“Don’t Cheat On Your Future Spouse” News!

Who remembers this:

image.jpeg

Well, read on 🙂

By the time I was sixteen, I became a pro at falling in infatuation with guys, and they were pros at falling out of infatuation with me.

The definition of infatuation is literally:

“an intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone or something.”

But God redeemed my break up expertise and now, after being happily married for almost seven years, I have some wisdom to share so you can stop cheating on your future spouse and instead prepare for him or her.

Are you a single Christian waiting for a spouse? Have you tasted the waters of different men or women in search of “the one,” only to walk away thirsty? Is there a best way to prepare for your future husband or wife?

In this short, easy to grasp eBook, single Christians will learn how to not cheat on their future spouse, and how best to prepare for him or her.

If you’ve seen my “Don’t Cheat On Your Future Spouse” YouTube video and want to have a more in-depth and practical guide on this topic, Don’t Cheat On Your Future Spouse is for you!

Get it here on Amazon for Kindle eReader or for the free Kindle app.

Until next time, ladies, know your worth!

Jesus Loves Me so Don’t Judge Me

“I have stretched out My hands all day long to a rebellious people, Who walk in a way that is not good, According to their own thoughts; A people who provoke Me to anger continually to My face…”
‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭65:2-3‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

The bible says God doesn’t change; He is steadfast, eternally the same. His character has always hated evil and loved good, and it always will. There are things we do that provoke Him to anger continually. Indeed, God loves us, but hates the sin we commit. To use, “He loves me,” as a defense or justification for not repenting of what He calls sin and what He hates, is to trample underfoot His sacrifice on the cross for your sins.

“For if we sin willfully after we have received the knowledge of the truth, there no longer remains a sacrifice for sins, but a certain fearful expectation of judgment, and fiery indignation which will devour the adversaries. Anyone who has rejected Moses’ law dies without mercy on the testimony of two or three witnesses. Of how much worse punishment, do you suppose, will he be thought worthy who has trampled the Son of God underfoot, counted the blood of the covenant by which he was sanctified a common thing, and insulted the Spirit of grace? For we know Him who said, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord. And again, “The LORD will judge His people.” It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God.”
‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭10:26-31‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

I know way too many Millennial Christians who use the, “Jesus loves me,” tactic to fool themselves and feel okay about engaging in sin. They don’t want to humble themselves and repent: they want heaven, God’s acceptance, and their sin. But Christ is a sword-bearer who demands a sharp divide and says those who love the world make themselves His enemy. For us to think this holy God who hated sin so much He sent His Son to be brutally punished for it and die in order to cleanse those who would later choose to trust in Jesus and repent, is to create your own false version of God; a god of your own understanding that is cool with whatever you do and accepts you anyway; an unholy god, opposite to the one in the bible. If your god doesn’t care if you sin, then don’t call him Jesus. Don’t blaspheme and lie about the holy character of God and deceive others into following your false version because you’ll just be heaping up even more judgement for yourself in the end.

My prayer is that some, even just one person reading this will admit to themselves and God that they’ve been making excuses for their sin and creating their own god that makes them comfortable and not accountable to change. That you would realize that your god is fake and powerless and that you clinging to this false idol of Jesus will only harm you and others. Christ offers so many glorious things in exchange for our repentance: forgiveness, fellowship with Him, power to transform and help others change. He gives us power over demons, power over satan. But you give all that up when you choose to deny holiness and cling to your sins.

There is nothing more delightful than experiencing Jesus FOR REAL. Because getting emotional when you sing at church doesn’t mean you’ve experienced Him, and experiencing Him goes way beyond that and overflows into every area of your life. It is not mere feelings and emotional highs, it is undeniable evidence of Him transforming you, leading you, speaking to you, teaching you, answering you, helping you.

If you’re not experiencing increasing holiness and power over the sins in your life, if you’re not experiencing a greater desire for Jesus and His truth and a lesser and lesser desire and eventual hatred of sin, then you don’t have a real, surrendered, right relationship with Him. You are not His follower, you’re just His fan who visits Him at church, but doesn’t seek to obey Him. You’re not a child of God, you’re sorta religious. And what a tragedy, when Christ calls us to such a more meaningful and incredible life; to true life. You have no idea what you’re missing out on and that is why you’re holding onto the sins in your life rather than forsaking them and knowing following Jesus is SO much worthier and better for you and others.

It angers God and breaks His heart, and as someone who loves God and people, I’m telling you truthfully, He does not accept you if you continue to love sin. He just does not. This is not Natasha’s teaching, it’s the bible’s. And if you’re a professing Christian, you’re supposed to believe and seek to obey that book; not just listen to the parts that are nice and easy to accept; you don’t just accept as much of Jesus as you’re comfortable with, you let go and surrender all to Him and embrace everything He desires for you. And then your life will really begin.

The Real Reason Why A Man Pushing Premarital Sex Doesn’t Love You

Ladies, if a “Christian” man intends on and expects to have sex before marriage, he does not really love you, and you may not have considered this as the reason why. Stay put; it’s about to get deep.

“Finally then, brothers, we ask and encourage you in the Lord Jesus, that as you have received from us how you must walk and please God — as you are doing — do so even more.

For this is God’s will, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality, so that each of you knows how to control his own body in sanctification and honor, not with lustful desires, like the Gentiles who don’t know God. This means one must not transgress against and defraud his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger of all these offenses, as we also previously told and warned you. For God has not called us to impurity but to sanctification. Therefore, the person who rejects this does not reject man, but God, who also gives you His Holy Spirit.”
‭‭1 Thessalonians‬ ‭4:1, 3-8‬ ‭HCSB‬‬

The man who purposes to have sex with you before marriage is rejecting God by refusing to abstain from premarital sex. He is rejecting Christ which means if he dies today, according to scripture, he will go to hell:

“Don’t you know that the unrighteous will not inherit God’s kingdom? Do not be deceived: No sexually immoral people, idolaters, adulterers … will inherit God’s kingdom.”
‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭6:9-10‬ ‭HCSB‬‬

It’s much deeper than many of us realize. So much of pagan and idol worship involves sex outside of the covenant of marriage. Having sex with temple prostitutes and orgies were popular forms of “worship” and here is why:

God ordained marriage to display the beautiful, holy, intimate relationship He has with His bride the Church. In the bible, the word used for when a man makes love to his wife is “yada.” It is a deep “knowing” hence the reason the bible usually translates it in ways like this, “and Isaac *knew* Rebecca.”

That same word is used often by God when He tells us He will cause us to “know” Him.

“I will take you to be My wife forever. I will take you to be My wife in righteousness, justice, love, and compassion. I will take you to be My wife in faithfulness, and you will know Yahweh.”
‭‭Hosea‬ ‭2:19-20‬ ‭HCSB‬‬

God is all about creation pointing back to Him, glorifying Him. The union of a married couple is supposed to help us understand the way God desires us to deeply know and love Him, just as we are deeply loved and known by Him.

Satan, God’s enemy, the fallen angel who hates Jesus more than anyone, as an act of defiance toward Him, takes pleasure in profaning God’s creation, in profaning everything, but ESPECIALLY marriage. Satan warps the creation of true, sacred marital oneness (“sex” as the world calls it), and makes it as vile as possible, hence pornography, rape, homosexuality, beastiality, orgies, etc.

But with Christians, he needs to be much more crafty and less flamboyantly profane to lure them into his trap. Satan’s mission: seduce God’s children whom God loves immeasurably and died to save, trick them into having premarital sex so they can be his greatest weapons to crush God’s heart. After luring a Christian to reject the Holy Spirit and walk into his grasp, engaging in sex outside of God’s covenant of marriage, Satan peers up into the fiery eyes of Jesus and says, “look at Your children. Look at how much they love You.”

Beloved, do not ever let yourself become a flaming arrow in Satan’s hand used to pierce Christ’s heart and trample and spit upon His sacrifice. He died so you can be free from sin, not so that you can keep following Satan.

“But anyone joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him. Run from sexual immorality! “Every sin a person can commit is outside the body.” On the contrary, the person who is sexually immoral sins against his own body. Don’t you know that your body is a sanctuary of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought at a price. Therefore glorify God in your body.”
‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭6:17-20‬ ‭‬‬

Author Interview for Kiss A Frog, Miss the Prince

Author, Natasha Sapienza has written an eBook, Kiss A Frog, Miss The Prince. In Kiss A Frog, Natasha discusses four types of “frogs” women get into relationships with before introducing them to the Perfect Prince and the Rescued Frog. With funny anecdotes and great advice, women discover how to discern frogs from true princes, and are encouraged to wait on God to write their real-life fairy tale.

Q: So when did you start becoming boy crazy?

N: The plague started in Kindergarten, from the moment I laid eyes on Bobby Well. I would keep record of all my boyfriends and in fifth grade alone I had sixteen. The number went down in high school, but I still managed to have ten during those four years.

 

Q: When did you become content with being single?
N: I was nineteen-years-old. February 21st, 2009, I had made a decision to let go of my ex because I knew God did not intend for us to be together. In fact, my ex was a very real obstacle in my relationship with Christ. After I surrendered that relationship, Jesus began to heal my heart and in literally six days, I was no longer crying, but was filled with joy and finally content in my singleness.

 

Q: How old were you when you met your “dream prince” as you call him?

N: It was actually quite soon after giving up my ex. I had prayed for a prophet to be placed in my path so I can receive a clear word from the Lord, because although I had been healed of a broken heart, I was still getting “signs” that were confusing me. “Maybe I am meant to be with my ex, just not right now. Or maybe I’m supposed to be with my other ex.” After only a week—if that—of praying for a prophet to be placed in my path, I was randomly invited to a church service that would be held at a college in Miami. I went, and the last person to be introduced by the pastor was, “Ricardo Strachan, a mighty prophet of the Lord!” I approached the prophet after the service and at once he said, “The Spirit of the Lord told me Satan has been confusing you in the area of relationships, but God said He’s going to make things clear for you very soon—very soon.” I met Jonathan, the man who is now my husband, on March 4th, 2009, not even two weeks after saying goodbye to my ex. And it was very clear.

 

Q: How did you meet your dream prince?

N: My older sister started telling me about this guy from her theatre program in college who she believed God wanted me to meet. I was content in my singleness and not looking to be in a relationship, but I invited him to come with his brother to where I attended service, and I invited my sister. Neither of them came, but Jonathan did so our first official meeting was at the building I went to service at—and the building we’d eventually walk down the aisle in.

Q: How long were you and your dream prince engaged before your wedding day?
N: We were boyfriend and girlfriend for a little over a year when Jonathan proposed. Knowing that God had called us to get married and not wanting to play with fire, we kept our engagement short (four months), so by a year and six months we said, “I do.”

 

Q: Why is your ministry called Better Than Prince Charming?
N: My husband actually came up with that name. A few times in our relationship, God reminded me of this bible verse: “It is better to take refuge in the LORD than to trust in princes.”-Psalm 118:9. So God is better than Prince Charming (who isn’t a devout Christian), and the man God has for you is also better than him.

 

Q: In Kiss A Frog, Miss the Prince, you talk about four types of “frogs” we ladies can get into relationships with. Have you been with all four of those kinds of frogs?

N: With my track record, yes, unfortunately I have been with the Infatuated Frog, Rebel Frog, Controlling Frog, and the Deceitful Frog—several times. I had this crazy notion that I was some sort of super woman who could save bad boys so I always ended up in relationships with guys who had serious issues.

 

Q: Which type of frog do you think is the worst?

N: They’re all quite slimy. The Controlling Frog can end up becoming abusive, and that’s certainly a horrible situation to find yourself in. They all use manipulation in some form, but the Deceitful Frog can be very emotionally damaging, causing trust issues that interfere with a woman’s ability to trust her future spouse. In my personal experience, the last frog was the worst. He was mostly an Infatuated Frog and a Rebel Frog, but I found that the heart break was worst with him because of how much I had let him in emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Not to say Christian men are absolutely perfect, but when a man is not following Christ, whether knowingly or unknowingly, he’s following Satan. Satan is all about serving self, whereas Christ is all about serving others. When you are in a relationship with a frog, no matter how good he makes you feel, he’s seeking to get his desires met, and this always leads to pain and heart ache. So opening your heart up to any frog in general is a path to brokenness and eventual destruction.

 

Q: Why do you think women date frogs?

N: Insecurity is a big reason, but the root is always a disconnect from Christ. When you do not know Love Himself intimately, you search for Him in other places. We are looking for closeness and affirmation, identity and purpose, and all of those precious treasures are hidden in Christ. Thus, they can only be experienced by those who are abiding in Him. Abiding as in choosing to pick up our cross, deny ourselves, and follow Him daily.

 

Q: Is the man dressed as a prince on the cover your husband?
N: How did you know?

 

Q: What age group of women do you think would benefit most from Kiss A Frog?

N: I believe single women of all ages can learn something helpful and receive encouragement from this book. Whether you’re a teenager and just starting to get into relationships, or a grown woman who’s had her share of relationships, I trust there’s something all single ladies can glean from.

Natasha Sapienza is a daughter of the King, a wife, and soon-to-be mother. She has written two eBooks, and is currently working on a YA fantasy trilogy. To learn more about her ministry, visit BetterThanPrinceCharming.com, or to check out Kiss A Frog, Miss The Prince, visit: http://www.amazon.com/Kiss-Frog-Prince-Natasha-Sapienza-ebook/dp/B00FDWY2G8

Why I Disagree With Kissing Before Marriage

Here’s the first reason why I disagree with kissing before marriage:

“Do not rebuke an older man, but exhort him as a father, younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, younger women as sisters, with all purity.” (I Timothy‬ ‭5‬:‭1-2‬ NKJV)

Would a brother intimately kiss his sister on the mouth? I think not. It’s strange and perverse to do so. So if Paul is telling young Timothy to treat younger women as sisters, with all purity, I am sure he means it. And in his first letter to the Corinthians he writes:

“Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.” (I Corinthians‬ ‭7‬:‭1‬ NKJV)

The word here for touch is hapto, which literally means to fasten to, adhere to, to fasten fire to a thing, kindle, set of fire.

It’s not good for a man to fasten himself onto a woman in any way; sex, long hugs, kissing, and to do anything that will kindle fire in her aka lust. For a man or woman to do this before marriage is to walk in the flesh, to be selfish, worldly, and to act ungodly.

Does not the world teach young people to have boyfriends and girlfriends and to kiss, cuddle, date, and have sex? Are we as children of God not supposed to be holy and set apart, not conforming to the pattern of this world but renewing our minds? Why then do we imitate the way the world goes about premarital relationships?

Kissing ain’t spiritual. We are gratifying our flesh—period. We like the sensation of mouth to mouth contact, we want to feel wanted, it excites us—all fleshly desires. And kissing usually leads to more intimate interaction. If you feel nothing when you kiss your boyfriend or girlfriend, no “sparks,” then that’s weird. But most people do get a fire kindled by kissing.

So if you’re a Christian in a premarital relationship and you’re kissing, you’re feeding your flesh and there is absolutely no benefit whatsoever to that. But, there is benefits to waiting till marriage to kiss.

In the beginning of our relationship, Jonathan and I were new to christianity, weren’t really getting discipled, just trying to follow God on our own. Thus, we only knew of one kind of premarital relationship: the worldly kind. We dated, we kissed a lot, we were very affectionate, and it led to sin both inwardly and outwardly. We’d cry and repent, then fall again and wonder why we couldn’t control ourselves. The bible in its wisdom has some practical principles about lust and temptation: RUN FROM IT. We weren’t running, we were walking into dumb situations that could easily lead us to sin. It wasn’t until Jonathan gained accountability from a men’s bible study and God revealed courtship to me that we began walking in victory.

We stopped kissing (we did kiss when he proposed and maybe two other pop kisses, which still, we were immature in our faith and I do not condone it), and on our wedding day that kiss was amazing! Refraining from it for months had truly made it all the more wonderful when we were finally able to again. The benefit wasn’t just a physically satisfying one, but it really strengthened our relationship and trust of one another. I knew Jonathan loved me for me and was with me for who I was in Christ—not for how I made him feel. We practiced self-control and if we could refrain from each other in our burning youth when we were very attracted to one another, it’d be very difficult for us to cheat on each other in the future.

Most importantly, you’re honoring and pleasing God. His Scripture is clear on purity. He doesn’t want His children to even lust, let alone practice things that stir it up. So when you are obedient to His Word, you are benefiting yourself because He rewards obedience here and in heaven.

So family, please don’t kiss before marriage. Honor God with your whole body, mind and heart too. It’s not impossible. Mariah Peters and one of the brothers from For King And Country waited three years to kiss on their wedding day. In Christ, our flesh has been crucified and we walk in the newness of the Holy Spirit.

Much love,

Natasha

The Lie Of “Loving Someone Vs Being In Love With Him/Her”

What does pretty much every romance movie portray about love:

1.) There has to be a strong physical attraction.

2.) You won’t be able to get the person off your mind (in other words, you’ll obsess over him/her).

3.) You won’t be able to keep your hands off the person.

4.) You’ll have great premarital sex.

This is what they call, “being in love.” And O, how many times I’ve bought this lie with ex-boyfriends and exchanged the powerful four-letter word. I’m sure you have too. If you haven’t yet, praise God, you’re extremely fortunate.

Now with this whole “being in love” nonsense, there comes another lie: love leaves.

Ever hear someone say, “I love you, but I’m just not in love with you anymore.” In other words, I don’t obsess over you anymore and don’t feel all those intense lustful feelings I once did for you.

First of all, that crazy intense passionate feeling we once felt for a person was not love. This is how the Apostle Paul defined it:

“But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn [with passion]. (I Corinthians 7:8, 9)

Have you ever burned with lust? I have. Felt it all over my stomach and chest, it was consuming. Also felt it all over my body on my wedding night. What was I craving in that moment? To be touched.

Love isn’t unrestrained affection. That consuming fiery sensation is called lust, and of course it goes away, because when you get what you’ve desired, you’re satisfied for a while and then it gets old. Then you “fall in love” with someone else.

How about we get to what real love is?

1.) First off, it’s a choice.

Love isn’t some arbitrary mystical force that possesses you for a while and then vanishes once things get rough.

Love is God. God is love. Once we embrace Christ, who chooses us, He never leaves us or forsakes us. To say you’re in love with someone because you greatly lust after them is to call God a selfish pervert. (I’m not saying desire is wrong by the way. When in the right context, desire is beautiful and holy, i.e. when it is pure and then acted upon in marriage).

2.) Love isn’t earned, it’s given.

“Wow you’re really hot and when we hang out you make me feel super happy so I’m going to tell you I love you and seduce you so we can have sex and really show each other how much we love one another.”

Translation: “I get stuff from you that I like, and I want more of that stuff, so I’m going to suck you dry until I don’t ‘feel’ like I ‘love you’ anymore.”

Real love sounds like this:

Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. (I Corinthians 13:4-8)

Love suffers long. That means if that brother loves you, he keeps his pants zipped and his hands off your secret areas even if it pains him to, honoring you because he cherishes you and knows you are a daughter of God who does not yet belong to him. He does not seek his own selfish gain i.e an orgasm, but he seeks what’s best for God and you, putting his own desires at bay until the proper time: marriage.

The Bible teaches in 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8:

For this is God’s will, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality, so that each of you knows how to control his own body in sanctification and honor, not with lustful desires, like the Gentiles who don’t know God. This means one must not transgress against and defraud his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger of all these offenses, as we also previously told and warned you. For God has not called us to impurity but to sanctification. Therefore, the person who rejects this does not reject man, but God, who also gives you His Holy Spirit.

So while girls you know are getting used by their boyfriends and calling it love are telling you about how great their sex-life is, you can tell them what real love looks like and hopefully be able to show them when God puts you in the path of one of his godly princes, and that son of God cherishes you and respects you, showing you love by refraining from using your body and instead gets to know and protect your heart until God confirms to you both that you are to be married and on that night, he enjoys what he’s been lovingly waiting for.

Princess prayer: Heavenly Father, in the name of my King, Jesus, I ask that You help me tear down every lie about love that I have believed. I pray You enable me to keep my mind on You and wait for the man you have for me. Amen.

80% of the church is having premarital sex???

80% of the church between the ages of 18-29 are having premarital sex. WHAT? This should rip our hearts from our chests and make us ashamed and broken before the Lord, our good and perfect Father.

How can we commit our past sins—the ones that Jesus was beaten and crucified for? Have we no love for He who loved us to the point of pouring out His very blood in our rightful place? How can we take these temples—our bodies—and use them as weapons of unrighteousness? Do you not know when you sin, your actions are aimed at the very heart that was pierced for you and pierces it again?

He died to give you power over sin, to practice self-control, which is a fruit of His Holy Spirit that should be living inside of you if you truly did give your heart to Him. Church, we should be angry over this, beating our chests and weeping with shame for the disgrace we’ve caused our Father and Master.

And let us not, I repeat, let us not be deceived into thinking we can so offer up our bodies to the temple of sexual immorality and still expect to receive heaven—which is being with Jesus for all eternity.

If even you couldn’t bear the thought of standing before the Holy, Perfect Son of God for all eternity knowing you chose to sin against Him and have sex outside of the sanctity of marriage, what makes you think He will be able to bear it? “You must be holy,” He commands, “as I am holy.” To believe otherwise is to believe a lie for the sake of fulfilling our own sinful desires in a feeble attempt to trick ourselves into thinking since we appear holy on the outside, God will let us in on the day we face Him for judgement.

Be broken! Repent! Only then shall your souls be truly saved. I speak this from love. I tell you the truth, unlike the world who is under the influence of Satan himself.

If anyone says they’re a Christian, but practices sexually immorality, they are in danger of forfeiting the kingdom of heaven (1 Corinthians 6:9-10). But thank God, through Jesus Christ our Lord, as long as we have breath we can forsake these sins and give our lives to Him. When we truly see how horribly offensive these crimes are to His Holy Spirit and we grieve over them, crying out to Him for mercy and forgiveness, then will He renew our Spirits and give us a heart that seeks to please Him, a heart with new desires. Run from your sin. Your very soul depends on it!