Am I really a Daughter of God?

Many Christians among my fellow Millennial crowd seem to have forgotten, or never known the reality of who we are as adopted children of God through Christ Jesus our *Lord*. The true Jesus is holy, and His inspired Word warned us that “without holiness, no one will see God.” 

Holiness isn’t something we can create from our own strength, but it is something we can cultivate from the Holy Spirit of Jesus Christ who dwells in His daughters. If we NEVER think about being holy, then do we really have His *Holy* Spirit living within us? Because if His Spirit is holy, would His Spirit then fill us with thoughts that only center on entertainment, lust, selfish ambitions, money, gossip, and our own happiness? 

I challenge you stop, to turn off your phone or put it in another room, and to find a quiet, private place where you can stop and consider what the majority of your thoughts and focus have been recently. 

Jesus said, where your treasure is, there your heart will also be. Is your heart on self attention? Is it on everyone else and their lives? Is it on politics? Is it on Jesus? 

Do you ever think, “Father, how can I please you today?” or “Father, that wasn’t pleasing to you. I’m sorry, Lord.” Or, “Help me follow You,” or “What do you think about this?” Or “What do you say about this matter?” If not, then His Holy Spirit isn’t leading you, your flesh is. And the Bible is clear:

“For to be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. Because the carnal mind is enmity against God; for it is not subject to the law of God, nor indeed can be. So then, those who are in the flesh cannot please God.”-Romans 8:6-8

As a daughter of God by means of receiving the Holy Spirit by faith in Jesus’ Christ sacrifice and resurrection you never think about if you’re pleasing God or not, please pray and ask God to fill you with His Holy Spirit and to help you be led by His Spirit. If you do this, and you are sincere, God will fill you and you will begin to notice changes in your thoughts that inevitably impact your actions. When you open the Bible, it will suddenly come alive. It’ll speak to you more personally, convicting you, encouraging you, challenging you, inspiring you, make your heart burn with passion for God. Then, you will begin to bear fruits “worthy of repentance,” and grow confident in who you are and who you are in the sight of God your Father.

I No Longer Believe in “The One” Here’s Why…

I used to believe if you were called to marriage, God had someone specifically hand-picked just for you. But over time, I started questioning that belief. Today, it’s really official: I no longer believe there is one specific spouse that God “created for you.” I know this can be shocking to some, but hear me out…

Paul in 1 Corinthians 7:39 advises younger widows to remarry, saying:

“A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.”

If that’s not plain enough, Paul is saying she can marry ANY Christian brother she desires.

This verse made me remember that God has given us free will and that love is a choice! It is not something we have no control over, like some spell that’s cast upon us that we cannot break away from and must love only one specific person in this life. Do you know Jeremy Camp’s story? His first wife died of cancer not long after marriage and after grieving his loss, he eventually found himself another wife whom he now has children with.

The truth is, if the person is a brother in Christ, and you both love each other and desire each other, you won’t have to later worry, “Oh no, what if this wasn’t that one person God designed just for me? What if this person isn’t my ‘soul mate.'” Soul mates are a worldly idea. And a dangerous one if you think about it. Because that means if down the road, you aren’t happy with your spouse, you can say, “My husband must not be my soul mate. I need to move on and find my true soul mate so I can be truly happy.” I wonder how many spouses commit adultery and deceive themselves with the idea that it’s okay because their fellow adulterer is actually just their true soul mate.

Jesus told His followers, “You didn’t choose me, I chose you.” God doesn’t just love one person, He loves us all, and died for us all. But only those who ACCEPT that love are considered His “bride.” If you believed in soul mates, a brother can convince you you’re his soul mate, even if you don’t really desire to marry him. Then, when you get married, you can have doubts and wonder or even get angry at God like, “But God! I thought this was the man you had for me!”

Peter, led by the Spirit of God, in speaking to the Church, commanded:

Since you have purified your souls in obeying the truth through the Spirit in sincere love of the brethren, love one another fervently with a pure heart…”-1 Peter 1:22

He isn’t speaking to just husbands and wives, but he is telling all the believers to love each other fervently. If there’s a brother in Christ you love and respect and admire, and if he feels the same about you, then it’s okay to pursue marriage. HOWEVER, I will caution you to always practice wisdom before marrying someone. There’s two things you can do to have confidence in your decision of choosing a spouse.

First, find out if this brother is really a brother in Christ.

And how can you discover that? By listening to your Heavenly Father’s voice and comparing His Word on what a true child of His looks like, to that potential husband. Firstly, is he an open Christian? Does he openly confess to anyone that Jesus Christ is his Lord?

Second, does he portray fruits of the flesh, or fruits of the Holy Spirit:

“Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.”-Galatians 5:19-24

Jesus said, “You will know them by their fruit.” Be honest in your comparison. Leave a little room for grace, since we’re not all that mature yet, and some have been more sanctified than others by walking longer with Jesus and having solid discipleship. BUT if the brother is JUSTIFYING any fleshly behaviors rather than actively trying to crucify them, and showing that he is growing, then you should back away.

Next, ask your Heavenly Dad if He gives His blessing.

Many of us know the tradition of a man having to ask a woman’s father for permission to marry his daughter. If a brother has made his intentions clear and is pursuing you, bring that to prayer and ask God what He thinks of this child of His. Would you be good together? Or does your Father have someone else in mind for you?

See, it’s two-fold. God knows you and that brother better than either of you know the other, or yourselves. Therefore, I believe God can foresee and knows if you two would be good for each other, or if there’s a better “match” for you. So know that if you go to God about one of His sons who is pursuing you, and God tells you “no,” you can trust that He knows best and has reasons why He prefers you don’t marry the brother. But if God gives you a clear “yes” then go for it! Don’t be afraid if God has given you His blessing. Just make sure you diligently seek Him and are sure He blessed it, rather than you just running forward because you really want to.

Third, don’t be deceived by the lust of the eyes.

Just because someone looks good, doesn’t mean he is good. And just because someone doesn’t look that good, doesn’t mean you won’t deem him amazing down the road. Yes, I’m advocating that you give the lesser attractive brother a chance. If there’s a brother in Christ who really loves the Lord in action, it’s not just lip service, and he brings you joy and you admire his relationship with the Lord, and he really wants you to give him a chance, then give him one! If after a few outings and spending time together serving, you don’t find yourself starting to desire him, then IT’S OKAY to let him know you still just want to remain friends. You’re NOT leading him on if you let him know off the bat that he can try to win your heart, but you’re NOT making ANY promises.

This may sound weird, but sisters, this is how most men operate. They are natural-born fighters and you better believe if a man really wants a woman to be his wife, he WILL fight the battle of winning her heart. If his strength is in the Lord, if he loses that battle, he will get back up again and find someone else. That’s not your business or burden. But if you give him a chance, you might be surprised just how much you end up loving and desiring him to be the man you not only spend the rest of your life with, but raise up godly children with. Because remember, whoever you allow to have you as a wife, he will someday be the father of your children. Is he worthy? Will he truly raise them up in a way that’ll please God?

So don’t let the excuse of waiting for your soul mate hold you back. If no guy is pursuing, well, that’s on them, and it COULD partly be on you. Go to your Perfect Daddy in Heaven and ask Him why no one is pursuing you. Ask Him to please show you and reveal to you clearly what is going on. Trust your Daddy. He loves His daughter and may know you aren’t ready. Maybe there’s a few things He wants to work on first. I believe God will give you your hearts desire if you wish to marry a godly brother. Just keep praying AND listening to your Daddy. His timing and will are PERFECT!

Much love!

Single Christian Woman: Where’s all the eligible brothers?

Christian lady, ever feel like there’s so many fellow eligible sisters out there, but not quite as many eligible brothers? I have a theory: Christian men (and men in general), are getting increasingly intimidated by us women. As feminism rubs off on us gals who confess Christ as Lord, we simultaneously repel brothers. They may darn well be attracted to us, but they’ll keep commitment out of mind and out of heart because at the end of the day, God made the man (Adam) with a desire to be supported–not competed with. 

So if you’re serious about getting married someday and raising a family, do a mirror check: How am I coming across to my brothers in Christ? Am I intimidating? Do I challenge them with my attitude and words? Do I question or laugh at their insight and discernment? Do I quickly dismiss things they say right to their face, without fully listening and prayerfully considering them first? Am I very judgmental when it comes to them? Am I feisty? Do I speak respectfully, or freely without any reserve or thought to my words? And the most dreaded of all, am I being disrespectful?

If reflecting on whether or not you’re being disrespectful to a brother already has you balking, you’re likely not being pursed or view as “marriage material.” “Submission” and “respect” from women toward men is increasingly taboo and disgraceful among those outside of the Church, but within her, it is rare, beautiful, and attractive. If you disagree just look at these feminists: how many of them are married? And then again, look at the Church, how many of us young women are married? 

Is it all of our faults, no, of course not. But we’d be wise to own our faults and seek to overcome them by the power of the Holy Spirit–especially if we want to get married someday, and most importantly, if we want to please God, who calls His children to be respectful and to honor all.

“As a ring of gold in a swine’s snout,
So is a lovely woman who lacks discretion.”-Proverbs 11:22

“Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel—rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.”-1 Peter 3:3-4

Don’t Cheat on Your Future Spouse eBook Giveaway for Honest Review

Hey, ladies! Sooo I wrote a relationship advice book for single Christian gals and I’m giving it away in exchange for an honest review for Amazon and Goodreads. This is the book:

Are you a single Christian waiting for a spouse? Have you tasted the waters of different men or women in search of “the one,” only to walk away thirsty? Is there a best way to prepare for your future husband or wife? 

In this short, easy to grasp eBook, single Christians will learn how to not cheat on their future spouse, and how best to prepare for him or her. 

If you’ve seen Natasha’s “Don’t Cheat On Your Future Spouse” YouTube video and want to have a more in-depth and practical guide on this topic, this book is for you!

If you’re interested in reading it and writing a review, please do let me know and I can email you the eBook. I really look forward to your thoughts!

Video: What is Modest Apparel for the Christian Woman?

Modesty has gotten a lot of slack over the last decade, outside–and in–the Church. Is there a standard, and if so, what is it?

If someone tells me she’s feeling suicidal and I encourage her, and hug her, and pray for her, and remind her of comforting Scriptures and she chooses not to kill herself, did my choices impact her decision? If I call someone horrible things and tell him he should kill himself and he does, did my choices impact or influence him?

So…do the clothes you wear impact the choices of others? Why does the Bible say “…that we may be pure and blameless children of God in the midst of a crooked generation?” If we are to be “blameless” does that mean we can be “blamed” at all? The Bible teaches us that our choices have influence. So then…are we somewhat accountable for them?

Modern Woman, Here I Come

Battling Biblical Womanhood, Making Room for A New Kind of Christian Woman


“I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.”-Romans 12:1-2

Arguably, since the 60s, for a whopping fifty-nine or so years, women have been marching into the work force, banging down men’s job-doors, putting on pants, and bringing in the bread. Before the 1960s, the vast majority of women in the world, for over 5,000 years were–and majority still are–getting married, bearing children, and staying at home/tending to/working outside on the property. But American women, who at first wanted the right to vote, something I don’t disagree with at the present time, became something much, much more: the desire to be like men.

This twisted–worldly–notion has and is seeping into the Church. Christian women are believing, whether they realize it or not, that men are better, or more privileged than they because men have to work hard, long hours, outside of the home from the sweat of their brow, or take on the brutal, potentially extremely traumatic “job” of killing other men in order to protect their families; that because of this, they’re worth more than a woman who primarily stays at home doing many motherly, familial, and household jobs.

This lie that women who do these different jobs were less-than men only got louder and louder, to the point where women can now pretty much do any “job” a man does, including killing people to defend the defenseless, and women brutally beating each other in a ring for the entertainment of spectators.

The fact remains: because men were paid to do different jobs, while women aren’t paid to bear and raise children–with the help of their husbands–does not mean men are superior. Bringing home money to CARE FOR your wife and children is simply a DIFFERENT job. Raising those children, being there for them, to really teach them–hands on–how to love and know the Lord, serve others, and work hard to someday provide for their own family, was and still is the primary and most important “job” there is for a married couple who have children. There was a BALANCE in one parent, the one who is physically stronger, having the innate protector and provider role literally built into their biology (testosterone and larger muscles), going out and working with other men outside of the home, while their wives worked inside/within the outdoor quarters of the home, where there was safety. It’s no secret women can be overpowered by men, and attacked/raped more easily and more regularly than men do–if men do at all! Cultures and societies knew this and so there was a respect, an honoring, and a wisdom in keeping their most invaluable earthly gifts, their wife and children, at home, where they could typically roam freely without concerns of being attacked, mobbed, robbed, or raped.

But now, women are everywhere in the work force, smack dab in the center of men, and sexual harassment is a huge problem for women. That problem would be entirely resolved if they weren’t in that environment to begin with, would you agree?

Now women of old weren’t forced to stay within their homes 24/7. Their household jobs did often require small commutes to wells or other outdoor provisions, but close by, in a small village where most everyone was family or extended family. And most women were very content in their jobs as wives and mothers. They weren’t surrounded by men, but mostly by women, being able to talk with and enjoy the presence and help of fellow women daily. They had–and many still do in the world today–close relationships with their mothers and sisters and aunts.

Contrast that with many American woman-to-woman relationships now-a-days. There’s a lot of competition, gossip, division, confusion, distance. Many mothers and daughters don’t get along, mother-in-laws and daughter-in-laws especially, because there isn’t that close companionship and support. Think of the mother today whose mother or mother-in-law is able and willing to help DAILY with the children and household tasks. Often, that woman is very grateful and closer to her mother/mother-in-law than the woman who is working full-time outside of the home, and does not have that kind of support, so ends up putting her children in daycare to be watched by strangers, exposed to all sorts of ideologies and behaviors and customs, words and illnesses, even physical attacks or sexual abuse, many the mother will never know her child experienced.

But what if we stopped conforming to this new, post-1960s pattern of the world? What if we allowed, encouraged, and prayed for our husbands to be able to financially support all of our family’s needs while we stay at home taking care of said family and the dwelling we share with them? How much more respectful, smart, capable, and knowledgable about God and life would the Christian mother’s children be if she were at home with them all day, being an example before them as she does chores, spends time with God, and teaches them about Him during every meal, and as they do other things and household tasks together? How much less sick would our children get, being able to strengthen their immune systems by playing/exploring the outdoors and playing with one another, rather than being confined in close, four-walled, no windows or no open windows, quarters with over 10X as many children in less sanitary public schools? How much cleaner–not always, of course!–will our homes be? How much more orderly, and comfortable, and beautiful if it had a woman to take care of it for the majority of the day?

Yes, this post is for both married AND single Christian women alike. If you want to have sex someday, rather than pursuing a career that would place you in the center of many men, you should pray about and prepare yourself to be a godly wife and eventual mother. If you do not wish to be married, but only desire to serve the Lord, then seek and ask Him for opportunities where you can do just that, in ministry, alongside/working with other women, or for a godly leader, still with other women around, because although working in ministries with genuine children of God is more safe than secular environments, for the sake of “not having a hint of sexual immorality among you,” it’s best to not be exclusively around men, even men of God who are not completely immune to sin and aren’t always as godly as they should be.

Here are some of God’s standards for the roles, relationships and opportunities women in the Church, His daughters, have:

Honor widows who are really widows. But if any widow has children or grandchildren, let them first learn to show piety at home and to repay their parents; for this is good and acceptable before God. Now she who is really a widow, and left alone, trusts in God and continues in supplications and prayers night and day. But she who lives in pleasure is dead while she lives. And these things command, that they may be blameless. But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

Do not let a widow under sixty years old be taken into the number, and not unless she has been the wife of one man, 10 well reported for good works: if she has brought up children, if she has lodged strangers, if she has washed the saints’ feet, if she has relieved the afflicted, if she has diligently followed every good work.

11 But refuse the younger widows; for when they have begun to grow wanton against Christ, they desire to marry, 12 having condemnation because they have cast off their first faith. 13 And besides they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house, and not only idle but also gossips and busybodies, saying things which they ought not. 14 Therefore I desire that the younger widows marry, bear children, manage the house, give no opportunity to the adversary to speak reproachfully. 15 For some have already turned aside after Satan. 16 If any believing man or woman has widows, let them relieve them, and do not let the church be burdened, that it may relieve those who are really widows.”-1 Timothy 5:3-16

“I desire therefore that the men pray everywhere, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting; in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, 10 but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works. 11 Let a woman learn in silence with all submission. 12 And I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence. 13 For Adam was formed first, then Eve. 14 And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression. 15 Nevertheless she will be saved in childbearing if they continue in faith, love, and holiness, with self-control.”-1 Timothy 2:8-15

Who can find a virtuous wife?
For her worth is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.
13 She seeks wool and flax,
And willingly works with her hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
She brings her food from afar.
15 She also rises while it is yet night,
And provides food for her household,
And a portion for her maidservants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
From 
[c]her profits she plants a vineyard.
17 She girds herself with strength,
And strengthens her arms.
18 She perceives that her merchandise is good,
And her lamp does not go out by night.
19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff,
And her hand holds the spindle.
20 She extends her hand to the poor,
Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of snow for her household,
For all her household is clothed with scarlet.
22 She makes tapestry for herself;
Her clothing is fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates,
When he sits among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
And supplies sashes for the merchants.
25 Strength and honor are her clothing;
She shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
And on her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many daughters have done well,
But you excel them all.”
30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands,
And let her own works praise her in the gates.
-Proverbs 31:10-31

If you’re a single Christian woman, there are areas you can safely serve and know that you are honoring God in those roles: honoring your father and mother, helping them at home; serving in a Christian nursing home or ministry for widows; serving the poor; earning income with your God-given gifts, but again, in a God-led manner; then using that income for the ministry of the gospel and for the poor.

If you are married, but think you MUST work to provide and send your children to public or private school, I lovingly challenge you to consider: are ALL things possible with God? Is God your number One provider, or are your husband and YOU the number one providers, and God the secondary provider? If God desires and has all of these commands and expectations of wives and mothers in the Church, is He incapable of providing the means for you to walk it out? I challenge your faith, and encourage you to bring the “I can’t because…” to God in prayer and ask Him to make a way so YOU CAN. It may not be what you THINK you want, but remember the first verse I shared:

I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.”-Romans 12:1-2

His will for His daughters, as clearly, and numerously laid out in the Scriptures, both Old and New, DESPITE popular worldly/secular belief, IS good, acceptable, and perfect, but only when you pray, seek, and pursue that will, will you discover this verse to be true.

Much love and as always, know your worth,