Is Modesty the Best Policy?

There’s a new phenomenon in American fashion: super-duper, bottom-of-butt-cheek short-shorts and midriff-exposing shirts. To many of us ladies, it’s all just cute. We walk around like baby unicorns rather than the enticing mares we are. We are, after all, women, not little girls. (Click to Tweet)

However, I’m preachin’ to the Christian woman.

Girl, I first of all commend you for professing Christ in a time where it is beyond taboo to do so. There’s so much mockery and disrespect out their toward Jesus and His children. It takes guts to claim Him as Lord so again, for that, I commend you, sister. Keep it up, for He who confesses Christ before others, Christ will likewise confess before His Heavenly Father on the day you face them (Matthew 10:32-33).

Remember how deeply Jesus loves you and how patient He is with you. But He’s patient because there’s something He’s waiting for: our sanctification. God doesn’t save us just so we can go to heaven as is. He saves us as is to give us access to heaven, but He also transforms us in the process. But it’s a relationship that goes both ways.

There’s things I’ve done to annoy my husband and displease him. And there’s things my husband has done to annoy and displease me. What looks like greater love: if I say, “Well suck it up and take the good with the bad.” Or instead, “I hear you, love, I’ll work on it because I want to make you happy.”

If Jesus says, “Immodesty displeases Me, but modesty makes Me happy,” what would your response be?

And Jesus DIED FOR YOU. He gave us everything so if He wants us to cover up some, will we die? Well, Jesus did command us to take up our cross, deny ourselves and follow Him (Matthew 16:24-26). And the Bible speaks of “crucifying our flesh.” (Galatians 5:24)

There will certainly be many times as a daughter of God where Heavenly Daddy will say, “Don’t do this, don’t do that. I want you to do this, I want you to do that,” and those commands will be hard; they will take some sacrifice–sacrificing our pride and our desires.

It’s preached incessantly by the world, “Do what makes YOU happy.” But as a daughter of God, as a Christian, we are commanded the opposite: deny yourself, crucify your selfish desires, don’t just look out for your own interests, but for the interests of others as well (Philippians 2:4); love even your enemies (Matthew 5:43-48).

Still wanna be a daughter of God?

Did I tell you JESUS DIED FOR YOU? If someone dies for you and will literally take you by the hand and pick you up whenever you fall, countlessly forgiving you and taking you back, and then lead you to heaven’s gates where He will love you for all eternity with a perfect love, is it really too much to ask to live a life that’s devoted to loving Him back?

“If You love Me, keep My commandments. And I will pray the Father, and He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever—the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it neither sees Him nor knows Him; but you know Him, for He dwells with you and will be in you.(John 14:15-17)

Did ya catch that? Jesus tells us to obey His very difficult commandments, but then immediately after, He promises that He will give us a Helper to help us obey! And this Spirit will show us the truth and literally live inside of us so we can walk it out!

Ah, indeed, there is no God like our God. And that, my sweet sister, is why you should pursue modesty.

 

Know your worth,

Natasha ❤


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Why you shouldn’t be modest

I remember walking through the mall in my teen years, rocking a pair of skin-tight Brazilian jeans (they were so the thing back then)—a pair I wore specifically because I believed they accentuated my assets, i.e., made my bottom look bigger.

So here I am, in my baby-blue Brazilian, skin-squeezin’ jeans and a spaghetti strap top and I’m pretty sure I was clackin’ around in heels, and this group of dudes begin yelling lewd comments at me across the mall for everyone in the vicinity to hear.

I got so upset, cussed at ‘em, flipped ‘em off, the whole nine. But never once did I recall the fact that I wore those jeans for the sake of appearing more desirable. I wanted the attention, but I guess I expected it to come across in a more respectful manner.

Thing is, I quite plainly, was dressed in a way that shouted sex object, yet I didn’t want to be treated like a sex object. I wanted to be pleasing to the sight of some men, as long as their pleasure was displayed in a manner I approved of.

I now understand that most single or unmarried men (or even married ones!) don’t look at women who are dressed super sexy and think: I better be low-key about all the lustful thoughts she’s inciting. The way they see it is you’re asking for the attention, so they’re gonna give it to you. And more specifically, they’re thinking along the lines of; this chick is asking to be f***ed. 

Forgive the vulgarity, but I’m just being real. Have you ever heard men talk to each other when no women are around? Well, I have. A lot. I edit weddings. The videographer, who is a man, goes into the groom’s hotel room or wherever he’s getting ready and records him and his groomsmen as they get dressed. The stuff they say about the bride and about women is so disgusting and degrading that I often have to mute the audio entirely and sometimes wish I could leave in those parts so the bride sees how much her groom respects her in front of his boys. The things I hear make my blood boil and skin crawl. But the truth of the matter is that all of these brides lived with the guy beforehand. In other words, they already were sleeping with him. So frankly, men simply don’t respect a woman who sleeps with them before marriage. Period. He can act like he does, but there’s someone he boasting to about your body and sexcapades.

Have you experienced this kind of lewd attention before? Were you wearing super short-shorts, a midriff top, showing off cleavage or your belly? Lots of skin, lots of skin-tight-leave-hardly-any-room-for-the-imagination attire will incite and inflame a man’s lust. There’s no way to get around it unless he closes his eyes or avoids you or tries super-duper hard to only look at your face, even though his peripherals can see everything else. Even married men. Very few will try to look away, while others will be picturing you naked on top of them.

Now, if you’re truly fine with this, that’s your prerogative. However, if it makes you uncomfortable and you’d like a lot more respect, then take it from me, think twice about what you put on. And no, I’m not being legalistic. I’m not gonna sit here and list a bunch of non-Kosher clothes to wear because at the end of the day, most of us women aren’t stupid. We know what sexy looks like and some of us like how it feels. So the clothes you have that you deem sexy are the red flag raisers you should reconsider. And covering up doesn’t equate frumpy and dumpy. You can keep it covered and keep it classy. You can be modest and still like what you’re wearing.

And if you’re a Christian like me, then remember: you don’t just choose modesty because it’s a New Testament command (see 1 Timothy 2:9-10, 1 Peter 3:1-4), but we do so for a love for God and others. We want to please God. Sensuality, lustfulness, selfishness, all of that displeases Him. If we truly grasp all that God the Father did for us when He sent His Son to this earth to love and die for us, we won’t have a problem covering up some or reconsidering our wardrobe to ensure it’s honorable to Him. He wants us to “not only look out for our own interests, but for the interests of others as well.” That means if you choosing your clothing more wisely will help some fellow Christian brothers not to stumble, then you’ve just pleased God with that unselfish and considerate decision.

At the end of the day, I’m not modest for legalism or man’s sake, but for Christ’s sake, and for a love for Him and others. I also want to be a good example for women, because I love you, too. 🙂

Did this resonate with you? Feel free to share your thoughts in a comment.

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Christian Women And Sexiness

As, “women who profess godliness,” who claim to love Christ, we are His leaders; we are to set the example God wants His people to follow. Inwardly and outwardly, our lives are supposed to point people to Jesus, not ourselves. 

Paul wrote about how we need to walk in love, and how if we imitate Jesus, thus walking in love, we will not be sexually immoral or cause our brothers to stumble. 

Is it loving to use your body and looks to entice a man and manipulate him into a relationship with you? If you use your flesh to snag a guy, he’s operating in his flesh, and the bible says the mindset of the flesh is death, and that those who walk in the flesh cannot please God. If you use your flesh to reel a brother in, the foundation of your relationship is based on the flesh, and thus, you’re not pleasing God, and your fleshly mindset will lead to the death of your relationship. 

I see too many sisters using their faces and bodies to capture a boy. I say boy, because if a brother is swayed by your fleshly manipulation, he’s weak or immature in the faith, and has not built up his spirit-man strong enough to resist temptation. 

Ungodly enticement is dishonoring first to God, then to yourself and others. As James says, practice true religion by being unspotted by the ways of this world. Don’t be conformed to their patterns, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. 

See 1 Thessalonians 4:1-8 and Romans 12:2.

You’re a princess of God’s kingdom. He makes you beautiful. Trust Him.

Love,

Your sister, Natasha 

Jesus Can Love And Heal Anyone Who Wants Him To

Jesus is compassionate and tender. I was reading Luke this morning and came across this wonderful story of Christ’s sweet mercies toward a woman:

Then one of the Pharisees invited Him to eat with him. He entered the Pharisee’s house and reclined at the table. And a woman in the town who was a sinner found out that Jesus was reclining at the table in the Pharisee’s house. She brought an alabaster jar of fragrant oil and stood behind Him at His feet, weeping, and began to wash His feet with her tears. She wiped His feet with the hair of her head, kissing them and anointing them with the fragrant oil. When the Pharisee who had invited Him saw this, he said to himself, “This man, if He were a prophet, would know who and what kind of woman this is who is touching Him — she’s a sinner! ” Jesus replied to him, “Simon, I have something to say to you.” “Teacher,” he said, “say it.” “A creditor had two debtors. One owed 500 denarii, and the other 50. Since they could not pay it back, he graciously forgave them both. So, which of them will love him more? ” Simon answered, “I suppose the one he forgave more.” “You have judged correctly,” He told him. Turning to the woman, He said to Simon, “Do you see this woman? I entered your house; you gave Me no water for My feet, but she, with her tears, has washed My feet and wiped them with her hair. You gave Me no kiss, but she hasn’t stopped kissing My feet since I came in. You didn’t anoint My head with olive oil, but she has anointed My feet with fragrant oil. Therefore I tell you, her many sins have been forgiven; that’s why she loved much. But the one who is forgiven little, loves little.” Then He said to her, “Your sins are forgiven.” Those who were at the table with Him began to say among themselves, “Who is this man who even forgives sins? ” And He said to the woman, “Your faith has saved you. Go in peace.” (‭Luke‬ ‭7‬:‭36-50‬ HCSB)

Who knew what this woman had done before this moment of surrender and brokenness before her Holy Savior, but we know whatever her lifestyle, it earned her a bad reputation and made her infamous. Maybe she was an adulteress, or a prostitute. Yet, despite her shameful past, Jesus allows her to smother his feet with kisses and tears.

The Lord is near the brokenhearted; He saves those crushed in spirit. (‭Psalms‬ ‭34‬:‭18‬)

No matter how dirty our choices, when they bring us to our knees in surrender before the Son of God, He can forgive us and heal us. He will not turn away from a truly repentant person.

Maybe you believe in Jesus, but your relationship with Him has been stifled because of a secret shame. You think deep down He can’t forgive you, or you’re ashamed to approach His Holy splendor. I pray this story stirs faith in you that Christ does want to forgive and heal you. He knows what you’ve done, and if you’ve repented of that, or are now making the decision to repent of that, He will wash you clean, but you must let Him. You must trust that His love is greater than your sin. He asked His Father to forgive those who were mocking Him while He hung on the cross. Trust me, He wants you to be forgiven as well.

Once you stop hiding, and just come spiritually naked before your Savior, you will be amazed at His open arms and healing power that’s been waiting for you. I had a past I’m ashamed of, but on February 22nd, 2009, I walked away from that past and surrendered my heart to Jesus. Like this woman, I was broken, weeping on my bed, swallowed up with deep pain. But I came to Jesus and He healed me. It only took six days for His love to restore and redeem me. I was filled with a joy I had never known, and I want you to experience the same.

Make the choice to give it all to Jesus now, and watch what He does.

With love,

Natasha

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Why I Prefer Jesus’ Love Over An Earthly Man’s

I look out my window and gaze upon the plants and trees, all with their multiple hues and designs. I see adorable squirrels playing tag, and gorgeous blue jays flitting about. And the sun shines its glorious golden warmth upon my face as I pray to the Creator of all of these marvelous things.

What man on earth can compare to the Heavenly Man? Jesus is described as having eyes that blaze like fire, and a body that appears to be fashioned from bronze. His face shines brilliantly, brighter than the sun itself.

I even picture the not-so-glorious Jesus, the man pinned to a cross, bloody and naked, skin marred and hanging from his bones. How broken He became, how broken He allowed Himself to become, even to the point of death, for us.

I ask again, what man on earth compares?

What man on earth can say he has both died and resurrected for you, and taken you by the hand and led you to the path of heaven?

What man can say he’s always known every inch of your being, and loved you the same before you ever have him the time of day?

Jesus makes beauty out of ashes, catches our tears in a bottle, is with us and watches us all the time. What man on earth can possibly remain with us always? The earthly man cannot be with us 24/7, he cannot be there to catch every single tear, he does not always have the right words to say—or not to say.

Only Jesus, the Eternal Lover of our souls can offer so perfect, so full a love.

So my precious sisters I ask, why are you not content with His love?

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“I Wish I Never Married Him.”

Tragically, I think a lot of Christian women realize after marriage that it doesn’t matter how nice or romantic a guy is if he isn’t a devout Christ follower.

Some marry the man because they’re in sexual sin and think marriage would honor the Lord. They fail to realize that being unequally yoked is also displeasing to God, and He says in the Scriptures:

Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will dwell in them And walk among them. I will be their God, And they shall be My people.” Therefore “Come out from among them And be separate, says the Lord. Do not touch what is unclean, And I will receive you.” “I will be a Father to you, And you shall be My sons and daughters, Says the LORD Almighty.” (‭II Corinthians‬ ‭6‬:‭14-18‬ NKJV)

God says to do the complete opposite when it comes to being in a relationship with an unbeliever: come out from among them and be separate. He most certainly does not advise you to marry this person.

It is better to be single for however long God desires, than to marry the wrong man and be diverted from your calling and drawn away from the faith. Husbands are supposed to lead, so how can you marry a man who is leading you to satan? The bible is clear: unbelievers are under Satan’s influence and are his children, whether they know it or not. They cannot please God, because they operate in the flesh. Is this the kind of man you want leading you and your future children?

Too often, we foolishly live in the moment and ignore the future consequences until it’s too late and we are drowning in them. This goes for two self-professing Christians as well who are in sexual sin and plan marriage as a way of escape. You must stop sinning before you get into marriage. You can’t keep living together and sleeping together because you plan on eventually getting married. What if you die tonight in your sin and face God? Do not the Scriptures say:

“Don’t you know that the unrighteous will not inherit God’s kingdom? Do not be deceived: No sexually immoral people, idolaters, adulterers, or anyone practicing homosexuality, no thieves, greedy people, drunkards, verbally abusive people, or swindlers will inherit God’s kingdom.” (1 Corinthians‬ ‭6‬:‭9-10‬)

You must repent and be separate until your wedding day. Sanctify yourself before you stand upon that sacred altar before the Holy God and make commitments you have already broken. Understand that God is a loving Father, but He is also an avenger of wrongdoers:

“Finally then, brothers, we ask and encourage you in the Lord Jesus, that as you have received from us how you must walk and please God — as you are doing — do so even more. For you know what commands we gave you through the Lord Jesus. For this is God’s will, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality, so that each of you knows how to control his own body in sanctification and honor, not with lustful desires, like the Gentiles who don’t know God. This means one must not transgress against and defraud his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger of all these offenses, as we also previously told and warned you. For God has not called us to impurity but to sanctification. Therefore, the person who rejects this does not reject man, but God, who also gives you His Holy Spirit.” (‭1 Thessalonians‬ ‭4‬:‭1-8‬ HCSB)

If you are in this situation, you know what you need to do. If you love Jesus, you will obey Him. His plans for you are good, pleasing, acceptable and perfect. He desires the best for you and trust me, He knows better than we do what’s good and what is not.

If you’re single, you also know what to do. Wait for the right man of God. Do not settle and sin.

If you are married to an unbeliever, keep clinging to Jesus. Perhaps your husband will come to Christ eventually. If he leaves you, you are free from your vows. Otherwise, be the best example you can be to him and your children. Pray always. Keep your hope in the resurrection, not on things on the earth.

May we always allow the Spirit to lead us, denying our flesh, and trusting our Master and Savior, for His sake, our sake, and the sake of others.

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