I Really Want A Boyfriend, What Do I Do?

To my O so precious younger sisters in Christ:

Before I stopped chasing guys, and pursued Jesus, I treated God like medicine. I used Him when I felt bad, but once He made me better, I stopped taking Him in. Instead, I put Him away, and kept hurting myself with relationships I wasn’t ready for. 

And though I didn’t know it until I was eighteen-years-old, that’s the reason I kept craving a boyfriend. I was looking for the love only Jesus could give me. I wasn’t satisfied because I kept leaving God and not listening to Him. I kept ditching Him and getting into relationships. I didn’t need a boyfriend, I needed Jesus. When I finally realized that, I stopped pursuing guys and started really pursuing Jesus. He began flooding my life with love and joy and for once in my life I FINALLY didn’t need or care to have a boyfriend or attention from a guy. 

And guess what else? When I was ready for marriage (believe it or not, at age eighteen, after I surrendered to Jesus, I didn’t want a boyfriend anymore, but I looked forward to some day having a husband. I met Jon and we were ready by a year. After a year and two months, he proposed. 

Being ready for marriage within a year or so is super important because of sexual temptation. As our pastor who married us would say, “if you’re in a relationship and not married by a year, you’re playing with fire.” So at 14, you’ll have to wait at least four years to be physical with your husband. You think you could really refrain that long the more and more you begin liking a guy? That’s why teenage relationships are very dangerous.

I know it can be especially hard going to public or private school, and God knows your friends are probably boy crazy, but when you allow Jesus to blow your mind with His love, you’ll be strong enough to wait on your future husband, and you’ll be the girl your friends come to when they’re heart broken and going through boy drama. If you find that satisfaction in Jesus and no longer seek a guy’s attention, it will be such a powerful example, you’ll be so extremely different, God will use you to save your unsaved friends. 

Remember, YOU are the light your friends NEED. As a Christian, you alone have what they need to escape heart break AND more importantly, hell. 

Maybe try to switch your focus and instead of finding your identity as some cute guy’s girlfriend, you realize you’re so much more special than that. You’re like a superhero, saving souls from the devil’s grip on their life. You’re a warrior princess, a leader among your friends and younger family members, placed in their lives by God’s will. You have a great mission. Will you train yourself for that mission, or train yourself to just be another girl guys use?


Praying for you,


Natasha  

Christian Women And Sexiness

As, “women who profess godliness,” who claim to love Christ, we are His leaders; we are to set the example God wants His people to follow. Inwardly and outwardly, our lives are supposed to point people to Jesus, not ourselves. 

Paul wrote about how we need to walk in love, and how if we imitate Jesus, thus walking in love, we will not be sexually immoral or cause our brothers to stumble. 

Is it loving to use your body and looks to entice a man and manipulate him into a relationship with you? If you use your flesh to snag a guy, he’s operating in his flesh, and the bible says the mindset of the flesh is death, and that those who walk in the flesh cannot please God. If you use your flesh to reel a brother in, the foundation of your relationship is based on the flesh, and thus, you’re not pleasing God, and your fleshly mindset will lead to the death of your relationship. 

I see too many sisters using their faces and bodies to capture a boy. I say boy, because if a brother is swayed by your fleshly manipulation, he’s weak or immature in the faith, and has not built up his spirit-man strong enough to resist temptation. 

Ungodly enticement is dishonoring first to God, then to yourself and others. As James says, practice true religion by being unspotted by the ways of this world. Don’t be conformed to their patterns, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. 

See 1 Thessalonians 4:1-8 and Romans 12:2.

You’re a princess of God’s kingdom. He makes you beautiful. Trust Him.

Love,

Your sister, Natasha 

Is It Okay To Have Pre-marital Sex If I’m A Christian?

I received a heart-breaking email today that really upset the Holy Spirit within me. A sister was being told by her boyfriend it was okay to have premarital sex. He tried to tell her God condoned premarital sex in Numbers 31 when He told the Jews to take the virgin women. Her boyfriend completely assumed on Scripture and added to it, because nowhere did God tell the Jews to sleep with the women. Here’s what I found when looking into the passage:

“The Bible does address the issue of rape. As expected, when the Bible mentions the crime of rape, it is depicted as a gross violation of God’s design for the treatment of the human body (Genesis 34). The Bible condemns rape whenever it is mentioned. For example, there is a particular passage in the laws given to the nation of Israel before entering the Promised Land under Joshua’s leadership. This passage (Deuteronomy 22:13-29) spoke directly against forcing a woman into a sexual encounter against her will, or what we know today as rape. This command was meant to protect women and to protect the nation of Israel from committing sinful actions.

Deuteronomy 22:25-27 mentioned the punishment the Mosaic Law commanded for a man who raped a woman. The man was to be killed by stoning while the woman was considered innocent. Though the Mosaic Law was for the nation of Israel during the time of Moses, the principle is clear that rape was sinful in the eyes of God and led to the most extreme punishment possible—death for the rapist.

There are some difficult passages in the Old Testament, however, in relation to this issue. Critics of the Bible are quick to point to Numbers 31 (and other similar passages) in which the Israelites were allowed to take female captives from nations they conquered. Critics make the accusation that this is an example of the Bible condoning, or even promoting, rape. However, the passage says nothing about raping the captive women. It is wrong to assume that the captive women were to be raped. Again, Deuteronomy 22:25-27 condemns rape, even advocating the death penalty for perpetrators of rape. In the Numbers 31 passage the soldiers were commanded to purify themselves and their captives (verse 19). Rape would have violated this command (see Leviticus 15:16-18). The women who were taken captive are never referred to as sexual objects. Did the captive women likely eventually marry amongst the Israelites? Yes. Is there any indication that rape or sex slavery was forced upon the women? Absolutely not.”

read more here.

And here is further insight from my pastor:

“For this to make any sense we have to consider several factors: Gods ways are higher than ours. To qualify how this relates to the context of this particular passage (and their are others like it) we have to attempt to see and understand as God does. Humanity was very young. The medianites were full of diseases and very very evil. Beastiality, homosexuality, child rape, canabalisim, body mutilations, and human sacrifice just to name a few of their cultural practices. God is omniscient, as such He alone knows what the future would have looked like had this wickedness not been removed early on. It’s also important to note that not all Medianites were that evil only certain sectarian tribes turned so demonic they actually preyed on each other this group was one of them. One example is the fact that Mose’s wife was actually a Cushan Medianite, of a peaceful tribe. God had no beef with them. It’s actually like the genocide that took place in Uganda (all blacks but tribal differences) although it’s hard to grasp it was not murder but sentencing that was being carried out by the Israelites. We have to remember Gods plan for Israel was for the judgment and leading of the gentile nations in the righteousness of God but instead of leading in God’s ways they became seduced themselves. I digress…the reason the virgins and only the virgins were to be spared is because they were likely being kept virgins by the Medianites for human sacrifice. They were actually being rescued. To assume they would be abused, raped or mistreated is ridiculous considering the strict and new Levitical laws that were being zealously followed by the people of Israel. I’m sure those poor girls were quite relieved when they were taken out of the hell they were living in. It’s likely all others even children not set apart for sacrifice were depraved and possessed. Just look at what kids are doing to each other today because of porn. Imagine a culture where kids were being used for sex as early as 3 years old??? God ordering their termination was an act of mercy for the sake of humanity at large. It’s also worth noting that God never ordered the destruction of tribes for just not believing in Him but rather only when they violated the inner laws of the human heart so violently they became base and demonic. Termination of the demonic influences is the only solution as it will be again in the near future. God gives time for repentance but when that was up it was up to the judges (Israel) to do as He commanded.”

With all that said, it is clear sexual immorality was and is never condoned by our Holy God.

This was Paul’s commentary in 1 Corinthians 8 of the Jews Moses led out of Egypt:

“… all were baptized into Moses in the cloud and in the sea, and all drank the same spiritual drink. For they drank of that spiritual Rock that followed them, and that Rock was Christ. But with most of them God was not well pleased, for their bodies were scattered in the wilderness. Now these things became our examples, to the intent that we should not lust after evil things as they also lusted. And do not become idolaters as were some of them. As it is written, “The people sat down to eat and drink, and rose up to play.” Nor let us commit sexual immorality, as some of them did, and in one day twenty-three thousand fell; nor let us tempt Christ, as some of them also tempted, and were destroyed by serpents…” (I Corinthians‬ ‭10‬:‭2, 4-9‬ NKJV)

And let’s not forget all of these warnings:

“Finally then, brethren, we urge and exhort in the Lord Jesus that you should abound more and more, just as you received from us how you ought to walk and to please God; for you know what commandments we gave you through the Lord Jesus. For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one should take advantage of and defraud his brother in this matter, because the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also forewarned you and testified. For God did not call us to uncleanness, but in holiness. Therefore he who rejects this does not reject man, but God, who has also given us His Holy Spirit.” (‭I Thessalonians‬ ‭4‬:‭1-8‬ NKJV)

“Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.” (‭I Corinthians‬ ‭6‬:‭9-10‬ NKJV)

“Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband…but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” (‭I Corinthians‬ ‭7‬:‭1-2, 9‬ NKJV)

“Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.” (‭I Corinthians‬ ‭6‬:‭18-20‬ NKJV)

Precious sisters, please do not allow yourself to be taken advantage of by a man who is adding to Scripture, which the bible says this of: “For I testify to everyone who hears the words of the prophecy of this book: If anyone adds to these things, God will add to him the plagues that are written in this book.” (‭Revelation‬ ‭22‬:‭18‬ NKJV)

Those who practice sexual immorality without repenting will indeed go to hell. God is an avenger of all such. If you truly have the Holy Spirit, exercise self control! “Flee youthful lusts” as the bible commands. Fear God, sisters! Break away from this practice and sanctify yourself while you still have breath by God’s grace.

Praying for you,

Natasha

Jesus Can Love And Heal Anyone Who Wants Him To

Jesus is compassionate and tender. I was reading Luke this morning and came across this wonderful story of Christ’s sweet mercies toward a woman:

Then one of the Pharisees invited Him to eat with him. He entered the Pharisee’s house and reclined at the table. And a woman in the town who was a sinner found out that Jesus was reclining at the table in the Pharisee’s house. She brought an alabaster jar of fragrant oil and stood behind Him at His feet, weeping, and began to wash His feet with her tears. She wiped His feet with the hair of her head, kissing them and anointing them with the fragrant oil. When the Pharisee who had invited Him saw this, he said to himself, “This man, if He were a prophet, would know who and what kind of woman this is who is touching Him — she’s a sinner! ” Jesus replied to him, “Simon, I have something to say to you.” “Teacher,” he said, “say it.” “A creditor had two debtors. One owed 500 denarii, and the other 50. Since they could not pay it back, he graciously forgave them both. So, which of them will love him more? ” Simon answered, “I suppose the one he forgave more.” “You have judged correctly,” He told him. Turning to the woman, He said to Simon, “Do you see this woman? I entered your house; you gave Me no water for My feet, but she, with her tears, has washed My feet and wiped them with her hair. You gave Me no kiss, but she hasn’t stopped kissing My feet since I came in. You didn’t anoint My head with olive oil, but she has anointed My feet with fragrant oil. Therefore I tell you, her many sins have been forgiven; that’s why she loved much. But the one who is forgiven little, loves little.” Then He said to her, “Your sins are forgiven.” Those who were at the table with Him began to say among themselves, “Who is this man who even forgives sins? ” And He said to the woman, “Your faith has saved you. Go in peace.” (‭Luke‬ ‭7‬:‭36-50‬ HCSB)

Who knew what this woman had done before this moment of surrender and brokenness before her Holy Savior, but we know whatever her lifestyle, it earned her a bad reputation and made her infamous. Maybe she was an adulteress, or a prostitute. Yet, despite her shameful past, Jesus allows her to smother his feet with kisses and tears.

The Lord is near the brokenhearted; He saves those crushed in spirit. (‭Psalms‬ ‭34‬:‭18‬)

No matter how dirty our choices, when they bring us to our knees in surrender before the Son of God, He can forgive us and heal us. He will not turn away from a truly repentant person.

Maybe you believe in Jesus, but your relationship with Him has been stifled because of a secret shame. You think deep down He can’t forgive you, or you’re ashamed to approach His Holy splendor. I pray this story stirs faith in you that Christ does want to forgive and heal you. He knows what you’ve done, and if you’ve repented of that, or are now making the decision to repent of that, He will wash you clean, but you must let Him. You must trust that His love is greater than your sin. He asked His Father to forgive those who were mocking Him while He hung on the cross. Trust me, He wants you to be forgiven as well.

Once you stop hiding, and just come spiritually naked before your Savior, you will be amazed at His open arms and healing power that’s been waiting for you. I had a past I’m ashamed of, but on February 22nd, 2009, I walked away from that past and surrendered my heart to Jesus. Like this woman, I was broken, weeping on my bed, swallowed up with deep pain. But I came to Jesus and He healed me. It only took six days for His love to restore and redeem me. I was filled with a joy I had never known, and I want you to experience the same.

Make the choice to give it all to Jesus now, and watch what He does.

With love,

Natasha

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Why I Prefer Jesus’ Love Over An Earthly Man’s

I look out my window and gaze upon the plants and trees, all with their multiple hues and designs. I see adorable squirrels playing tag, and gorgeous blue jays flitting about. And the sun shines its glorious golden warmth upon my face as I pray to the Creator of all of these marvelous things.

What man on earth can compare to the Heavenly Man? Jesus is described as having eyes that blaze like fire, and a body that appears to be fashioned from bronze. His face shines brilliantly, brighter than the sun itself.

I even picture the not-so-glorious Jesus, the man pinned to a cross, bloody and naked, skin marred and hanging from his bones. How broken He became, how broken He allowed Himself to become, even to the point of death, for us.

I ask again, what man on earth compares?

What man on earth can say he has both died and resurrected for you, and taken you by the hand and led you to the path of heaven?

What man can say he’s always known every inch of your being, and loved you the same before you ever have him the time of day?

Jesus makes beauty out of ashes, catches our tears in a bottle, is with us and watches us all the time. What man on earth can possibly remain with us always? The earthly man cannot be with us 24/7, he cannot be there to catch every single tear, he does not always have the right words to say—or not to say.

Only Jesus, the Eternal Lover of our souls can offer so perfect, so full a love.

So my precious sisters I ask, why are you not content with His love?

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“I Wish I Never Married Him.”

Tragically, I think a lot of Christian women realize after marriage that it doesn’t matter how nice or romantic a guy is if he isn’t a devout Christ follower.

Some marry the man because they’re in sexual sin and think marriage would honor the Lord. They fail to realize that being unequally yoked is also displeasing to God, and He says in the Scriptures:

Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will dwell in them And walk among them. I will be their God, And they shall be My people.” Therefore “Come out from among them And be separate, says the Lord. Do not touch what is unclean, And I will receive you.” “I will be a Father to you, And you shall be My sons and daughters, Says the LORD Almighty.” (‭II Corinthians‬ ‭6‬:‭14-18‬ NKJV)

God says to do the complete opposite when it comes to being in a relationship with an unbeliever: come out from among them and be separate. He most certainly does not advise you to marry this person.

It is better to be single for however long God desires, than to marry the wrong man and be diverted from your calling and drawn away from the faith. Husbands are supposed to lead, so how can you marry a man who is leading you to satan? The bible is clear: unbelievers are under Satan’s influence and are his children, whether they know it or not. They cannot please God, because they operate in the flesh. Is this the kind of man you want leading you and your future children?

Too often, we foolishly live in the moment and ignore the future consequences until it’s too late and we are drowning in them. This goes for two self-professing Christians as well who are in sexual sin and plan marriage as a way of escape. You must stop sinning before you get into marriage. You can’t keep living together and sleeping together because you plan on eventually getting married. What if you die tonight in your sin and face God? Do not the Scriptures say:

“Don’t you know that the unrighteous will not inherit God’s kingdom? Do not be deceived: No sexually immoral people, idolaters, adulterers, or anyone practicing homosexuality, no thieves, greedy people, drunkards, verbally abusive people, or swindlers will inherit God’s kingdom.” (1 Corinthians‬ ‭6‬:‭9-10‬)

You must repent and be separate until your wedding day. Sanctify yourself before you stand upon that sacred altar before the Holy God and make commitments you have already broken. Understand that God is a loving Father, but He is also an avenger of wrongdoers:

“Finally then, brothers, we ask and encourage you in the Lord Jesus, that as you have received from us how you must walk and please God — as you are doing — do so even more. For you know what commands we gave you through the Lord Jesus. For this is God’s will, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality, so that each of you knows how to control his own body in sanctification and honor, not with lustful desires, like the Gentiles who don’t know God. This means one must not transgress against and defraud his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger of all these offenses, as we also previously told and warned you. For God has not called us to impurity but to sanctification. Therefore, the person who rejects this does not reject man, but God, who also gives you His Holy Spirit.” (‭1 Thessalonians‬ ‭4‬:‭1-8‬ HCSB)

If you are in this situation, you know what you need to do. If you love Jesus, you will obey Him. His plans for you are good, pleasing, acceptable and perfect. He desires the best for you and trust me, He knows better than we do what’s good and what is not.

If you’re single, you also know what to do. Wait for the right man of God. Do not settle and sin.

If you are married to an unbeliever, keep clinging to Jesus. Perhaps your husband will come to Christ eventually. If he leaves you, you are free from your vows. Otherwise, be the best example you can be to him and your children. Pray always. Keep your hope in the resurrection, not on things on the earth.

May we always allow the Spirit to lead us, denying our flesh, and trusting our Master and Savior, for His sake, our sake, and the sake of others.

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How To Defeat The Two Forms Of Temptation

I pray for you precious sisters every day. I love you all and it is my great desire to see you walk in power, faithfulness, and the blessedness of the Lord by your obedience to Him. I want to talk to you ladies about the practical instructions given to us in several places in the bible: “Flee youthful lusts; Run from temptation.”

I believe as Christians, our flesh has been crucified because the bible tells us it has, but if you feed the flesh long enough, you can fall into sin. There are two forms of temptation. The first is what I’ll call Satanic Set-ups. Sometimes, the devil sets us up. In Job chapter one, Satan goes to God and asks if he can tempt Job to blaspheme by taking away his belongings. In Luke chapter four, Jesus is just following the Spirit as always, and Satan shows up to try and tempt him.

Then there’s Self-inflicted Temptation. This is what the bible describes as our own desires drawing us away and enticing us. When there are worldly desires in our heart that we have not crucified, that we have not put to death, these are the desires that can eventually lead us away from Christ and into sin.

In order to resist Satan and stand strong, we must first do this:

Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry. On account of these the wrath of God is coming. In these you too once walked, when you were living in them. But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth. Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its creator. Here there is not Greek and Jew, circumcised and uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave, free; but Christ is all, and in all. Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. (‭Colossians‬ ‭3‬:‭5-14‬ ESV)

How do you practically put to death what is earthly or worldly in you? Jesus gives one answer:

“If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me.” (‭Luke‬ ‭9‬:‭23)

First, simply deny yourself. If you desire to read an erotic novel, you refrain from doing so. If you desire to watch a worldly tv show, you do something else instead (preferably meditating on something excellent, pure, perfect, holy, while cleaning or serving someone for example).

Then there are other things we can do like not hanging out with immoral friends because bad company corrupts good character (1 Corinthians 15:33), or cutting an ungodly relationship. Accountability, which simply means you are open and honest with another Christian, helps as well. You typically know what causes you to trip up and it ultimately comes down to who you will choose to serve: self or God.

I pray you choose Jesus, because He alone promises to have a good, acceptable, perfect, and pleasing will for your life that will only be discovered and experienced if you offer yourself as a living sacrifice to God and renew your mind through His Word (Romans 12:1-2).

Who else loves you as much as Jesus does? May the love of Christ compel you to daily pursue the right thing for His sake.

Know you worth,

Natasha ❤