I LOVE this man. No, I don’t know him personally, but ladiessssss, he just killed this point (in a good way): “We keep telling the Christian women to wait and not telling the Christian men to pursue! If you plan to lead in marriage, lead in the pursuit!”
Trust me sisters, this is a worthy watch! He has some GREAT advice! Hopefully, the men watch this, too.
Did you watch it? Tell me what you thought of his advice in a comment.
“I have stretched out My hands all day long to a rebellious people, Who walk in a way that is not good, According to their own thoughts; A people who provoke Me to anger continually to My face…”
Isaiah 65:2-3 NKJV
The bible says God doesn’t change; He is steadfast, eternally the same. His character has always hated evil and loved good, and it always will. There are things we do that provoke Him to anger continually. Indeed, God loves us, but hates the sin we commit. To use, “He loves me,” as a defense or justification for not repenting of what He calls sin and what He hates, is to trample underfoot His sacrifice on the cross for your sins.
“For if we sin willfully after we have received the knowledge of the truth, there no longer remains a sacrifice for sins, but a certain fearful expectation of judgment, and fiery indignation which will devour the adversaries. Anyone who has rejected Moses’ law dies without mercy on the testimony of two or three witnesses. Of how much worse punishment, do you suppose, will he be thought worthy who has trampled the Son of God underfoot, counted the blood of the covenant by which he was sanctified a common thing, and insulted the Spirit of grace? For we know Him who said, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord. And again, “The LORD will judge His people.” It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God.”
Hebrews 10:26-31 NKJV
I know way too many Millennial Christians who use the, “Jesus loves me,” tactic to fool themselves and feel okay about engaging in sin. They don’t want to humble themselves and repent: they want heaven, God’s acceptance, and their sin. But Christ is a sword-bearer who demands a sharp divide and says those who love the world make themselves His enemy. For us to think this holy God who hated sin so much He sent His Son to be brutally punished for it and die in order to cleanse those who would later choose to trust in Jesus and repent, is to create your own false version of God; a god of your own understanding that is cool with whatever you do and accepts you anyway; an unholy god, opposite to the one in the bible. If your god doesn’t care if you sin, then don’t call him Jesus. Don’t blaspheme and lie about the holy character of God and deceive others into following your false version because you’ll just be heaping up even more judgement for yourself in the end.
My prayer is that some, even just one person reading this will admit to themselves and God that they’ve been making excuses for their sin and creating their own god that makes them comfortable and not accountable to change. That you would realize that your god is fake and powerless and that you clinging to this false idol of Jesus will only harm you and others. Christ offers so many glorious things in exchange for our repentance: forgiveness, fellowship with Him, power to transform and help others change. He gives us power over demons, power over satan. But you give all that up when you choose to deny holiness and cling to your sins.
There is nothing more delightful than experiencing Jesus FOR REAL. Because getting emotional when you sing at church doesn’t mean you’ve experienced Him, and experiencing Him goes way beyond that and overflows into every area of your life. It is not mere feelings and emotional highs, it is undeniable evidence of Him transforming you, leading you, speaking to you, teaching you, answering you, helping you.
If you’re not experiencing increasing holiness and power over the sins in your life, if you’re not experiencing a greater desire for Jesus and His truth and a lesser and lesser desire and eventual hatred of sin, then you don’t have a real, surrendered, right relationship with Him. You are not His follower, you’re just His fan who visits Him at church, but doesn’t seek to obey Him. You’re not a child of God, you’re sorta religious. And what a tragedy, when Christ calls us to such a more meaningful and incredible life; to true life. You have no idea what you’re missing out on and that is why you’re holding onto the sins in your life rather than forsaking them and knowing following Jesus is SO much worthier and better for you and others.
It angers God and breaks His heart, and as someone who loves God and people, I’m telling you truthfully, He does not accept you if you continue to love sin. He just does not. This is not Natasha’s teaching, it’s the bible’s. And if you’re a professing Christian, you’re supposed to believe and seek to obey that book; not just listen to the parts that are nice and easy to accept; you don’t just accept as much of Jesus as you’re comfortable with, you let go and surrender all to Him and embrace everything He desires for you. And then your life will really begin.
I’ve been there as a wife, for the first year-and-a-half or so of my marriage, pursuing my own endeavors, my God-given dreams. Now, certainly, God had called me to be a writer, but I took that calling and exalted it above my marriage.
Sometimes, we wives do that: God has a calling on our lives, has gifted us, but in our zeal and lack of wisdom, we dash to make that calling a reality, rather than patiently wait for Him to make it a reality.
Those early endeavors of mine were hardly fruitful. I look at women who are twice my age or so, usually with kids out of the house already, and God is using their gifts in mighty ways. They typically have their own ministry and its bearing wonderful fruit for God’s kingdom, but again, they’re twice my age without little kids to care for. These women were likely faithful in what God gave them; their duties as a wife and mother, and put their ministry dreams on hold. I bet most, if not all of them didn’t even realize God was using their family to train and prepare them for their future ministries.
I came to a place where I said yes, I have these cool dreams I’d like to someday walk in for the Lord, like have my own Christian acting school, but I sure ain’t pursuing that now! I’m a wife and mommy first, and I know God wants me to be faithful in these ministries first and devote myself to them because these ministries are far more important than I can probably even fathom. As the bible says:
“The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish pulls it down with her hands.”-Proverbs 14:1 NKJV
Supporting my husband and working alongside him has borne delightful fruit and I actually enjoy it more than pursuing or doing my own thing, and I pray for as long as we both are alive, we are one team for Jesus, co-laboring for the gospel.
Lord, please help me to remember and grow in my understanding of how crucial my current roles are. Guard me from trying to speed up Your calling on my life, and help me to be faithful with what You’ve given me. Give me patience, and let me not forsake abiding in Your presence, for ultimately, with You there is fullness of joy. In Jesus’ name, amen.
“What shall we say about such wonderful things as these? If God is for us, who can ever be against us? 32 Since he did not spare even his own Son but gave him up for us all, won’t he also give us everything else? 33 Who dares accuse us whom God has chosen for his own? No one—for God himself has given us right standing with himself. 34 Who then will condemn us? No one—for Christ Jesus died for us and was raised to life for us, and he is sitting in the place of honor at God’s right hand, pleading for us.
35 Can anything ever separate us from Christ’s love? Does it mean he no longer loves us if we have trouble or calamity, or are persecuted, or hungry, or destitute, or in danger, or threatened with death? 36 (As the Scriptures say, “For your sake we are killed every day; we are being slaughtered like sheep.” 37 No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us.
38 And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons,[p] neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. 39 No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
In Genesis 3, Eve overstepped her role and took on her husband’s hat—the hat of leader—answering the serpent first, then deciding without seeking her husband’s opinion, to grab and eat the forbidden fruit, and then she provided that which was forbidden to him. She took on the role of protector and provider and this brought not only herself down, but her husband as well, for later on, he felt shameful, and God cursed them both. Eve’s decision also helped bring a wedge between her husband and his relationship with God.
We women have to remember that we were taken from man. And that very well may be the reason we sometimes—or often times—try to take the lead in our family, and step in front of and speak up before our husband does. We also want to protect and provide, but we must learn how to tame that desire, and make it secondary to our husband’s roles of protecting and providing. We provide the protection our husband has set; enforcing his spiritual and moral rules and seeking him to defend against spiritual attacks. I do believe in having your own prayer life of course, and covering your husband and family in prayer, but when we don’t include our Christian husband whenever we are attacked by Satan, we are doing our husband and ourselves a disservice, and likely even unintentionally belittling our men. We think we got this; we don’t need their spiritual support; we can fight the devil ourselves and stand firm on our own. We may not verbalize this, but our actions prove it to be so.
This desire to rule over ourselves and our husband is a curse that brings ruin to our marriage if not brought into submission to Jesus Christ. Being a strong-willed, determined woman myself, I know this kind of submission to our husband isn’t always easy, but may we rely evermore on the strength of the Lord within us to accomplish this feat, that our marriages and households may thrive and be blessed.
Much love, ladies.
“Love is patient, love is kind.
Love does not envy,
is not boastful, is not conceited,
does not act improperly,
is not selfish, is not provoked,
and does not keep a record of wrongs.
Love finds no joy in unrighteousness
but rejoices in the truth.
It bears all things, believes all things,
hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never ends.”-1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Before you like this post, really let these words sink in. Allow them to act as a mirror to reflect this truth about what Love is into your mind and heart. How many of us hold these standards as love, or even think about these things when we’re saying, “I love you,” or even hold to these things with the ones we claim to love? Are you patient with your beloved? Are you kind to your beloved? Are you envious of your beloved? Are you boastful about yourself and your accomplishments? Are you conceited? Are you acting improperly toward your beloved (which in this case, would be in a romantic relationship among an unmarried man and woman), are you selfish–your way or you get angry? Are you provoked, do you get easily angered by your beloved? Do you keep a record of wrongs, remembering and holding onto things your beloved has done to you? Do you bring up those things? Do you think about those things? Do you tell others about those things? Are you taking joy in unrighteousness; are you enjoying sin with your beloved? Are you rejoicing in the truth together, the truth about who Jesus Christ is, and what He has done and spoken? Are you holding fast during hardship, or throwing in the towel? Are you hoping the best, or thinking the worst? Are you “falling out of love?” because real love never ends. This is the litmus test for if you are truly loving another person AND if he or she is truly loving you!
This I KNOW from not just experience, because I HAVE gone through this, BUT because by His amazing goodness, kindness, and mercy, Jesus has shown me what REAL LOVE is, love is NOT intense, pleasurable feelings, and happiness. It is not enjoying one another’s company and affection. Outside of marriage, that is NOT love, it is lust and infatuation. It is tainted and selfish, because the motivation for continuing with this person is because how he or she makes YOU feel. Take away the affection and enjoyment of their company and so goes away your “love.”
So, are you really walking in love with another person? And how can you really know? God alone holds the answers and thank goodness He shares them with us very clearly and plainly in His Word, the bible. If you refrain from reading it and studying it, you can easily be deceived by emotions and the support and encouragement of others who also don’t know what true love is. And this is not only tragic, but can be extremely dangerous to your soul and your relationship and standing with God. Yes, God wants you to be happy, but not at the expense of being holy, of being like Him, of following Him, of being an obedient son or daughter. Happiness without holiness is temporal, fleeting, and will not bring God’s blessing, but His wrath. Indeed, He disciplines those He loves, He does not bless sin, He blesses righteousness. Doing the right thing isn’t always easy, but if you cling to Him and get to know His love, it becomes much easier, and only more easy as you grow more in love with Him.
“Jesus said to the people who believed in him, ‘You are truly my disciples if you remain faithful to my teachings. And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.'”-John 8:31-32