Single Ladies: Why You Don’t Need a Man

Single sisters:
What if Jesus spoke to you and said, “Daughter, you are free to marry a son of mine, but My plan for you is to be single so you can serve Me without distraction, and if you take up this cross, I will be able to use you more in bringing many to Myself.” What would you choose?

Sometimes, we believe the lie that we NEED a husband. As daughters of God, we don’t NEED anyone, but Him.

The woman caught in adultery and the woman at the well thought they needed validation and affection from a man, but after their encounter with the Perfect God-Man, Jesus, they focused on following Him. Many of the women who followed Jesus appeared to be single, including Mary Magdalene. Did she marry after His death? I don’t know. But given the testimony about her, and her witness in Scripture, I won’t be surprised if she never did marry. Yet, she is forever recorded in history as a faithful follower of Jesus who loved Him and was worthy to be remembered throughout all of the ages.

Now some may be thinking, “Easy for you to say, you’re happily married!” But I know it’s possible, because I know a modern-day Mary, my sister, Natalia. She has been divorced for almost seven years, and has been single and celibate for five years. I mean, she has not dated ANYONE in five years. And so you know, the picture of the woman for this blog post is her. She is beautiful, inside and out, and would be an incredible wife to any godly man, but she is content. She has moments of desiring a husband, but they’re just moments. It isn’t something she thinks about or prays about all the time. And did I mention she’s thirty-two?

What is my sister’s greatest desire? To serve God. She wants to use her gifts for Him, for her Heavenly Husband. And she is content with that because she has experienced Him as intimately as I experience and know my own husband. Jesus’ perfect love has touched and transformed her and continues to. She is content with Him because she knows He is enough. How about you?

You can be an Esther, but can you also be content with being a Mary Magdalene?

Christian Women And Sexiness

As, “women who profess godliness,” who claim to love Christ, we are His leaders; we are to set the example God wants His people to follow. Inwardly and outwardly, our lives are supposed to point people to Jesus, not ourselves. 

Paul wrote about how we need to walk in love, and how if we imitate Jesus, thus walking in love, we will not be sexually immoral or cause our brothers to stumble. 

Is it loving to use your body and looks to entice a man and manipulate him into a relationship with you? If you use your flesh to snag a guy, he’s operating in his flesh, and the bible says the mindset of the flesh is death, and that those who walk in the flesh cannot please God. If you use your flesh to reel a brother in, the foundation of your relationship is based on the flesh, and thus, you’re not pleasing God, and your fleshly mindset will lead to the death of your relationship. 

I see too many sisters using their faces and bodies to capture a boy. I say boy, because if a brother is swayed by your fleshly manipulation, he’s weak or immature in the faith, and has not built up his spirit-man strong enough to resist temptation. 

Ungodly enticement is dishonoring first to God, then to yourself and others. As James says, practice true religion by being unspotted by the ways of this world. Don’t be conformed to their patterns, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. 

See 1 Thessalonians 4:1-8 and Romans 12:2.

You’re a princess of God’s kingdom. He makes you beautiful. Trust Him.

Love,

Your sister, Natasha 

Why I Don’t Think Women Should Be Pastors

The bible is clear sisters: We are not to teach or have authority over men. Being a prophetess is not the same as being a pastor or teacher. They are three different gifts. Women are taught in scripture to teach women, “for Adam was created first, and Eve was the one who was deceived.”

And I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence. For Adam was formed first, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression. (‭I Timothy‬ ‭2‬:‭12-14‬)

People who say otherwise are definitely twisting scripture and trying to make it seem like it was only for that period of time (which Paul even addresses immediately after saying women should keep quiet in the church when he says: “Or did the word of God come originally from you? Or was it you only that it reached? If anyone thinks himself to be a prophet or spiritual, let him acknowledge that the things which I write to you are the commandments of the Lord (I Corinthians‬ ‭14‬:‭36-37‬).

If it were true that Paul was only speaking to those in that time, we can say the same exact thing for ALL of scripture because it was all written thousands of years ago!

Just because a woman cannot teach or have authority over a man does not mean she is not equal to him in God’s eyes. This not being equal because of differences is a mindset of feminism. They think equality means being able to do every function a man can do. But what this difference in roles means is just that: a difference in roles, not value.

Not having the same functions in the church does not mean we are not equal. Then we can say the pastor is more important than the prophet, or the elder is more important than the teacher and thus, we are being impartial as James says, showing favoritism when God does not have favorites.

There are diversities of gifts, but the same Spirit. There are differences of ministries, but the same Lord. And there are diversities of activities, but it is the same God who works all in all. But the manifestation of the Spirit is given to each one for the profit of all … For as the body is one and has many members, but all the members of that one body, being many, are one body, so also is Christ. For by one Spirit we were all baptized into one body— whether Jews or Greeks, whether slaves or free—and have all been made to drink into one Spirit. For in fact the body is not one member but many. If the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I am not of the body,” is it therefore not of the body? And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I am not of the body,” is it therefore not of the body? If the whole body were an eye, where would be the hearing? If the whole were hearing, where would be the smelling? But now God has set the members, each one of them, in the body just as He pleased. And if they were all one member, where would the body be? … And the eye cannot say to the hand, “I have no need of you”; nor again the head to the feet, “I have no need of you.” No, much rather, those members of the body which seem to be weaker are necessary. And those members of the body which we think to be less honorable, on these we bestow greater honor; and our unpresentable parts have greater modesty, but our presentable parts have no need. But God composed the body, having given greater honor to that part which lacks it, that there should be no schism in the body, but that the members should have the same care for one another … Are all apostles? Are all prophets? Are all teachers? Are all workers of miracles? Do all have gifts of healings? Do all speak with tongues? Do all interpret? (‭I Corinthians‬ ‭12‬:‭4-7, 12-19, 21-25, 29-30‬)

The scripture makes it clear that even the seemingly less significant members and functions of the church are significant and equally important to God. And a woman’s role IS significant. We are helpers, supporters. But if we were supposed to head and lead the church, why did Christ only have twelve MEN as His Apostles? He had women who followed Him and “supported Him” financially. But they were not the ones who He chose to head the church. Also, every time Paul wrote concerning the qualifications of elders and deacons (the leaders in the church), they had to be men who were faithfully married to one wife, managing their households well. He never mentions women.

This is true equality: seeing the value in our different roles, what we each bring to the table for the other’s benefit, and rejoicing in our God-given differences, esteeming no one higher than another. In fact, I think many churches treat the head pastor with partiality and as if he’s above everyone else rather than a fellow brother, which eventually aids in his downfall. But that’s for another blog at another time.

We see the result of a woman taking authority over a man and leading him: Eve had good intentions but led her husband into sin! The bible thus warns women not to do what Eve did but to be submissive and let men lead while we support.

If you’re struggling with this simple truth, I ask you to really humble yourself and pray. Have the mindset that if this is indeed God’s will, you will trust that He is good and has good reason for it and that He loves you all the same. I pray you are not offended by His truth, but transformed by it in the name of Yeshua.

Love,

Natasha

How To Become Complete In Christ’s Love

But whoever keeps [Christ’s] word, truly in him the love of God is perfected. This is how we know we are in Him: The one who says he remains in Him should walk just as He walked. (‭1 John‬ ‭2‬:‭5-6‬)

The love of God can be perfected in us, and it needs to be. Jesus warned that near the end, “the hearts of many will grow cold.” He also said, “The world will know you are My disciples by the way you love one another.”

Love is the greatest witness of Christ. It doesn’t matter how much you tithe, or attend church service, or evangelize; without love, you’re not really effecting anyone or pleasing Yahweh.

Paul said, “the love of Christ compels me.” This is what sets apart the true Christian from the false one. All these “Christian” cults get incentives for preaching; heavenly rewards or even works-based salvation. They don’t go preaching because they truly love the lost and want them to know Christ. But when we allow Christ’s love to consume us, our witness is powerful. We look into the eyes of precious souls and they see and even sense the love of Jesus. They may not convert on the spot because it’s the Holy Spirit’s job to do the converting, but they’ve been touched by God.

In the beginning of my walk with Jesus, I was so ablaze with passionate love. I didn’t care what people thought; I just wanted them to know the incredible love I was daily experiencing. Yes, many thought I was a little crazy, but then they themselves ended up coming to Christ.

Many Christians are shy about sharing their faith. They want boldness, but they can’t muster it. Makes sense: boldness cannot be created from nothing. Boldness and passion are by-products of love. When you just pursue Jesus, wake up and praise Him for all He’s done, get into His Word, pray to Him, be intimate with Him, just draw close to Him, your love grows. And that love will compel you to share Christ with others.

When I first started following Christ, I would pray that He’d help me fall more in love with Him. He honored that prayer! I myself need to start praying that again, for a greater understanding of His love so that I may always be complete in Him and a powerful witness.

Ladies, if you are in a relationship or married, remember how much you pursued spending time with and getting to know that man? You made time to be with him and even put your friends and family on hold so you can just hang with this guy. I know I did that with Jonathan. We saw each other five to six times a week I would say and hang out for hours. Then, when we weren’t together, we were always talking on the phone or texting.

We need to do that same kind of intimate pursuit with Jesus. Then we will really grow in our love for Him and we won’t lack a thing. We will be so content, so filled with joy, people will think we’re crazy, but they won’t be able to deny the love. So what are we waiting for? Let’s start passionately pursuing Christ today.

Praying for you,

Natasha

God’s Will For Women Hasn’t Changed For Us Living In The Millenium

For thousands and thousands of years God’s commands for His daughters have remained the same: help your husband, be submissive to him, love him and your children, and take care of your home. But for the past century—if that— we’ve been steadily redefining a woman’s role in the church and in society. Many professing Christian women cringe at the thought of, “just being a wife and mother,” though many desire to walk in those roles, and others think they want both plus career.

The excuse I often hear is, “Well we live in a different culture and time.” But since when did Yahweh ever tell His people to conform to the culture? Were not His laws to the Jews so utterly counter-cultural and His commands always to be separate from everyone around them?

For we are the sanctuary of the living God, as God said: I will dwell among them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be My people. Therefore, come out from among them and be separate, says the Lord; do not touch any unclean thing, and I will welcome you. I will be a Father to you, and you will be sons and daughters to Me, says the Lord Almighty. (‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭6‬:‭16-18‬ HCSB)

I have given them Your word. The world hated them because they are not of the world, as I am not of the world. I am not praying that You take them out of the world but that You protect them from the evil one. They are not of the world, as I am not of the world. (‭John‬ ‭17‬:‭14-16‬)

“If the world hates you, understand that it hated Me before it hated you. If you were of the world, the world would love you as its own. However, because you are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of it, the world hates you.” (John‬ ‭15‬:‭18-19‬)

Adulteresses! Don’t you know that friendship with the world is hostility toward God? So whoever wants to be the world’s friend becomes God’s enemy. Or do you think it’s without reason the Scripture says that the Spirit who lives in us yearns jealously? But He gives greater grace. Therefore He says: God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble. Therefore, submit to God. But resist the Devil, and he will flee from you. Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, sinners, and purify your hearts, double-minded people! (‭James‬ ‭4‬:‭4-8‬)

Let’s linger on the James passage. Notice how he says submit to God, but resist the devil. The Apostle John affirms:

We know that we are of God, and the whole world is under the sway of the evil one. (‭1 John‬ ‭5‬:‭19‬)

Catch that? The entire world—that means everyone who is not a Christian—is under Satan’s influence, and we are commanded to resist him. But how many of us daughters of the King are allowing ourselves to be influenced by the feminist movement which is now completely under Satan’s control? It began with Christian women desiring a few rights, but now has branched off to its own secular movement and its ideas are not biblical.

So again I ask, for what, 6000 years or so, through many diverse cultures, God has had the same commands for women, but now suddenly He has a different plan for us living in today’s age? He wants us to be go-getters, climbing career ladders and using birth control instead of getting married and raising children?

How dangerous to say God’s Word was for then but now His ideas have changed with the culture. Did not Christ Himself say:

For I assure you: Until heaven and earth pass away, not the smallest letter or one stroke of a letter will pass from the law until all things are accomplished. Therefore, whoever breaks one of the least of these commands and teaches people to do so will be called least in the kingdom of heaven. But whoever practices and teaches these commands will be called great in the kingdom of heaven. (‭Matthew‬ ‭5‬:‭18-19‬)

Pure and undefiled religion before our God and Father is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself unstained by the world. (‭James‬ ‭1‬:‭27‬)

God’s Word is consistent and unchanging. He is not influenced by fads. He has clear plans, purposes and functions for women from the first woman to you and I today.

What are you saying, Natasha? That I should be a home-body until I get a husband?

No. Do the work of the Lord, not the world until God does place you before your future husband. I’m not saying getting a job to help your single mother or struggling parents is satanic. I’m saying seeking to make a name for yourself just because you want to prove you’re independent is. Remember, satan is all about self: self-help, self-esteem, self-success, “controlling one’s destiny,” self, self, self. Christ is all about walking in dependance of the Father, submitting to Him and letting Him lead.

We must examine our hearts. Do we desire what Yahweh has clearly shown He desires, or do we desire what the world tells us we should desire?

If you aren’t a wife yet, don’t worry about it. You’re Christ’s bride; serve Him. If you are married, but struggling with desiring career (not the same as ministry) or feel insignificant being “just a wife and mom,” check your heart. In fact, check God’s heart on His will for wives. Do a study through the bible on wives and see what you find.

May Christ convict and heal anyone reading this right now who needs it.

Praying for you sisters daily,

Natasha

Short Devotional: “Sisters, We Need A Mirror.”

Your decrees are wonderful; therefore I obey them. The revelation of Your words brings light and gives understanding to the inexperienced. I open my mouth and pant because I long for Your commands.

Make my steps steady through Your promise; don’t let any sin dominate me. (Psalms‬ ‭119‬:‭129-131, 133‬ HCSB)

Do we agree with the psalmist? Do we know how truly wonderful the word of God is? Do we grasp that whatever confusion or darkness we may find ourselves stumbling in, God’s Word sheds light and gives understanding? And are we as desperate for His Word? Do we long for God’s instruction, digging into it daily?

God’s Word doesn’t just give us understanding, it makes our steps steady. It helps keep us from sinning. Some of us are sinning without really realizing we are because we haven’t yet seen that God’s Word condemns it. We must understand as the Apostle James did, that the bible is a mirror. If we are sincere about following Christ, we will look into that mirror every day to make sure we are walking worthily of our Savior and King.

So I encourage you sisters, get into God’s Word. Let it renew your mind that you may be transformed into the princess of Christ He designed you to be. Godliness equals power. The holier you are, the more powerful your witness is to the lost. Read your bibles, pray about and obey what it says, repent if you need to, and let those lights shine today!

What Do You Think Of What The Bible Says On Singleness?

I’m curious to know what you sisters think of these verses, particularly verse 40.

“39 A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. 40 *But she is happier if she remains as she is [single], according to my judgment—and I think I also have the Spirit of God.* (‭I Corinthians‬ ‭7‬:‭39-40‬ NKJV)

Please leave your thoughts in a comment.

Much love to you,

Natasha