Author, Natasha Sapienza has written an eBook, Kiss A Frog, Miss The Prince. In Kiss A Frog, Natasha discusses four types of “frogs” women get into relationships with before introducing them to the Perfect Prince and the Rescued Frog. With funny anecdotes and great advice, women discover how to discern frogs from true princes, and are encouraged to wait on God to write their real-life fairy tale.
Q: So when did you start becoming boy crazy?
N: The plague started in Kindergarten, from the moment I laid eyes on Bobby Well. I would keep record of all my boyfriends and in fifth grade alone I had sixteen. The number went down in high school, but I still managed to have ten during those four years.
Q: When did you become content with being single?
N: I was nineteen-years-old. February 21st, 2009, I had made a decision to let go of my ex because I knew God did not intend for us to be together. In fact, my ex was a very real obstacle in my relationship with Christ. After I surrendered that relationship, Jesus began to heal my heart and in literally six days, I was no longer crying, but was filled with joy and finally content in my singleness.
Q: How old were you when you met your “dream prince” as you call him?
N: It was actually quite soon after giving up my ex. I had prayed for a prophet to be placed in my path so I can receive a clear word from the Lord, because although I had been healed of a broken heart, I was still getting “signs” that were confusing me. “Maybe I am meant to be with my ex, just not right now. Or maybe I’m supposed to be with my other ex.” After only a week—if that—of praying for a prophet to be placed in my path, I was randomly invited to a church service that would be held at a college in Miami. I went, and the last person to be introduced by the pastor was, “Ricardo Strachan, a mighty prophet of the Lord!” I approached the prophet after the service and at once he said, “The Spirit of the Lord told me Satan has been confusing you in the area of relationships, but God said He’s going to make things clear for you very soon—very soon.” I met Jonathan, the man who is now my husband, on March 4th, 2009, not even two weeks after saying goodbye to my ex. And it was very clear.
Q: How did you meet your dream prince?
N: My older sister started telling me about this guy from her theatre program in college who she believed God wanted me to meet. I was content in my singleness and not looking to be in a relationship, but I invited him to come with his brother to where I attended service, and I invited my sister. Neither of them came, but Jonathan did so our first official meeting was at the building I went to service at—and the building we’d eventually walk down the aisle in.
Q: How long were you and your dream prince engaged before your wedding day?
N: We were boyfriend and girlfriend for a little over a year when Jonathan proposed. Knowing that God had called us to get married and not wanting to play with fire, we kept our engagement short (four months), so by a year and six months we said, “I do.”
Q: Why is your ministry called Better Than Prince Charming?
N: My husband actually came up with that name. A few times in our relationship, God reminded me of this bible verse: “It is better to take refuge in the LORD than to trust in princes.”-Psalm 118:9. So God is better than Prince Charming (who isn’t a devout Christian), and the man God has for you is also better than him.
Q: In Kiss A Frog, Miss the Prince, you talk about four types of “frogs” we ladies can get into relationships with. Have you been with all four of those kinds of frogs?
N: With my track record, yes, unfortunately I have been with the Infatuated Frog, Rebel Frog, Controlling Frog, and the Deceitful Frog—several times. I had this crazy notion that I was some sort of super woman who could save bad boys so I always ended up in relationships with guys who had serious issues.
Q: Which type of frog do you think is the worst?
N: They’re all quite slimy. The Controlling Frog can end up becoming abusive, and that’s certainly a horrible situation to find yourself in. They all use manipulation in some form, but the Deceitful Frog can be very emotionally damaging, causing trust issues that interfere with a woman’s ability to trust her future spouse. In my personal experience, the last frog was the worst. He was mostly an Infatuated Frog and a Rebel Frog, but I found that the heart break was worst with him because of how much I had let him in emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Not to say Christian men are absolutely perfect, but when a man is not following Christ, whether knowingly or unknowingly, he’s following Satan. Satan is all about serving self, whereas Christ is all about serving others. When you are in a relationship with a frog, no matter how good he makes you feel, he’s seeking to get his desires met, and this always leads to pain and heart ache. So opening your heart up to any frog in general is a path to brokenness and eventual destruction.
Q: Why do you think women date frogs?
N: Insecurity is a big reason, but the root is always a disconnect from Christ. When you do not know Love Himself intimately, you search for Him in other places. We are looking for closeness and affirmation, identity and purpose, and all of those precious treasures are hidden in Christ. Thus, they can only be experienced by those who are abiding in Him. Abiding as in choosing to pick up our cross, deny ourselves, and follow Him daily.
Q: Is the man dressed as a prince on the cover your husband?
N: How did you know?
Q: What age group of women do you think would benefit most from Kiss A Frog?
N: I believe single women of all ages can learn something helpful and receive encouragement from this book. Whether you’re a teenager and just starting to get into relationships, or a grown woman who’s had her share of relationships, I trust there’s something all single ladies can glean from.
Natasha Sapienza is a daughter of the King, a wife, and soon-to-be mother. She has written two eBooks, and is currently working on a YA fantasy trilogy. To learn more about her ministry, visit BetterThanPrinceCharming.com, or to check out Kiss A Frog, Miss The Prince, visit: http://www.amazon.com/Kiss-Frog-Prince-Natasha-Sapienza-ebook/dp/B00FDWY2G8