The Real Reason Why A Man Pushing Premarital Sex Doesn’t Love You

Ladies, if a “Christian” man intends on and expects to have sex before marriage, he does not really love you, and you may not have considered this as the reason why. Stay put; it’s about to get deep.

“Finally then, brothers, we ask and encourage you in the Lord Jesus, that as you have received from us how you must walk and please God — as you are doing — do so even more.

For this is God’s will, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality, so that each of you knows how to control his own body in sanctification and honor, not with lustful desires, like the Gentiles who don’t know God. This means one must not transgress against and defraud his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger of all these offenses, as we also previously told and warned you. For God has not called us to impurity but to sanctification. Therefore, the person who rejects this does not reject man, but God, who also gives you His Holy Spirit.”
‭‭1 Thessalonians‬ ‭4:1, 3-8‬ ‭HCSB‬‬

The man who purposes to have sex with you before marriage is rejecting God by refusing to abstain from premarital sex. He is rejecting Christ which means if he dies today, according to scripture, he will go to hell:

“Don’t you know that the unrighteous will not inherit God’s kingdom? Do not be deceived: No sexually immoral people, idolaters, adulterers … will inherit God’s kingdom.”
‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭6:9-10‬ ‭HCSB‬‬

It’s much deeper than many of us realize. So much of pagan and idol worship involves sex outside of the covenant of marriage. Having sex with temple prostitutes and orgies were popular forms of “worship” and here is why:

God ordained marriage to display the beautiful, holy, intimate relationship He has with His bride the Church. In the bible, the word used for when a man makes love to his wife is “yada.” It is a deep “knowing” hence the reason the bible usually translates it in ways like this, “and Isaac *knew* Rebecca.”

That same word is used often by God when He tells us He will cause us to “know” Him.

“I will take you to be My wife forever. I will take you to be My wife in righteousness, justice, love, and compassion. I will take you to be My wife in faithfulness, and you will know Yahweh.”
‭‭Hosea‬ ‭2:19-20‬ ‭HCSB‬‬

God is all about creation pointing back to Him, glorifying Him. The union of a married couple is supposed to help us understand the way God desires us to deeply know and love Him, just as we are deeply loved and known by Him.

Satan, God’s enemy, the fallen angel who hates Jesus more than anyone, as an act of defiance toward Him, takes pleasure in profaning God’s creation, in profaning everything, but ESPECIALLY marriage. Satan warps the creation of true, sacred marital oneness (“sex” as the world calls it), and makes it as vile as possible, hence pornography, rape, homosexuality, beastiality, orgies, etc.

But with Christians, he needs to be much more crafty and less flamboyantly profane to lure them into his trap. Satan’s mission: seduce God’s children whom God loves immeasurably and died to save, trick them into having premarital sex so they can be his greatest weapons to crush God’s heart. After luring a Christian to reject the Holy Spirit and walk into his grasp, engaging in sex outside of God’s covenant of marriage, Satan peers up into the fiery eyes of Jesus and says, “look at Your children. Look at how much they love You.”

Beloved, do not ever let yourself become a flaming arrow in Satan’s hand used to pierce Christ’s heart and trample and spit upon His sacrifice. He died so you can be free from sin, not so that you can keep following Satan.

“But anyone joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him. Run from sexual immorality! “Every sin a person can commit is outside the body.” On the contrary, the person who is sexually immoral sins against his own body. Don’t you know that your body is a sanctuary of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought at a price. Therefore glorify God in your body.”
‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭6:17-20‬ ‭‬‬

I Like A Guy Who’s In A Relationship

I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem, By the gazelles or by the does of the field, Do not stir up nor awaken love Until it pleases. (‭Song of Solomon‬ ‭2‬:‭7‬ NKJV

Note: She’s speaking to women.

I’ve known several sisters who have done exactly what this verse warns against. There’s a brother in Christ who catches their eye, they start crushing, but the guy never really pursues them. Some of these brothers were in relationships and eventually married the girls they were with, but until that day, these sisters were convinced that the brother was truly meant for them, and the girlfriend was a counterfeit. Whether she really was or not didn’t change their reality: the brother was not pursing them, and in the end, he never did. 
It is crucial to your faith to refrain from opening up your heart to a man before the right time. If he’s in a relationship, it isn’t the right time. If he’s not pursing you, it isn’t the right time. 

Sometimes, a sister thinks the guy is into her because he shows her attention. What I’ve found is that, often, girlfriends are good at being girlfriends, but not as friends. What I mean is, she’s faithful, committed, esteeming the man, being romantic, etc. but she’s not being a friend who just hangs out and has fun with him. So the man is seeking female friendship in a girl other than his girlfriend. He’s immature, she’s immature, and they haven’t yet realized friendship is lacking in their relationship. But that’s when the single sister thinks the guy likes her, when really, he just enjoys her friendship and is using her for the sake of his fun and enjoyment. He doesn’t want to be more than friends; he already has a girlfriend fulfilling that area of his life. 

The reality check is you are an attention quencher, a fun-filler, but you’re nothing more in his eyes. If you were, he would make himself available, be open about his motives, and pursue you. 

I understand this truth can hurt. This is why I exhort my precious sisters to not share deep friendships with a man. Keep it superficial and distant. When you get married, that deep friendship will have to get snipped anyway. Why do I say this? Because with women, adultery usually begins with emotional connection. A man is listening to her feelings when her husband isn’t. A man is making time for her when her husband isn’t. This quickly spirals into a physical relationship and now you are more than mere friends. 

You don’t want to be a home-wrecker either. What if that brother comes onto you while still in a relationship? What if he then leaves her for you? Do you think God will bless that ignoble way of entering a relationship? And if you were able to steal his affection, what makes you think another woman like you can’t come around later on and do the same thing, stealing him from you? 

You don’t want a man that is so easily swayed. You want a committed one. And that’s the irony of so many women who go after the married man because they find his commitment sexy. Guess what? He’s no longer a noble and committed man once he’s sinned with you! And neither is the unmarried man in a relationship. So BACK OFF. God doesn’t write messed up The Bachelor/Bachelorette stories (hence why those relationships always quickly end in divorce!). 

If God wants you married, He’ll work it out, but you must do your part, which isn’t meddling with other people’s boyfriends or husbands. It’s being pure. That is the greatest preparation for a husband: purity. Your eyes and heart are not set on someone they shouldn’t be, they’re set on Jesus. And as you keep them on Him, Jesus will allow a godly single brother to see you. He will pray and pursue, and you can trust him to protect your purity, as you will his. And that is a relationship God will bless. Trust me, I know from experience. 

Love you sisters,


To My Husband On Our 4th Anniversary

Today marks four wonderful, increasingly sweet and joyous years of marriage to my prince and knight, Jonathan. I thank God every day for our marriage. To think: since our first conversation over text to now, we’ve only helped one another grow in our relationship with Christ.

My love, you are a gift from God, a noble son of our Heavenly Father, a precious prince who loves, cherishes, leads, supports, provides for and protects me.

I am so grateful to stand beside you and help you become and accomplish all that our God has predestined you to achieve for His glory. I love seeing you grow and flourish as a godly man.

“Most men will proclaim each his own goodness, But who can find a faithful man?”-Proverbs‬ ‭20‬:‭6‬

I have found a good and faithful man, a man I can respect and support for all of my days. I can only pray we have many more years together to enjoy.

I love you, Jonathan Sapienza, and thank Christ for you. Happy anniversary, my love.

Give in to His love

I had an appointment for a free leg wax today and honestly wasn’t too excited about going, but just decided to go through with it. So while I’m in the room, somehow or another we get to talking about how I knew Jonathan was the one (oh right, she said I looked young to be married), and then she’s like, “Oh my goodness, you sound just like my mother! She’s 100% Christian. The past four years she’s just become so Christian, and she’s always telling me about these amazing things God’s doing, etc. etc.” And I’m thinking man, this girl hears it all the time from her mom, about how amazing it is to be in a love relationship with the Lord, now here He is, bringing some random girl to tell her the same thing, and I’m like, “Man, God just knocks and knocks and when you sense Him knocking, He just gets louder and louder. He’s such a stalker!” And another girl there started opening up at how she just bought her first Bible last week and how she wants to really start following Him as well and telling me how He’s been calling her and we both were like, “Wow, it truly is amazing that the God of the Universe cares that much to have a relationship with us.”

I also began to share with her what the Lord had told me to read this morning from the book of Hosea; how Hosea was a prophet the Lord told to marry a prostitute because at the time, the nation of Israel, His people, were “playing the harlot,” that is, worshiping other gods. And how in the first chapter He’s very upset, calling Israel “Not His people” and a harlot. It deeply hurts Him that they have now given their love and attention to false gods, the gods the other nations worshiped, and how they had completely forgotten about Him. He’s so mad, He talks about how He’s going to give them over to their enemies and no longer have mercy on them, but then immediately, it’s like His love for them is so great, He just can’t–despite for how much and for how long they’ve been ignoring Him and showing other gods their love and devotion–completely cut them off. He says in verse ten that yet still, He is going to so multiply the children of Israel and that in the place where it was said to them, “You are not my people,” it shall be said to them, “You are the sons of the living God.”

I’m just blown away by His love and grace. These people have completely turned their backs on Him, doing disgusting things: having sex with temple prostitutes of the false gods, sacrificing their children to these gods by burning them in fire and YET God says, ‘One day, you’ll be called My sons.” To be a son of a king means to be the heir of their throne. God looks at us, having premarital sex, going wild at clubs and parties, or just completely shrugging Him off, and yet He desires to make US His sons? The heirs of His kingdom? The kingdom where there’s no more pain, sorrow, or death, but just complete righteousness, joy, and peace?

Think about that.


In chapter two His love for rebellious people just further blows my mind. He begins to talk about how Israel was His wife, and He her Husband. That’s how intimate He sees His relationship with His people; He compares it to the most intimate relationship one can have on earth: marriage. And again, He talks about the punishment He’s going to bring on them; destroying their crops, taking away their joy, but just like in chapter one, right after He pronounces the well-deserved punishments, He starts talking about how He’s going to bless them again after these things (see He knows that unfortunately, all the prophets He sent before were to of no avail; they didn’t bring about a change of heart in the people. Israel could care less that God was sending them warnings through prophets so now He says, ‘I’m gonna take away all the things that cause you to prosper and have joy, because only then will you recognize that I was the One who gave them to you in the first place, and then you will return to Me). So He says after these punishments:

“Therefore, behold, I will allure her,
Will bring her into the wilderness,
And speak comfort to her.
 I will give her her vineyards from there,
And the Valley of Achor as a door of hope;
She shall sing there,
As in the days of her youth,
As in the day when she came up from the land of Egypt.

 “And it shall be, in that day,”
Says the Lord,
That you will call Me ‘My Husband,’
And no longer call Me ‘My Master,’
 For I will take from her mouth the names of the Baals,
And they shall be remembered by their name no more.
 In that day I will make a covenant for them
With the beasts of the field,
With the birds of the air,
And with the creeping things of the ground.
Bow and sword of battle I will shatter from the earth,
To make them lie down safely.

“I will betroth you to Me forever;
Yes, I will betroth you to Me
In righteousness and justice,
In lovingkindness and mercy;
 I will betroth you to Me in faithfulness,
And you shall know the Lord.

 “It shall come to pass in that day
That I will answer,” says the Lord.” -Hosea 2:14-21


See ladies, the affection and attention you crave from men, it is a desire God gave you, but a desire only He could fulfill. These men breaking your hearts, or maybe even treating you like silver (not gold, unless he loves and honors the Lord), but it not being enough, that’s just because a man cannot satisfy and fill that need that you have for love. Only God can. Only the Lord who so desperately wants your attention and love, only He can complete you. Before Sir Jonathan was placed in my path, I was complete. For the first time in my life I didn’t care about having a boyfriend. I didn’t even want one! Why? Because I had finally allowed God to fulfill that void in me. And my, did He satisfy me! (My friends and family can tell you; they thought I was nuts!) But you know how when you meet a guy you think is just so hot and amazing, and you can’t stop talking about him to your friends? Well, that’s just how it was and still is to this day with Jesus. He is so amazing and treats me with such incredible love that I can’t help but tell others about Him. My husband is great, but like I’ve said MANY times before, Jonathan doesn’t hold a candle to my Lord. No man on this earth comes close to how wonderful God is.

Beautiful princesses, I plead with you, allow God to love on you, to pour out His love on you. It is His desire to just drown you with love. The Bible says like how parents decide to have kids just because they desire them and want to love them, God made all of us for, “His good pleasure.” It just pleased Him to have sons and daughters. It’s time to come home to Him. Only then will your heart be at rest, and your joy complete.

“These things I have spoken to you, that My joy may remain in you, and that your joy may be full.” -Jesus (John 15:11)

Do you have a guy on your mind more often than not? You got a problem, girl: you’re setting yourself up for a heartbreak

This is coming from a girl well acquainted with heart breaks [too acquainted]. I’ve cried for many boys, but I’ve had four true heart-breaks (two coming from the same guy).

My first major heart break would make it’s debut before I was even considered a teenager. I was in fifth-grade, during my highest season (sixteen boyfriends in one year), when I met the brother of the boy who would break my heart a year later. His name was Joel, (the heart-breaker’s brother), and I’m saddened to say he was infatuated with me. It’s sorrowful to recount, but I actually dated Joel, and like the fifteen boyfriends I had that fifth grade year, I dumped him like a hot potato–maybe gave ’em two weeks, tops, before another boy caught my eye–his older brother. When I met JC it was Halloween. He was (up until that point), the cutest boy I’d ever seen; big hazel eyes, dirty blond hair, tight bod (for a thirteen year-old at least). This Puerto-Rican cutie-pie honestly resembled a young William Levy. He had a girl-friend, but that wasn’t an issue for me. Girl-friends or girls who liked the same guy as me were hardly an obstacle (or at least they weren’t before). So, I invited him to my twelfth birthday party. I was in sixth grade now, and he was in seventh (always had a thing for older guys). He came, and my, was he the topic for discussion for every girl at my party, even my sixteen-teen year old sister and mom! [I’m tellin’ you, this boy was a looker!]. We slow danced (my dad got it on tape), to Ginuwine’s “Differences” and Usher’s “New Relationship” (my mom, knowing he had a girl-friend, asked the DJ to play it). Everything was going great, this guy was totally into me! (so I thought…) Shortly after my party, maybe a week or so, he dumped his girl-friend and asked me out. I was ecstatic!–for two weeks. He dumped me after some drama that took place with his ex (this girl literally walked around the school in her cheerleader uniform with a two by two foot poster saying I was a slut, so I did what any goodie-good twelve year old would do: did the same thing but with meaner labels. Sidenote:I wasn’t always a Christian). But I discovered from my bestfriend that this was only a reason to get rid of me because he really dug her cousin who had attended my party, but left early. Boy was I broken to pieces. JC left Miami and moved two hours away the same year. I cried for him for over a year, torturing myself with the song, “You Got it Bad.” I did have it bad, and I was only twelve! But that wouldn’t be the last time my little heart get’s trampled on.

I had a few mini heart breaks after JC; one in seventh grade, another in eighth, and then in tenth. I was now sixteen, and had met a new boy that surpassed my like of the rest, yes, even of JC. Chris, we’ll call him, was now the most beautiful guy I’d ever seen. This guy resembled James Franco in his prime (my friends and I would come up with code names for the guys we liked, his was, “J. F.”). Brown eyes that were never opened all the way, giving them a mysterious squint, always having a glimmer in them, even in the darkest of lighting. And his smile, oh his smile; pearly white against visibly soft thick pink lips. He had a good height for a sixteen year-old; 5’9, and everything from those squinty eyes to his deep and raspy voice was mysterious. But I’d quickly come to find he and I were on two very different walks in life. He was into drinking and smoking weed, I was not. So he relayed to me, right off the bat, that he wasn’t interested in “good girls.” I should’ve heeded the warning. Two weeks later he was dating a girl with basically the female version of his name, “Christina” we’ll call her (in real life the names were even closer). I was really hurt, because I’d researched this boy’s MySpace page up and down, had a three hour conversation with him over AIM, and convinced myself that he was perfect for me and that I too was perfect for him. I would believe this, albeit somewhat secretively, for two years before he’d finally give me the time of day.

His relationship with Christina lasted surprisingly long; over a year. I found out later that he had lost it to her and the fact that she was having sex with him had much to do with it. I also heard that he eventually dumped her because he got tired of her, and she became a bit crazy for him. This didn’t bother me too much, because I saw beyond his reputation. I was a virgin myself, and believed a good girl like me could change him. (Food for thought: you can’t change a guy, at least not permanently. Only God can change a person for good, and only if they WANT to change).

I was a Senior when we got reconnected, and he started to fall for me (well actually, under the stars one night, he confessed indirectly that he’d cared about me all along). This boy also believed that he could change for me. He told me he was willing to abstain from sex (even though for me, it wasn’t an option to begin with), and wait for me, no matter how much it killed him inside. (Ever hear that one, ladies?) Anyways, he waited all right, for two weeks! He blamed the break up on family issues, but he had another girl-friend not very long after, and then another, and later on that year, a week after hooking up with me again, I ran into him at the mall and guess who he was with? Christina!

Well, he broke my heart: I lost seven pounds in less than two weeks. My poor bestfriend, Marilyn, had to suffer through the pain with me (being that we were practically connected at the hip). But a final heart breaker would enter my life a month after the break-up (which by the way, was on Valentine’s Day): Dace.

Dace and I worked at the same dance studio. I taught (still do), Musical Theatre and he taught Acrobatics. Funny, I’d seen this mysterious and quite-frankly, weird, acro teacher a few times, but didn’t think much of him (except that he was kind of strange). But one day, after going out with a few mutual friends (his friend, David liked me), I became attracted to him. We started “exclusively dating” (not officially), that same week. It would be two months until he’d ask me on prom night to make it official. I was on cloud nine with this boy–until he revealed another side of himself (literally). This boy was more confusing, conflicting, and complicated than any guy I dated before him. He was truly a nice guy, but had lots of unresolved issues that broke us apart. He couldn’t give his heart over to me as I had so willfully given him mine (I was ready to finally lose my virginity), but he denied both my goods (we did, however, do other things sexually, which I regret), and my heart, and this time, I was broken for real. I was done. I had made this boy, unbeknowest to me, my god. I loved him more than anything, thought about him more than anything, and was willing to give up all I had to offer, just so I could be with him forever. And this, was a problem. 

See, I had set my heart up for the shattering. I thrust my heart into the hands of boys who couldn’t handle it with care and who definitly couldn’t open up their hearts to me. Whether it be paternal issues or some other family issues, they had been sinned against, and these unhealed wounds disabled them from moving on and loving freely, without doubt or fear.

The Bible says, “Perfect love casts out fear.” I didn’t know this while in relationship with these boys, but they were incapable of loving me, because fear had crippled them, and the only way they would ever be able to love me completely, was if and when Perfect Love cast it out. Do you know where Perfect Love comes from? God.

The Bible says, “God is love,” and that, “We love because He first loved us.” If we want to know how to love, the best example of love that ever walked this earth was Jesus Christ Himself. He said that everything He did, He’d seen the Father do. He said that He and the Father were one. So God came down, in the likeness of man, so that we can know Perfect Love, in hopes that we would not only emulate it, but embrace it.

So what am I saying?

Lovely lady (or even gentleman), reading this blog, if you have given your heart over to another human being, so much so, that you think about them at least 95% of the time, you are setting yourself up for heart break, because there is no human being on the planet that can love you perfectly. I’m married, and my husband loves me, and although it’s lightyears better than any guy before him, it’s definitly not a perfect love. It get’s better and will continue to do so because He is a man of God and wants to obey God’s commands on how to love and Christ lives in his heart, so He has the capacity to love me immensely and display it beautifully, but only God can love me and does love me with utter perfection. There’s a term in the greek for God’s love called “agape” it means, ‘God’s unconditional love.’ He’s the only one that knows every single sin you’ve ever commited and even the ones you will later, and yet, loves you unconditionally. He knows every thought you’ve ever had, and still loves you. He actually formed you, gave you the gifts and the passions you hold. He’s so in love with you, He watches you every second of the day. He knows everything you do. He seeks opportunity to knock on your heart, to whisper in your ear, to let you know He is there, in hopes that by His love and grace, you’d acknowledge Him and want to pursue Him in return. Some people don’t believe in Him, I’d boldly say it’s because they’ve willfully turned a blind eye to His presence. They deny and deny Him until their hearts are so hard, they really cannot see Him in their life. The Bible calls it a veil. But Jesus can remove it, if they so choose.

God’s love is for everyone, the Bible makes it clear, but it also makes it clear that love is a choice. We can choose God’s love or we can deny it till our last breath. And then God’s critics balk at hell. If they want nothing to do with Him while here on earth, why would they want to go to heaven where they’ll be in His presence for eternity? What I’m saying is, love is a choice, and even hell is a choice. You can choose to give your heart to God, or you can give it to someone or something else. But in the end, that road leads to destruction. (Trust me, I’ve been there, and know plenty others who have been too).

So my prayer for you is that you give your heart to God. That you would simply say aloud to Him, ‘God, I open my heart to you now, and I invite you inside. I’m sick of the heart breaks and disappointments, I want someone who won’t let me down, I want You to be my God now.” But there’s one thing you have to understand, “He who has the Son, has the Father, He who does not have the Son, does not have the Father.”

‘Member how I mentioned earlier that Jesus said Him and God were one? Well, if you deny Jesus, you’re ultimately denying God, and love itself. Because Jesus died for us, this you may have heard, but what you may not have come to understand is that He did not do it in vain. He died because every person on this planet has broken some, if not all, of the Ten Commandments. We’ve basically broken God’s law. Whether it be by lying, lusting, hating someone, envying, taking something that doesn’t belong to us i.e. stealing, we’ve all broken it. And God as the Just Judge cannot overlook crime, just as an earthly judge would be considered unjust if he let a criminal go with no price to pay. But what does God do? He says, “I love this world so much, I don’t want them to have to pay the price which is eternal separation from Me, because I’m perfect and holy, and I cannot have criminals dwelling with Me. So this is what I’ll do, since I’m the only one who has never messed up, I’ll come down to them, in a form like theirs, and live a perfect life. Then I will die on their behalf, so that ‘whosoever’ chooses to trust in My Son, will be forgiven and have everlasting life.” This was Jesus’ message, and He made it very clear. I pray you choose the Son, choose life and forgiveness, and best of all, eternally perfect agape.

R-E-S-P-E-C-T Ladies, find out what it should mean to you

Respect and women. The two words look strange together don’t they? Almost contradictory in the societies we live in today. But my, how desperately they need to mesh. 

Too many women, young and old alike, are embracing disrespect from men. Yeah, you read correctly: too many women are embracing disrespect. Men cuss around us, talk to us like we’re pirates or something, objectify us: “Dang, girl, you got enough booty to satisfy Alexander the Great.” 

And here we are, eating it up, accepting it. Why? Because it temporarily numbs (not satisfies), our desire for attention, affection, and adoration. We as women want to feel pretty, want to feel wanted, desired. What we don’t know is that our deepest longing, love, cannot and will not be satisfied by men making us objects and using us. So, who can quench this insatiable thirst for love and attention?

Precious lady, may I introduce you to a man you have yet to know, a man who calls you his, “prized possession.” A man who says you’re, “fearfully and wonderfully made.” A man who pleads, “I have loved you with an everlasting love.” And a man who gave His very life to be with you forever. This man happens to be more than a man, and His name is Jesus, the Christ. The Mighty Counselor, the Prince of Peace, the King of Kings, the Lord of Lords, and my personal favorite, Father.

He is the only man who knows the way you are supposed to be loved, the way you were intended to be loved. Here’s His advice to the fellas:

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church,” (Ephesians 5:25-30)

“Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them,” (Colossians 3:19)

Notice how all the advice is directed to husbands. Ladies, if the man you’re with ain’t willin’ to make them vows, ditch him! But let me say that terribly true saying, “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” If you’re living with a guy, allowing him to have access to your body, why would he want to marry you? He’s already getting all he “needs.” I dare you to put your foot down and set standards. Here’s a few must-haves in God’s book:

Number 1: If a man seeks to pursue My daughter, He must love Me and obey My commands and love her like he loves himself.

Number 2: He must respect her body until He vows before Me to cherish her ‘till death and make His word bond by legalizing it.

That’s really about it. If a man has these qualities, he’s a man worth spending time on. However, you may not consider yourself God’s daughter yet. You very well may fall short of rule number 1 in that you have not pursued God and can say you truly love Him and obey Him. If that’s the case, here’s some good news: anyone who calls on the name of the Lord Jesus shall be saved, and to as many as received Christ, to them the Father gave the right to be called children of God. If you ask, right now, where you’re sitting, for Jesus to come into your life and lead you, He will do so and you will immediately become God’s daughter and be “sealed with the Holy Spirit,” (literally God’s Spirit that no longer dwells on the outside, but on the inside, in your heart, to help you live the way He’s called you to).

In Christ, “old things have passed away, all things have become new.” God forgives you and cleanses you. He not only takes away your sins when you receive His amazing Son, but He forgets them! How many men can do that, unless of course Jesus lives in them. But this is God’s signature: grace. He wants you to stop accepting abuse and disrespect because He loves you and has such better plans for you.

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God,” (Romans 12:2)

May you be filled with the knowledge of God’s unconditional love for you, a love that never gives up and never fails you. 

With love,