dies today, according to scripture, he will go to hell:

    “Don’t you know that the unrighteous will not inherit God’s kingdom? Do not be deceived: No sexually immoral people, idolaters, adulterers … will inherit God’s kingdom.”
    ‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭6:9-10‬ ‭HCSB‬‬

    It’s much deeper than many of us realize. So much of pagan and idol worship involves sex outside of the covenant of marriage. Having sex with temple prostitutes and orgies were popular forms of “worship” and here is why:

    God ordained marriage to display the beautiful, holy, intimate relationship He has with His bride the Church. In the bible, the word used for when a man makes love to his wife is “yada.” It is a deep “knowing” hence the reason the bible usually translates it in ways like this, “and Isaac *knew* Rebecca.”

    That same word is used often by God when He tells us He will cause us to “know” Him.

    “I will take you to be My wife forever. I will take you to be My wife in righteousness, justice, love, and compassion. I will take you to be My wife in faithfulness, and you will know Yahweh.”
    ‭‭Hosea‬ ‭2:19-20‬ ‭HCSB‬‬

    God is all about creation pointing back to Him, glorifying Him. The union of a married couple is supposed to help us understand the way God desires us to deeply know and love Him, just as we are deeply loved and known by Him.

    Satan, God’s enemy, the fallen angel who hates Jesus more than anyone, as an act of defiance toward Him, takes pleasure in profaning God’s creation, in profaning everything, but ESPECIALLY marriage. Satan warps the creation of true, sacred marital oneness (“sex” as the world calls it), and makes it as vile as possible, hence pornography, rape, homosexuality, beastiality, orgies, etc.

    But with Christians, he needs to be much more crafty and less flamboyantly profane to lure them into his trap. Satan’s mission: seduce God’s children whom God loves immeasurably and died to save, trick them into having premarital sex so they can be his greatest weapons to crush God’s heart. After luring a Christian to reject the Holy Spirit and walk into his grasp, engaging in sex outside of God’s covenant of marriage, Satan peers up into the fiery eyes of Jesus and says, “look at Your children. Look at how much they love You.”

    Beloved, do not ever let yourself become a flaming arrow in Satan’s hand used to pierce Christ’s heart and trample and spit upon His sacrifice. He died so you can be free from sin, not so that you can keep following Satan.

    “But anyone joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him. Run from sexual immorality! “Every sin a person can commit is outside the body.” On the contrary, the person who is sexually immoral sins against his own body. Don’t you know that your body is a sanctuary of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought at a price. Therefore glorify God in your body.”
    ‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭6:17-20‬ ‭‬‬