How To Defeat The Two Forms Of Temptation

I pray for you precious sisters every day. I love you all and it is my great desire to see you walk in power, faithfulness, and the blessedness of the Lord by your obedience to Him. I want to talk to you ladies about the practical instructions given to us in several places in the bible: “Flee youthful lusts; Run from temptation.”

I believe as Christians, our flesh has been crucified because the bible tells us it has, but if you feed the flesh long enough, you can fall into sin. There are two forms of temptation. The first is what I’ll call Satanic Set-ups. Sometimes, the devil sets us up. In Job chapter one, Satan goes to God and asks if he can tempt Job to blaspheme by taking away his belongings. In Luke chapter four, Jesus is just following the Spirit as always, and Satan shows up to try and tempt him.

Then there’s Self-inflicted Temptation. This is what the bible describes as our own desires drawing us away and enticing us. When there are worldly desires in our heart that we have not crucified, that we have not put to death, these are the desires that can eventually lead us away from Christ and into sin.

In order to resist Satan and stand strong, we must first do this:

Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry. On account of these the wrath of God is coming. In these you too once walked, when you were living in them. But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth. Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its creator. Here there is not Greek and Jew, circumcised and uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave, free; but Christ is all, and in all. Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. (‭Colossians‬ ‭3‬:‭5-14‬ ESV)

How do you practically put to death what is earthly or worldly in you? Jesus gives one answer:

“If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me.” (‭Luke‬ ‭9‬:‭23)

First, simply deny yourself. If you desire to read an erotic novel, you refrain from doing so. If you desire to watch a worldly tv show, you do something else instead (preferably meditating on something excellent, pure, perfect, holy, while cleaning or serving someone for example).

Then there are other things we can do like not hanging out with immoral friends because bad company corrupts good character (1 Corinthians 15:33), or cutting an ungodly relationship. Accountability, which simply means you are open and honest with another Christian, helps as well. You typically know what causes you to trip up and it ultimately comes down to who you will choose to serve: self or God.

I pray you choose Jesus, because He alone promises to have a good, acceptable, perfect, and pleasing will for your life that will only be discovered and experienced if you offer yourself as a living sacrifice to God and renew your mind through His Word (Romans 12:1-2).

Who else loves you as much as Jesus does? May the love of Christ compel you to daily pursue the right thing for His sake.

Know you worth,

Natasha ❤

Becoming A Proverbs 31 Woman Day 16

Her children rise up and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praises her: “Many daughters have done well, But you excel them all.” (‭Proverbs‬ ‭31‬:‭28-29‬ NKJV)

A Proverbs 31 Woman is blessed by her children, and hubby compliments her because he’s pleased with her. I don’t think many of us should expect small children to praise us often, but as they get older, they should notice our efforts if they’re done in love and compassion. The one who will take greater notice is likely your husband. So, does hubby praise you? Maybe not every day, but does he thank you, smile at you, notice things you do?

Sometimes he can be so preoccupied that he overlooks your efforts, but then there’s other times where you’re doing things, but not from love. There’s a cloud of bitterness around you that sprinkles or showers your efforts; serving dinner in cold silence, or slamming the plates down. Maybe you’re frustrated or feeling overwhelmed and so you’re short with hubby, or maybe you complain a lot but don’t realize it.

I lovingly say, I’m sorry sister, but that kind of attitude is not praiseworthy, despite all you’re doing. It is when you serve your husband with love and joy, and reverence that praise comes and he deems you the best wife of all. But if you’re simply doing your wifely duties because they’re duties, and not because you love and desire to serve your family and bless them, it shows.

If you notice praise has been missing from your family, evaluate yourself. Sometimes they are simply overlooking, and God can be testing your heart to see if that angers you or if you’re satisfied with knowing He sees, or it can be because your attitude isn’t right.

I know it can be tempting to think you have reasons for behaving rudely and with bitterness, but I ask you to lay that pride down and accept that God gives none of His children an exception to kindness. He says bless those who curse you, pray for those who use and abuse you, and love your enemies. No matter how you are treated, you are called to respond with love (side note: I’m not saying to accept physical abuse or a husband who uses drugs or cheats on you. You can love him, but do not enable him to continue in this abuse. Separate yourself and your children until he repents for real or leave him. In such cases, God permits divorce and you would be doing your family a great disservice if you remain in an abusive environment. It’s not healthy for you or your children and can very well cause them to grow up and do the same things as their father).

For all other issues, money, sex, career, chores etc. pray to the Father and continue honoring your husband. God can reveal to him that he’s spending too much time away from home or on work or whatever it is. God doesn’t need you to tell his son what his problems are. If you trust yours and his Father, He will speak to your husband about his attitude and actions. Remember:

Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. (‭I Peter‬ ‭3‬:‭1-2‬ NKJV)

You can only become a Proverbs 31 Woman by surrendering your whole heart and mind to Jesus Christ. If you cannot submit your fears and doubts and control to Him, you will never be able to walk in such nobility and selfless love. Once you repent of your sins and follow Jesus, He gives you His Holy Spirit to live inside of you and He helps you walk in a holy manner like God. If you try to do this apart from the Holy Spirit, you will fail.

Proverbs 31 Woman Prayer
Father in heaven, in Jesus’ name, I thank You for Your patience and kindness. I pray that You will strengthen me and give me Your patience and kindness, gentleness and humility. Help me to respect my husband, to walk in Your peace, and to serve in love. Dissolve all anger in my heart, I repent of it now in Jesus’ name, and ask that I will be pleased in pleasing You. I pray that my conduct will be praiseworthy and that my husband will repent of any disobedience to You in his life by watching my respectful behavior toward You and him. And help my children to learn gratitude and help me teach them it. Amen.

Why I Disagree With Kissing Before Marriage

Here’s the first reason why I disagree with kissing before marriage:

“Do not rebuke an older man, but exhort him as a father, younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, younger women as sisters, with all purity.” (I Timothy‬ ‭5‬:‭1-2‬ NKJV)

Would a brother intimately kiss his sister on the mouth? I think not. It’s strange and perverse to do so. So if Paul is telling young Timothy to treat younger women as sisters, with all purity, I am sure he means it. And in his first letter to the Corinthians he writes:

“Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.” (I Corinthians‬ ‭7‬:‭1‬ NKJV)

The word here for touch is hapto, which literally means to fasten to, adhere to, to fasten fire to a thing, kindle, set of fire.

It’s not good for a man to fasten himself onto a woman in any way; sex, long hugs, kissing, and to do anything that will kindle fire in her aka lust. For a man or woman to do this before marriage is to walk in the flesh, to be selfish, worldly, and to act ungodly.

Does not the world teach young people to have boyfriends and girlfriends and to kiss, cuddle, date, and have sex? Are we as children of God not supposed to be holy and set apart, not conforming to the pattern of this world but renewing our minds? Why then do we imitate the way the world goes about premarital relationships?

Kissing ain’t spiritual. We are gratifying our flesh—period. We like the sensation of mouth to mouth contact, we want to feel wanted, it excites us—all fleshly desires. And kissing usually leads to more intimate interaction. If you feel nothing when you kiss your boyfriend or girlfriend, no “sparks,” then that’s weird. But most people do get a fire kindled by kissing.

So if you’re a Christian in a premarital relationship and you’re kissing, you’re feeding your flesh and there is absolutely no benefit whatsoever to that. But, there is benefits to waiting till marriage to kiss.

In the beginning of our relationship, Jonathan and I were new to christianity, weren’t really getting discipled, just trying to follow God on our own. Thus, we only knew of one kind of premarital relationship: the worldly kind. We dated, we kissed a lot, we were very affectionate, and it led to sin both inwardly and outwardly. We’d cry and repent, then fall again and wonder why we couldn’t control ourselves. The bible in its wisdom has some practical principles about lust and temptation: RUN FROM IT. We weren’t running, we were walking into dumb situations that could easily lead us to sin. It wasn’t until Jonathan gained accountability from a men’s bible study and God revealed courtship to me that we began walking in victory.

We stopped kissing (we did kiss when he proposed and maybe two other pop kisses, which still, we were immature in our faith and I do not condone it), and on our wedding day that kiss was amazing! Refraining from it for months had truly made it all the more wonderful when we were finally able to again. The benefit wasn’t just a physically satisfying one, but it really strengthened our relationship and trust of one another. I knew Jonathan loved me for me and was with me for who I was in Christ—not for how I made him feel. We practiced self-control and if we could refrain from each other in our burning youth when we were very attracted to one another, it’d be very difficult for us to cheat on each other in the future.

Most importantly, you’re honoring and pleasing God. His Scripture is clear on purity. He doesn’t want His children to even lust, let alone practice things that stir it up. So when you are obedient to His Word, you are benefiting yourself because He rewards obedience here and in heaven.

So family, please don’t kiss before marriage. Honor God with your whole body, mind and heart too. It’s not impossible. Mariah Peters and one of the brothers from For King And Country waited three years to kiss on their wedding day. In Christ, our flesh has been crucified and we walk in the newness of the Holy Spirit.

Much love,

Natasha

I Love Posting Stuff About Jesus, I Just Don’t Live It.

There are some who love to repost bible verses and those Christian photos with godly sayings all over their social media outlets, however, do not put to practice what they are sharing and “amening.”

You’re not fooling anyone. Okay, maybe some who don’t ever hang out with you in person, but those who actually know you, know you don’t practice what you preach, so when you do preach, it actually does more harm for God’s kingdom than it does benefit it, because people think, “If your God is so powerful and awesome, why are you still the same?” Or “Then why are you still doing [fill in whatever sin the self-professing Christian is still bound by]?”

Best case scenario: you repent, surrender to Christ and actually start living like Him by the power of the Holy Spirit.

Next best thing: you stop putting up a front.

Worse case scenario: You keep faking and turning people off from God/give Him a bad name.

I know this may sound harsh, but I’m being completely honest with you all. God is not to be mocked, and it is a mockery when you profess His holy commands with your mouth, but your heart is far from Him. People blaspheme God because so-called believers make Him seem profane by their sinful lifestyles. They make it look like either one: God is not almighty and powerful enough to destroy sin in a believer’s life, or two and worse yet: He’s cool with sin in a believer’s life and doesn’t expect His children to be transformed.

What are the angels in heaven flying around in heaven proclaiming about God’s character?

“The four living creatures, each having six wings, were full of eyes around and within. And they do not rest day or night, saying: “Holy, holy, holy, Lord God Almighty, Who was and is and is to come!” (‭Revelation‬ ‭4‬:‭8‬)

And one cried to another and said: “Holy, holy, holy is the LORD of hosts; The whole earth is full of His glory!” (‭Isaiah‬ ‭6‬:‭3‬)

We are commanded to live holy lives and Christ said:

“The one who has My commands and keeps them is the one who loves Me. And the one who loves Me will be loved by My Father. I also will love him and will reveal Myself to him.” (‭John‬ ‭14‬:‭21‬)

Don’t you want to stop pretending and actually have Christ reveal Himself in a powerful way that truly transforms your life? He promises that those who obey His commands will indeed experience Him in a personal, authentic way, and will be loved by Him and His Father. Now, if Christ says those who obey Him will be loved by Him and His Father, what does that mean for those who don’t obey Him? I think it’s safe to conclude the opposite for them.

God did so love the world He gave His Son for them, but there comes a point where you continue to reject Him, and then He will reject you too. You can proclaim with your mouth till you’re blue in the face that you love and believe in Jesus, but if you are not obeying Him, you do not truly love Him, and you should not expect that He is okay with your falseness and sin and that you can just stroll right into heaven when you die and not be held accountable for every idle word you spoke.

Now I sympathize with the person who believes, but just doesn’t know the power of God and was never taught the truth about genuine repentance and faith in Christ. To you I strongly encourage going before the Lord in prayer and asking Him to forgive you and baptize you with His Holy Spirit that you may be empowered to live a holy life that is pleasing to Him. Then get to know Him and His Word and obey it by the power of His Spirit who now fills you.

But to those who know what the bible says about Christian conduct, and you got those verses memorized, and you play church and secretly you love your sin, I fear for you. God is a Judge and He avenges all wrong-doers. He sees the heart and isn’t pleased with your charade. He will expose you if you do not genuinely fear Him and repent. What is hidden in darkness will come to light eventually, and you will be crushed by the harsh and humiliating exposure God will put you through if you keep playing games with Him.

O how loving and merciful God is—to those who repent and trust in Him, living out the truth of the gospel by the power of the Holy Spirit.

But how fierce and terrible He is to those who abuse His grace and never genuinely repent before Him.

For we know the One who has said, Vengeance belongs to Me, I will repay, and again, The Lord will judge His people. It is a terrifying thing to fall into the hands of the living God! (‭Hebrews‬ ‭10‬:‭30-31‬)

For yet in a very little while, the Coming One will come and not delay. But My righteous one will live by faith; and if he draws back, I have no pleasure in him. But we are not those who draw back and are destroyed, but those who have faith and obtain life. (‭Hebrews‬ ‭10‬:‭37-39‬)

Christian Girls And Short-Shorts

If they’re five inches above the knee or shorter, they’re too short.

I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God. (‭Romans‬ ‭12‬:‭1-2‬ NKJV)

We aren’t to copy the world. They’re immodest, but women who profess godliness are not.

We are to offer our bodies as holy sacrifices to God, not unholy, seductive, eye-candy that causes men to lust. Let’s not forget Christ is the one who said lust is on the same page as adultery. And God does hold us accountable for everyone we cause to stumble.

So please, honor God. Repent if you are immodest. It may please man, but it disgusts God. And trust me, He’s the one you want delighting in your holy beauty at the end of the day.

I’m a Christian, Unmarried, & Having Sex

May Christians never forget, God hates sexual immorality and will punish the unrepentant:

For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one transgress and wrong his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you beforehand and solemnly warned you. For God has not called us for impurity, but in holiness. Therefore whoever disregards this, disregards not man but God, who gives his Holy Spirit to you. (‭1 Thessalonians‬ ‭4‬:‭3-8‬)

But I have this against you, that you tolerate that woman Jezebel, who calls herself a prophetess and is teaching and seducing my servants to practice sexual immorality and to eat food sacrificed to idols. I gave her time to repent, but she refuses to repent of her sexual immorality. Behold, I will throw her onto a sickbed, and those who commit adultery with her I will throw into great tribulation, unless they repent of her works, and I will strike her children dead. And all the churches will know that I am he who searches mind and heart, and I will give to each of you according to your works. (‭Revelation‬ ‭2‬:‭20-23‬ ESV)

Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.

“Food is meant for the stomach and the stomach for food”—and God will destroy both one and the other. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.

Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? Never! Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, “The two will become one flesh.” But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him. Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body. (‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭6‬:‭9-10, 13, 15-20‬)

But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints. Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving. For you may be sure of this, that everyone who is sexually immoral or impure, or who is covetous (that is, an idolater), has no inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience. Therefore do not become partners with them; for at one time you were darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light (‭Ephesians‬ ‭5‬:‭3-8‬)

There is no option of living together and getting engaged. God does not suddenly approve of sin because you plan on eventually getting married. In fact, that’s a slap in the face to His holiness and the righteous standards He places upon every believer. This is the only option:

Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. (1 Corinthians‬ ‭7‬:‭1-4)

Get married, then you can have all the sex you want. Until then, practice your faith by walking in self-control which is a fruit of the Holy Spirit. If you really have Him, you will be able to do all things through Christ who strengthens you, including overcoming sexual sin. If you don’t care, God will judge you as He promised He will, and it won’t be pretty.

God is to be feared, not mocked. And He will reward everyone according to their deeds.

I pray you choose to obey Him and experience His restoration, power, and love like never before.

Those Girls Need More Than A Purity Sermon

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I received an email today from a sister who leads a girls’ youth group. She was asking if I knew of any Christian resources on the topic of make-up. I don’t, except the bible, but truly, the young women in her group could probably benefit more from

prayer, encouragement, listening ears, hugs, food, basically practical displays of love, and a deep teaching of the Word.

Without prayer, you can pretty much throw in the towel for the souls of those God has entrusted you with. You have to realize their lives are being hunted by satan himself. The battle we wage is not against flesh-and-blood, but against spiritual forces of darkness.

So these girls you meet with need much more than a discussion on outward appearances. Before any of that even comes into play, the battle for their souls needs to be won. And soul-winning comes through prayer and the Word.

Cover those young women in prayer every day, and then speak the truth to them in love. They need to understand the gospel and truly receive Christ, then they need to be taught the deep riches of the Word.

If they have insecurity issues and think they need makeup, it’s a spiritual issue at play, a divine inner-healing that needs to take place and only God’s truth and prayer can deliver that freedom.

So I encourage you, if you are leading a youth group, love the girls by praying for them and putting a huge emphasis on the Word of God. Listen to their needs. Don’t just talk at them. Be there for them, give them your number. Let them know you’re available, that you have and will make time for them. And once you begin to disciple them in this way, you will see them start to stand on their own. They will flourish before your eyes, and the goal should be to get them to a place where they don’t need you anymore (the church does need one another, but we all have to grow to a place of maturity in our faith where even if our first mama in Christ leaves or dies, or God-forbid falls away, our faith isn’t shipwrecked).

May the girls you disciple grow to be strong women of God, holy and honorable, ready to disciple their own flock someday.

Amen.